Did I do the right thing? Ending my marriage after 3 weeks?

tjnstlouismo	I would make an appointment with your doctor to have your head examined. Is this how you want your daughter to see you? I have no idea why an intelligent woman would do such a stupid thing, but get it annulled and quickly. Before he destroys your life and all that you have worked for.

vee	Show the BUM the front door you are fixing to mess your life up forever

peggin_beast	Why did u marry him? no, 3 weeks isn't a bad time to end the marriage. ask for an anolment and make sure you sue him for child support.

Greed...Is Good	You know the answer already.

Dani Bosco	Yes you did. Don't let him back in the house. Maybe the $250,000 is Monopoly money. or money he won watching game shows. GOOD LUCK!!

Anita	Absolutely!! You made the right decision! You're a very smart woman!

xxxxxxxxx	Yes, absolutely, you did the right thing. Don't look back, not even for a second.

lil_britches2003	3 weeks was way to long! Yes, you did the right thing! He was definitely using you. Keep 3 of his changes of clothes though so you can get a little back of what you gave him! A place to sleep, a car to drive, food to eat, a computer to contact his women on....And tell him you can do something about being fat, but there is nothing he can do about being a loser!

Zac	You have to ask? If 1/4 of what you say is true then yes you did the right thing. He is the loser not you.

need answers	He doesn't sound that great for you or your daughter. What is he teaching either of you? That's it's okay to lounge around the house and not help support the family. No cooking meals while you're at work busting your hump....no cleaning.....come on.....no woman deserves that and no child deserves to see their father be so lazy. Men are supposed to be the superior type.....not in your situation. YOU are and you should be proud. You are doing the right thing in my opinion. YOU deserve someone who will do things for you and with you. Good luck.

mathma2	YOU DID THE RIGHT THING!!Good for you.. don't let him in for too long or he'll end up thinking he should get half of everything you have worked your *** off for!

momoffour	Yes, you did the right thing. He was using you.

Rebel Angel	first of all i must say you can't say he's just playing the system Alot of Disabled People You wouldn't be able to tell by the outside that they are. I know that for a fact because i am disabled. but if you were to see me you wouldn't know it cause i don't look disabled so that's not a fair Judgment I have Been disabled since birth. But you wouldn't know it to look at me cause i can walk and talk and do a lot of things that everyone else can But spend a day with me and you will know. I have medical Equipment that helps me get through the day I have a walker a cane and a bedpost beside the bed so i can get up and down off our bed I have a raised toilet seat and grab bars and a bath chair so i can get in and out of the bathtub on my own but it don't show on my face. I look like any normal person. So Stop Being So Judgmental of Disabled People I have assesments and doctors letters that say i Can't Work Cause of this disablity . A part of it is a sezuire disorder i have tried working but after about 3 months or so My sezuires Started to Come back and after about 3 or 4 different jobs with the same result I decided that though it's something that i enjoyed it's not Worth My life Nothing is But the Damage that the disabilty has done is 99.99% Internal. I've been hospitilzed a lot because of the sezuires . I'm Glad My partners not like you that way But it don't show on my face . Quit Being So Damn Judgmental Of Disabled People Did you ever think he could be reacting to that He might be and he might not be

JORGE C	Girl i think you made the best choice of your life .why would you want a guy like that who thinks you fat thats not nice .also if he doesnt work and doesnt even say anything to you hes just wasting your time .you can get any better than that .is good u let him go it doesnt matter what you a long as your happy .he was just using you to feed himself and never do anything..

The Princess	My God, when you married him didn't you know he was disabled and what his income was? This does not sound like a good situation to me, but I can't understand why you didn't know these things before you got married. You better divorce quick before he runs up a bunch of debt and you're responsible for it.

ravenmoon06	I think you did the right thing. I've been married 3 times. I have had a husband like yours. A marriage won't work if both parties don't work together. marriage is a partnership. Sounds like all he wanted was someone to support him. He's a grown man and you have to put your daughter before any man.Sounds like he doesn't take your vows seriously. We all make bad choices. That's what makes us human. But you have to do what your heart tells you. Besides everyone can't be wrong.

letterstoheather	Do not let this man back into your house. Your self-esteem must be suffering hon... otherwise why on earth would you get back together with someone who abandoned you 10 years ago? Doesn't make any sense to me. You are MUCH BETTER than this.. you deserve someone who has goals, life plans and who respects themselves... a person who doesn't respect themselves, doesn't make a good partner... and will never respect you or even their own child. And he's deceitful, also, from what you say. take care of YOU. you did it for 10 years, and i'm sure that you will do it for 10 more... meanwhile, i'm sure that someday when you least expect it, you will meet someone who is worthy of your companionship.

The Sun is Shining â‚	Divorce him already! Cut the losses before he maxes your credit cards/drives up your bills/borrows thousands and disappears, etc., etc. You have a life and you've made it on your own. You deserve way better. You'll meet someone eventually who will be a real partner to you and act like a real dad to your daughter.

coast2coast5150	don't waste another minut with him - get your annulment and tell him goodbye for your own sake before he wrecks you in every way emotionally and mentally - maybe physically and monetarily

m	I don't wish i was him,but do wish i was in the position he was in a nice family,a caring woman.Why would you have a man like this in the first place,you managed all this time without him.Are so alone,that you will take the lowest kind of man on the list? I am asingle, divorced father of 3 and lonely,but not enough to accept just anything or anyone.Get this loser out and continue with your lives.Good luck

crazylegs	Kitty Cat the mistake you may have made was marrying this user at all. If indeed he is as you stated than both you and your daughter will be much better off with him gone. Best of luck.

cope_acetic	Meet him at the door Sunday, and say, "I'm sorry, but you are no longer welcome here." Then hand him his 3 other sets of clothes and tell him to hit the road. You sure don't need a loser like that!!

iyamacog	The first mistake was marrying him. He's not only working the system, he's working you as well. How many more issues do you need to see to believe that he does NOT belong in your life. ........Let alone in your home.

timtodayandyesterday	Amazing in another question about cheating people all scolded about 'remember your vows', but now they don't seem to apply? It really appears your ability to make good decisions is clouded. The right or wrong thing might be the wrong question. What lead you to marry him and why did you feel that need. Knowing why you do things is better than wasting time looking back to see if it was a good/bad decision. The decision doesn't matter, the follow thru does.

friendsseason9	well, he is very very practical person trying to take advantage of ur emotional nature the relationship u got out of 10 years ago, how can u enter in same relationship with so much blind trust? is it that u didnt find anyone in 10 years whom u can trust? if thats the case, forget about 10 years, u wont find anyone whom u can trust in coming 10,000 years. wake up, only one life to live There comes a time in life when u must stop doing what is comfortable and must start doing what is right. U have ur own answer I bet. Just look deep within u, and whatever decision u take, be careful that u think of all around u, ur parents, ur friends, ur partner, ur children and think how it would affect everyone its time to be resposible for ur own actions...face it

CC	You should have never married him , if you did not after 10 years becouse he was not around , are you right for ending it yes .

hyabusawife	Change the locks and get the divorce proceedings started. file a child support claim as well. This guy is a loser.

Freedle S	Marriage licenses should require a test. You both would have failed. fs

Shavon	You should have never married him, you two didn't know each other anymore, alot changes in 10 years and it is kind of like you married a stranger and just expected it to work out. You did the right thing by ending it but you shouldn't have done it to begin with.

jhardinmom	Have you heard yourself? Just think about what you ould tell your daughter to do in the exact same situation. Sounds like you were doing just fine before he came back.