Do Men Change???

ninedemonsgod	"I will change" = "Let me figure a way to manipulate you"

kattt	he is obviously jealous and insecure but feels that if you get married you won't be able to cheat on him, but I don't think that this will ever change, its been 3 years like you said!

Sean J	It won't change just because you get married. Deal with it now. Go talk to a councilor together.

WhtAPerson	dont thnk so

Pete	I think that if he is insecure about your exes now, getting married will not change it much, then again, maybe in his mind getting married makes you his property so he would not worry so much. Will he change and be nicer after marriage? maybe he will not bring up the boyfriend thing, but if you both are fighting over other things, that will not change, it will get worse since he seems to want control of you. No, no one changes because of a little piece of paper called a Wedding Certificate. They change because they want to. If he wants to change he will, or he will be the same as he is now. What are my feeling to my wife after I married her? they are the same as they were before we were married. nothing changes, except our ages and the the color of our hair!

sweetu	may be

Laural	NO!!! RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IT WILL ONLY GET WORSE!!!!!

berry	Most of the time they change for worse not better.

?	Everyone changes men are no different we are all human.

free_angel	If he has a problem with your ex's now, he's going to have a problem with this after you're married. He should love you unconditionally right now and enough to not be bringing this up and letting it go instead. Marrying him isn't going to change him.

brighteyes62301	If he is fighting with you over your exes now he will do it when you are married. Marriage dosent solve problems. If he cant love you unconditionally now he won't do it when your married. Marriage is not a fixer upper for problems. You must solve the problems before you get married.

spyderman1212	i think we all change, but maybe the longer you are together, the more confident he will be about your relationship. his jealousy over your exes is because he lacks self confidence.

emmaray2005	your b/f shouldn't be bringing up anything from your past its none of his business he should be grateful that ur honest enough to talk about your past does he have ex g/f he brings up do u get pissed and if u don't why should he is not loving u now unconditionally so whats going to change after the knot has been tied. sometimes men change for the better but most experiences i,ve been around they get worse nothing should ever be thrown up in your face run run as fast as u can

DRAG RACER 7	"EVERYONE" changes after marriage! Sometimes better, sometimes worse. The manner in which U 2 deal/w the changes will B the determining factor that makes R breaks your marriage!!!

lost'n'found	Whether you marry him or not... He will change just like you will as well. In this particular case though, I think, you want to watch him for some more time before you make a decision about marrying him. He seems to be a very jealous person and I am careful with jealous people. They say that they will change but they never do!

irbid_mix	It is almost impossible to change a person, but I tell you from my own experience, a person can learn and adapt to his partner and make sure to avoid the things that upset him or her, and try to please the partner with the things he/she likes. That is if and it is a big IF the couples are willing to put their minds into it.

Hea Dude !	Yea up until the 7 yr Itch.Then be careful ,remember it

jethrobodean1234	do you cheat if so no

Krysten O	I think they do

Â¤Â§ DÃ£rkness WÃ£nderer Â§Â¤	oh boy, sweetie.....first of all, you cant "change" anyone, only HE can do that. and honestly he doesn't sound like a great find anyways...why is he so worried about your past something you cant change..while we are on the subject of change. if he's going to throw your past in your face every time you have a fight, i would think about finding a more secure bf. being married is not a magic wand...it wont magically make him different. they point is...why don't you find a man you aren't constantly dreaming will one day be perfect.

ampotratz	If your boyfriend is not committed to change NOW while you are dating, he will have fewer reasons to change while married, so the answer in your case is probably not. However, if he has shown you that he is willing to change and you are confident that he can/will, then he most likely will continue that pattern in marriage. Based on what you wrote, though, I don't think he will change if you two get married. The fact that you're questioning him and wondering this leads me to believe that you don't think he will change, but you seek confirmation that he will from someone here on Yahoo! Answers.

butterfly	ok look i have been with someone for about the same time and honey he has not changed thats why i am getting a divorce. but its up to u so good luck. my man did the same thing with my exs and he still does.

IceHammer	Men mostly remain the same.. Its practically very difficult to change them, although u may have a successful attempt at this, its really something that, i personally don't think happens... If he really loves u, he'll change for u... chill..

shankar G	gals are gals, women are women. but................

lmdragonldy	You need to take a good look at that person you're about to marry and know, what you see is what you get. Getting married won't change anything about anyone and really shouldn't. Getting married doesn't change who you are, it doesn't work that way. If he's making promises now, actions always speak louder than words. Sounds like he views you as personal property and a license seals the deal. If he's jealous now, he'll be jealous always and that has nothing to do with you. He needs to work out his insecurities before he can ever believe he's worthy of anyones love. Take a better look at your relationship now because that's what it will be down the road.

bonecrusher	You are trippin' or inexperienced if you think people change because they rarely ever do; not in my experience anyway.

Auntie	SHOES DON'T STRETCH ----- AND MEN DON'T CHANGE !!!!!

pasha	yes they do, i am a man and i know that if there is any body in our life that we really love that one and that one shows us that he/she loves us too , then her or his thoughts and behavior can have a lot of influence on us, we may show ourselves so fixed in behavior but in reality any little real emotion can Chang our personality.

mrgadmail	They All Say They Will But the true thing is NOT

Velken	I think he's hoping that it will be better after marriage cause he'll have a ring on your finger to shoo away any other guy. But if he REALLY loves you and wants marriage, I think he needs to get over the jealousy issues now. If you have never cheated on him or given him a reason to be paranoid, then he's being way too insecure. If its not fixed before the marriage, it won't be after. Please don't think he'll just turn into a different person suddenly. A wedding is a commitment, a bond, a couple rings, and a piece of paper. Its not a magic wand that suddenly wisks away all his insecurities. My sister in law and her husband battled with this issue for years. They ended up divorcing, then remarrying a few years later. But before they remarried, he had to get his act together and stop being such an insecure man when she was nothing except 100% faithful to him. So love him, but tell him you don't want marriage until he can put this behind him. You want to start off your married life happy and healthy, not always wondering when he'll bring that up again. Its the PAST!! He needs to put it away and stop dragging it out just to torment you! If he cannot, the he needs therapy, or you need a new guy. Marriage is hard enough without going into it with issues already.