Do I tell her her fiance is a cheat?

notyochic	don't get involved bad Carma! nothing stays buried what ever he has done will surface and everything will be reveled to the one hes done wrong! besides who to say she will believe you anyways like you said you are not close to her and maybe someone has told her i cant believe she hasn't a clue!

Violet Pearl	Your boyfriend really has no spine, does he? You might want to think about that a bit more than other people's business. The fact that he isn't man enough or lacks the moral conscience to say anything to his friend should be a big red flag. You have no solid proof or evidence of his cheating, nor do you know for sure she doesn't know. She might but not care.

Anon	tell her, i think you would be the best person to cus of the fact that there is no direct link between you both excpet that your boyfriends new her, i think she would find it harder coming from someone who is mutual friends because it should have come from them earlier. Ideally it should really come from the fiance but dont get involved with him cus the slime is likely to try and come between you and your bf

rn2656	your right it is not your place, keep your mouth shut. she wont believe you anyway. she will find out on her own, in her own time

Khrystal	First I would make sure that I have all the facts and that I truly know he has cheated and it's not just hearsay. Then I would go and speak to her. I wouldn't even give him chance to fess up. He had his chance to do what is right and he chose to cheat anyway. If he's a cheater and she KNOWS he's a cheater and she marries him anyway so be it but she needs to know before she marries him.

awftx	Best to mind your own business.... If everyone knows except her, then let someone else tell her.... you almost sound like you'd like the opportunity to cause them / her some difficulty...... One thing for sure.... he won't be your bf's friend after YOU tell her.... so, leave it alone.....

spoky	Why do I get the impression you're one of the ones he's cheated with? And I'm guessing your boyfriend knows, but doesn't want to know. And your sanctimonious tone is a bit unconvincing this time around...

Junk!	If I were her, I would want to have all the facts and make a decision for myself.

Elsie	I'm sure you are of the school of "Well, if it were me, I'd want to know." First, not everyone feels that way. They want to be blissfully unaware. I'm sure this girl has to have seen clues that he's been less than faithful, but she's choosing to believe the lies for whatever reason. Now, try to put yourself in her shoes. Even if you would want to know, how would you feel if someone you don't know that well was the person who told you? If she's in complete denial, she may think that you're jealous and trying to break them up, or that you want him for yourself. If this were your sister or best friend, I would say to tell her, but it's not worth it for you to get involved. You don't know her well enough to foresee how she would react.

Candi	Before you say anything to anybody I think you need to find out FOR SURE if it's true. You don't want to get their marraige off to a rocky start if it's all for nothing... However, if it is true then she def. has the right to know. She may not believe you, so I would suggest having someone really close to her tell her instead. She is more likely to believe her lying fiance instead of you...but she does have to know. It's up for her to decide...but she has to know what's going on first.

leerus	Yes tell him the truth

AsseT	If you aint close, then tell her! What do you have to lose!

audreymcmarlin1985	My husband had actually cheated on me before we were married and my best friend knew and never told me... I am no longer friends with her... and my husband has been faithful since our vows, and if he ever does he knows I'll divorce him for everything he has. Part of me doesn't blame her for not saying anything because it wasn't her "place", but I felt pretty damn betrayed by her and couldn't care less whose "place" it was. So from a personal standpoint.... she should know. You could drop off an anonymous letter or call her from a payphone. No one has to know it was you. Best of luck to you and the "bride to be".

Missy Me	If she asks you, sure. If she doesn't that is not your place or battle. If she is not your friend, it would come across as offensive and an attack. What you can do is pray. Ask God if it is meant for her to find out, ask Him to reveal it to her or allow it to be reveal with love. That leaves you out and puts it into the right hands.

True	Personally speaking (and I know I'm going to get thumbs down cause people hate this) I would stay out of it. There is a lot of pain that comes with finding out that the love of your life is cheating on you. Sometimes the pain outweighs the actual benefit from telling the partner. Although I believe that once a cheater, always a cheater there are cases where men have changed after major events in the relationship such as marriage or having children. The Life Coach on What Would You Do? was talking about this because this one woman didn't tell her best friend that she saw her husband cheating. The best friend wanted to know for sure since the woman is pregnant and she didn't want to cause so much hurt. I think that you can talk to the guy and tell him how wrong he is but other than that, seriously consider her feelings and how much pain she is going to go through when she finds out before you say anything. Edit--I think its really wrong of women forgiving their spouse for cheating but then ending a friendship because they chose not to hurt you. I would have ended the marriage...not the friendship.

catman	When my first wife cheated on me, my best friend knew about it and never told me. Needless to say I divorced my wife over this issue and several others. Also this so called best friend and my friendship ended shortly there after because he said that "he didn't want to get involved". But when he cheated on his wife, she came to me for advice!

ladysteelersince1976	If everyone but this woman knows about his activities, I highly doubt she is totally in the dark about it. And seeing as how the two of you aren't close I would have to tell you to not tell this woman. Chances are she won't believe you. If the two of you were tight then my opinion would be slightly different. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

Have a GREAT day!	I think you should tell her and save her the heartache

Joey	I would give the fiancee a chance to confess on his own and if he chooses not to or tells you he isn't going to then I would go to her and tell her.

Beiger	I wouldn't be able to do it if i wasn't close with her or bearly even knew her but if you're planning to do it make sure you know he's definetly cheating and it's not just hear say.

Selvaggio	Hmm, you asked this question almost the same a few minutes ago except he was hitting on you. Are you sure your not boinking him?

?exotic export?	How do you know that he's cheated? Did you catch them or is this just hearsay? As the other woman, I would not feel comfortable hearing such news from someone I didn't know. You never really know people's reactions and how they will feel towards you. So what I would do, is talk to my boyfriend about it. This is serious because they are getting married soon but how does everyone know this but her? How do you know that he hasn't already told her this and worked it out? You have to play your position and not get involved for the time being. If it really is bothering you, than maybe you should write her an email or a letter annoymous, you don't know her that well to call her up and start a conversation about her fiancee cheating/

alf	You should talk about it near her close friends and they will tell her for you. But yes she has the right to know. I'm very happy that you are an understanding person and look out for other people even though you don't know them.

free_angel	Stay out of it. Let someone else do the dirty work.

God Bless America	Write her an anonymous letter or e-mail if you know her address. Let her know before she makes the mistake of marrying the two timer. Ask her for lunch and tell her that you really don't want to hurt her feelings, then tell her. Call her parents if you know them, and let them know so they can confront her with it.

Sandy Ego	You really believe that you know her b/f better than she does? I'm willing to bet she has a pretty good idea of what he's capable of. If I were you, I would stay out of it; the messenger gets shot more often than not.

RetroBunny69	when you tell her, you need to be clear with her that you don't know if it's a fact or not and it's for her to decide.

Fireball226	I would tell her for her own good...wouldnt you want to know if you were her?

Tamiri	I'd want to know! Especially if I was going to marry the creep!

chik7896	Well you need to tell her fiance that he needs to speak the truth to her, and if he doesn't you will.