Could you ever be friendly with the person your partner cheated with when the affair was over? Just curious.?

Sofonias	no! i may kill the peroson.

Ambition	No way.

Elated	I befriended my husband's lover...after I left him. I felt sorry for her.

â™¥The Mrs.â™¥	Only if she didn't know he was in a relationship.

Caitlin	The only way i could is if the other person didnt know that the guy/girl had a relationship. But most likely hell nooo

Aranio!	Definitely not!

manda	Goodness no! Maybe acquaintances but that's it. I have forgave girls for trying to get in my husbands pants.I wouldn't however be there friends.

*Î¹ Î·Ñ”Ñ”âˆ‚ ÑƒÏƒÏ…Ñ Î±Ñ‚Ñ‚Ñ”Î·Ñ‚Î¹ÏƒÎ·*	Depends. If they didn't KNOW they were the "other" woman, sure. But if they knew about me and my guy and still helped him cheat, I'd hate them both.

Socialbutterfly	Once a cheater always a cheater, once someone betrays that one individual will betray again.

Mr. G	It is not easy! It takes a lot of inner strength to be able to look at someone who you kow your apouse has been intimate with.

kim h	I would not think so but the partner is the one that is the cheater. People take them back and them blame the other person.

myopinion	I couldn't. If I were The Other Woman I don't think I could answer the questions either. It might happen that they become friends, but I don't think good enough trust could happen that they really could.

Karen	oh yes. I am friends with the girl my exbf cheated on me with....but she didn't know about me. I even attempted to be friends with another girl who did know about me...but she had too many issues. The key though is that the bf is an EX.

msims52	I would just as soon shoot her than look at her. So the answer to your question would be a resounding NO WAY! And oh yeah, are you crazy to even ask that question?!!!!!!!!!! Tramps like you deserve to grow old and gray all alone.

Chantale	Of course not. Emotions would be running to high. Not to mention if she was able to do stuff with you man, knowing he was taken, then she's a complete b*tch and doesn't deserve a drop of your respect. Hope I helped you! -Chantale

dolphin_chic_15	why would I want that person in my life? If my bf cheated, him and her could go f*&% themselves, I'd never have anything to do with either again. Not that I'd waste time hating them, but I'd keep my distance for my own mental well being and happiness. I'd move on.

jude	no u couldn't especially if it caused a divorce, and even if u reconciled with your partner, why would u want to be friends with someone who was a reminder of what happened. i would think u would just want to forget the whole thing, without being constantly reminded of a past heartache.

mew	some people can get over it...like if the girl had no idea he had a girlfriend, then once they both got rid of him maybe they could both sit around talking about how big of a piece of **** he is and laugh at him for being bad in bed. but if she did know, i'd throw them both under a bus.

Carol	I don't understand, but i'll try my best to answer. Now. If your partner was the one who your asking could you forgive them, HELL NO ! If your asking if you could forgive the person your partner cheated on then yes. But it really depends, if they are REALLY sorry. Some people are only sorry because they got caught..

Taurean W	If the other woman didn't know that she was the other woman to this particular relationship, I couldn't see that the two women couldn't be friends. Not only do these two women like the same style of man but they both appeal to that may so there are some similarities between them. Friendships and love tales have been forged by worse.

Solstice is Just Passing Through	People are just...people. So, why not? I could -- in fact -- be quite friendly with anyone my ex was intimate with. We could probably share some laughs and might even become friends!! I see no problem with that. However. My current spouse was once unfaithful to me. I've seen the woman, and I'm not really jealous of her, but FRIENDLY?? I really don't know. She knew of my existence, and chose to participate in the cheating, anyway. Probably low self-esteem on her part... Could I ever be friends with her? I honestly don't know.

seriouslyshauni	My boyfriend cheated on me, and afterwards, the girl apologized to me. Now her and I are really good friends! if that counts? It took me awhile to get over, but I felt a relief after talking to her about it. My dad cheated on my mom when I was really young, they divorced and now my dad is married to the woman. It was really bad at first between my dad, step mom, and my mom. But now they are all really close, and get along and keep in contact all the time. She talks to them more than I do!

boxer	i actually know (3rd person via my partner its his buddy). Anyhoo, buddy cheated, he met online, gave false name, said he was single etc started seeing this woman for a year. got found out, wife and mistress got in touch kept liasing became friends. Marriage has been on the rocks since. he has never cheated before. blamed lack of communication and intimacy. Anyhoo wifey keeps taking him back and then causing him no end of grief, he is trying his best to make amends, however she keeps in touch with the mistress. I think she will never move on and rebuild the marriage in any form all the time the mistress is around. I couldnt stay friends, how could you knowing she had been intimate with your guy! seems sadistic to me.

Sue C	Why in the world would any respectable wife want to even see the person your partner cheated with let alone ask questions? What kind of questions would you even have for a person of that caliber?! I once met the female my ex husband cheated on me with, wish I never did, because I just couldn't understand the comparison of the two of us..like nite & day. I use to run into them tho from time to time, not knowing who they were until "after the fact', but he cheated on me constantly, we lived in a small town, his home town, so he knew everyone & I didn't. I later found out many times he had so spent the very nite before w/this one or that one. It was a total embarrassment tho & did hurt me MANY MANY times. There would be NO reason whatsoever to subject myself to that on purpose tho. She would be my very least favorite person to say the least...:(

V_Dragon	If she was unaware of the spouse then yes. My sister became friends with many of the girls that her ex cheated on her with. One is her best friend today. The good thing about it is if she didn't know then you guys might have a lot in common depending on the man's variance of taste in women. If she DID know I would want to ask her a bunch of questions then ***-slap the hell out of her. She's be a homewrecking ***.

amyhpete	I couldn't -- and I know from experience, unfortunately. My husband answered my questions to my satisfaction so I have never felt a need to contact the other woman. I have a friend who was a man's first wife and mother of his kids. Her ex is now on his third wife. My friend is now good friends with wife #2, who did cheat with him and was the cause of the divorce. They both can't stand #3, who has been a part of dude saying he didn't want to contribute toward his kids' college because of his own expenses and that now that his kids are almost grown they have to initiate a relationship with them. Ahem...anyway, I have seen where it's possible for a wife and mistress to become friends but from the one experience I've had, we were friends before and now I don't feel hostility toward her or anything -- I want her to have a good life far away from me and farther away from my husband.

*Astro*	Well as someone who was cheated on, I have never been able to be friends with "then" partner's mistress. Unfortunately she was my friend at the time and we ran in the same social circles, but once I found out she actively pursued then seduced my partner the friendship was over. After about a year after the event - we were both still being invited to the same parties, so I had to become more civil to her, but I was never overly friendly again and our friendship didn't rekindle.