DO you feel that not putting on weight and maintaining your looks is a wifely duty?

phorwanted	The same for the husbandly duty! We all owe our bodies the very best care. Take care of it...it takes care of you, that goes for marriage too.

tiny Valkyrie	Absolutely not. You have an obligation to YOURSELF (and your children if you have them) to stay healthy and take care of yourself. For a spouse it's a consideration, not a duty.

"what the"	Well i think that its a major part of a relationship. I think you should at least try to keep up with the person you were when he met you. After all that is what he fell in love with in the first place.

frankb1124	When you got married did your husband think that you were going into a time capsule? Your duty is to yourself to be healthy and maintain your self respect. If you became disfigured because of an accident would that mean all bets were off? If a marriage was based on not changing physically over the years there wouldn't be too many married people in the world.

luva_gal_18	well i try but it is hard i can say i don't think i have gained any..it is hard to keep up woth him though he has a six pack and i have a little flab...but he says i don't but i know i do lol...i weigh around 145 and 5'3" and 19yrs old....and he is a soldier so he works out every morning!!!!!!!

Dolyn	No. I don't have any "duties" as a wife. I love my husband, and that's all he expects of me.

amazing_creation	You have a duty to yourself to love, protect and care for your own body. Eat right, maintain a healthy weight, etc. Take care of yourself and your appearance. Your wifely duty is to respect your husband and work as his lover, his personal cheerleader, his children's mother, etc. Being your husband's lover involves making yourself attractive to him (within reason, of course). But, yes, you're expected to make the effort - just like you would expect him to do.

shell	WIFELY DUTY??? What the h*** is that? Not putting on weight and keeping up your appearance should be something you do for yourself; thus seeing the confidence, pride, and beauty you hold will be a turn-on to him and a show of respect to your partner. If you love yourself and take pride in your looks others will see that and feel good about you too. To do it for others alone seems like selling yourself short. Is it a duty? I should say NOT!

cobblejoe	Yes. It's also the husband's duty to keep fit, keep up his appearances and look good for his wife.

Cure for your blonde addiction	No not a wifely duty but one you should do for yourself.

Mrs.G-unit	I feel my duty as a wife has nothing to do with weight, I feel my duty is to be the best me I can be, and hopefully he will benefit by osmosis.

Erin	Hey there, no, I don't feel it's a duty to someone else or a "wifely" duty, but I feel it's a duty to myself. And I think that it's important and a duty to love eachother unconditionally. We can't stay young forever, for example.

know-it-all	no but i do want to look good for my man

Tina	Wifely duty? NO It is a duty to yourself as a human being to exercise, try to eat right and stay healthy.

Dark Logic	Well sure keeping yourself thin a looking beautiful is something you should do if you want, but only if you want it. Don't do it for your husband, do it for yourself. It's more like a treat for your husband.

tillymint90	no certainly not if he didnt like you he shudnt have married you he shud take you and love you no matter how you look

hebgbs00	No....there are no wifely duties...if there are...then there are just as many husband duties. It applies the same to both. If you gain weight, and you don't like it, fix it...vice versa for him too....If he doesn't like it...then he can help you and together you work on it (of course that could be very fun).

~leaving traces~	I think that my wifely duty is to stand beside my husband come what may, and support him in all things (unless it's immoral or illegal..LOL) Looks come and go. We are ALL going to get older, and looks won't matter so much anymore. I don't get into the "wifely duty" thing much, though. I shouldn't have to if we have mutual respect, we should do it all because we want to...not because we are "obligated" to.

Mrs_Oz Pregnant with #1	yes and no you should do it more for yourself and your health but I still feel it is important as a wife to maintain yourself

Pollywog	It's a duty for both spouses, if one starts getting fat and sloppy in their appearance, the other is going to feel let down and less attracted.

RED	Say what? I think to let yourself go is wrong just because you have children and/or have gotten your man. To say its a wifely duty??? NO not anymore than having a husbandly duty be the same kwim? I think we owe it to ourselves to like what we see in the mirror every morning. If we like it then that is all that matters.

LIN	yes i do, i say keep up your looks for your man, and that should never change.... i do believe that being a trophy wife is something that goes along with being a wife... and yes, even if you decide to have children or have had some....

Happy- Go	not a wifely duty just something you should do for yourself !!

curiouscanadian	Yes I definitely do but that goes both ways though!

iyamacog	Has nothing to do with 'wifely duty'. It depends on KNOWING who YOU are, and how you feel about YOURSELF!

heath e	lol Those who think it is do not know what a marriage is. Heath

gladewalker69	Really does depend, but you should want to look after yourself.....

Sunshine	I feel that is a partner's duty - I do it, and I require that my man does it too!

Sexy Homer	Of course. Who wants to be married to a fat cow?