Do I leave or do I stay? PLEASE HELP? Please ONLY SERIOUS answers!?

tantalizin1	I think you should stay with your husband and try to make things work. He sounds like a great guy and he loves you. Mrriage is for better or for worse. I think everyone who's married feels like they wanna "get out" sometimes but strong couples stick through it and try to work things out. Pray and ask God to help you. He has the answer to EVERYTHING you wanna know. Good Luck to a happy marriage. You may THINK you want to be with the other guy, but it may not be all that it's cracked up to be. He may have changed a whole lot. If you got a good man , then I suggest that you keep it. The other guy may not be as good. WHo knows, his wife may be going through pure hell with him. Would you want to go through that or be with a man who gives you the world?

j3z7kd1j09aj	ok listen to this. i know you may not believe in my religion (Islam), but listen anyway. God told us about tricks that devils do to seperate wife from her husband. every time you see your husband you feel disgust, and you don't know why. don't listen to your wispers and don't listen to yourself. you love your husband and stay with him. Say these words three times. " I am seeking God to protect from wispers of the Satan"

Fyn	First of all, if you're living with someone that makes you depressed, you shouldn't be living with him. As nice he is, if you feel you can't live with him for the rest of you life, you have have to break up. Go out with the guy you like from your highschool, if you feel more comfortable with him then you do with your husband, talk to your husband about it, if he is really the perfect man, he will understand how you feel. Plus, you have 3 kids, you can't just leave them for a guy you liked in High School. You don't know what you've got until it's gone. That's all I have to say. Hope it helped. :)

TRIX	I found out I always want what I cant have. I have to look at whats good for the whole picture. Sometimes what I want and whats good for me are two totally different things. Write down the pros and cons of both relationships to see if it helps. Good Luck!

Violet Pearl	Stop it right now and get a grip. Go to your doctor and see if there's something physically wrong with you that's causing you to feel bad. If not, stop indulging your silly school girl fantasies. How dare you go meet your former lover- who is married! How dare you endanger your 3 kids and HIS family and wife. You should be ashamed of yourself. Pull your socks up and stop feeling sorry for yourself. You need to STOP STOP STOP messing with someone else's husband and focus on your kids. Get a hobby. Get involved with the PTA. Go to marriage counseling. Go to the gym. Frankly my dear, you SHOULD be depressed and crying because sniffing around a married man (don't care who he used to be to you) is wrong and you know it. You'd be happier if you stopped acting like a lying cheat and stopped talking to the other lying cheat. And this is a serious answer. You STAY and think about your kids, not your own stupid little fantasy life that involves destryoing 2 marriages.

Quasimodo	The minute I started reading this I said to myself.."Myself...she has someone on the side". Typically...I was right. So...the man who has been faithful, worked to keep your kids clothed, fed, supported and nutured you through pregnancy and such isn't good enough anymore. But the old high school boyfriend is now? You should be ashamed. You are not a fit parent nor fit to be the wife of your husband anymore. I find this type of conduct distasteful and your whining "Please help me" revolting. You'll do as you please. You're looking for some half-****** answer to justify your stepping out and having an affair. Well...it will not come from me. Begone.

marie	I know someone in a very simular situation she decided to stay with the man she was with that guy was great, but it makes her sick to be anything close to intimate with him, but she made a commentment with him, This was also between her current man and high school sweety of 6 years!!! You need to make a chose that works for you, If there is no way working things out with your husband then u need to make a desion and an important one go with your heart.

katjha2005	That happens.. but think about it before you make any final decisions... everybody thinks about what might have been... but the life that might have been might not be what you think it's going to be... if you are that unhappy with your husband.. then I would talk to him about and maybe you guys could try and separate, or try counseling.. but I would be careful before you make any final decisions because that guy may not be the same guy you knew in high school... It's your decision to make, but think about it before you spend your whole life with regrets... not being with your high school sweetheart, or leaving your husband for some man that could be crazy, abusive, any number of things..... In the end though only you can make your decisions.

K.C. Jean	My husband and I have been together for eight years. I have learned that, through all we have been through, that being honest with each other is key. Those feelings your having may not even be about him but rather something going on inside of you. Maybe you are just not happy with where you are right now in your life. Either way, I would let the old flame go....getting back together does not mean you are going to go back in time and have the wonder and love of high school love again....and concentrate on your kids and other activities outside of the home that make you feel more whole. Once you are happy with yourself and a busy person, then reevaluate. By then, it may be easier to decide. Through the past eight years my husband and I have had a lot to deal with and a lot thrown our way. We don't always feel like we know the answers but I always feel I can turn to him and share and he helps me find them.

beachnut222000	are you sure this isnt just high school crush coming back - is he serious about you - is it worth hurting your husband, kids, and yourself when you jump into a past relationship that may only be old puppy love... its up to you , pick one, but do so with caution - you know what you have now - u may not get what you expect the other way - be careful and good luck

llliljess	I believe you're looking at your high school sweetheart with rose colored glasses. Have you tried to spend time with your husband without the normal every day ocurrances? I'm not married but from what I've seen with my friends and family everybody at some point doubts whether they should still be with the person they married. You're thinking of the now, but look into the future and what could happen not only in your life, but your children's.

Friends Forever	hi what kinda justice are u making to ur hubby? whats the respect u have for the person who cares for u somuch. and for ur children? or is it that u r so selfish that u can think only about ur feelings for ur highschool sweetheart that all good deeds also faded. y dont u think maturely,, is it not a temperary phase in ur life,, the feelign that u r having for ur highschool sweetheart, is life all about ur highschool sweetheart,, and what certainity do u have about ur future there after,, think over rationally,, its always better to be loyal to the loyal

quick_sand	one could say you made your bed now lie in it....you should have thought about that before you said I do, and had kids....seems like you got married young, and are still stuck in the highschool era....I am sure both your husband and the guys wife would be really hurt if they knew about you two, and quite frankly, it is a bit selfish on both your parts....He didn't love you enough to remain hs sweethearts now did he, he married someone else didn't he, you were easy to forget then, and ya'll are excited with the danger aspect of it....think it is time to grow up....you can't have your cake and eat it too....

Tricia P	Hi... I would suggest you stay... you do have a family and the grass is not greener on the other side. The distance and lack of intimate feelings are normal and every relationship has a rollercoaster effect. Especially when you say "he is EVERYTHING I could ask for" Don't throw that away.

Monty L	You have serious issues and need a lot of help.

debbie l	is that old sweetheart willing to leave his wife for you? if so..you both need to go for it...but remember the children are the ones to suffer at first..it takes time for them to get use to a different life..be patient...love is beautiful if you finally find the man of your dreams..if this is him...go for it...don't waste your time being lonely anymore...good luck

mayihelpyou	I think you need to grow up. You are married and so is he. If you two are serious about each other.. get divorces and move on. You are being totally unfair right now as you are not being honest with the husband you have. Are you sure its not just the excitement that you miss? Try putting some back into the relationship you have first and if that doesn't work. Move on.

WonderTwit	You are feeling unhappy because you met up with your old love. You are wondering what you may have missed. And chances are probably nothing. Be grateful for what you have. Try marriage counseling and see if you can get to the true root of the problem. But don't just drop this man because of something you "think" you might want or may be feeling. Lust is powerful and can make you think you are in love.

tigerr222	u better talk 2 him or u will end up cheating

diamond s	okay if it was me in your situation i would have told my husband that i need some time off and then think about what you are gonna do if you really love this man then you should just go eith him not being mad at yourself cause you dont now what to do follow your heart

a1_friend64	Thats the problem , you feel like you should be with this guy now and feel it would be better off with him ,sounds like you have a good man now and grass might not be as green on other side as you think it could be.

Skuya!!!	I don`t what he looks like, but maybe thats it. ask him to change his appearance, cut and shave, new clothes etc. good luck,

witch4ever1	If you are asking if you should leave then you probably should. I just left a relationship that was very much the same. I waited for 2 years wondering, but now I think about all the things I could have done if I had left when my heart first told me to.

fally	I think that when you love someone you have to go for it. As long as there are no children in the relationship , then i think you should be with the one you love, but i just think you should make sure that hes commited and your relationship will last. i also think that if your losing feelings for your other guy , you should make a chart and just see who was there for you more , who hurt you more . things like that and then make your decision.

sweetme	sorry you should stay with your husband and tell him what's bothering you theres ways to fix things so you can be happy again I know from experience as far as the other your playing with fire

jimi	you need to go the marriage counselling, TOGHETHER. voice your feelings to your husband. you cant expect him to know what you're thinking (he's a man, after all). communication is key. also this depression - is it post-natal? stress? i think you need a holiday, and maybe some therapy.

rosie	Life is short. Do what you need to do to be happy.

dwh12345	Go with your heart..Present marriage is history

david UK	do what is right for you,good luck