Do you feel that 3:00 a.m. is an acceptable time for a spouse to come home from the bar?

Anirbas	It sounds to me like you're looking for something to be fishy. Ask him about it, no confrontation, don't accuse him of anything. When I have a problem with something my hubby has done, here's what I do: I wait a couple of days, that gives me time to cool off and not come at him angry. Then, in an off hand way, I'll be like "hey, what was up with you coming in so late the other night, I was a little worried." That way if he didn't "do" anything, he doesn't feel like you're being psycho about it.

youthpastor1955	A spouse has no business being in a bar with out his spouse at his side. It is just trouble waiting to happen. Not only is the temptation there, but it looks bad as well. I never wanted to go to a bar without my wife. He should have done the "alone at a bar" routine and gotten it out of his system before he got married.

mizzhollywood26	He could have just been hanging out, nevertheless, whether he really was or wasn't, that's too late.

D.C	It does sound like something is going on. But don't accuse him immediately. Ask his coworkers if he really was with them and if it's true then you're fine. But if the coworkers said that they weren't with him, ask him. Sit down with him and ask where he was. If he uses the coworkers as an excuse, tell him what you found out. Don't be afraid to ask him theses questions because in the end, you'll end up hurt if you don't find out what's going on.

Ladii Spyda	12 hours is a long time 4 someone 2 be together if nothing is going on..check his ***..things start of simpl 1st..then end up on a whole other level..

â˜ â˜ â˜	Probably just means he was having a good time and needed it. I wouldn't worry about it at all especially if it was just one night. Everyone needs to go out and party every once in awhile.

Missy	So not good. Total disrespect. My boyfriend would NEVER do that to me, nor would I do that to him. I seriously doubt he was just having drinks in all that time. Confront him. If he does not care about your feelings I would seriously evaluate your marriage.

Tadpoler	Well, my fiancee and I have an agreement that we will be home by 3:00 am if we are out with friends. Is this the first time this has happened? I would not make a big deal out of it. Leave it alone and see if he does it again.

shuk	Mem, Stay cool and patient if he did. Meanwhile try to make him more comfortable to come back early coz he might some outstanding matters or feel not comfortable at home. Well its all yours. Regards

buttfor2007	If you were less of a nag, more respectful, and more affectionate, he would not seek outside activities.

autumnbrookblue	well at least he came home when the bar closed.. unless you perfer that he not come home from the bar/

Katester	Ever so often (like twice a yr maybe... lol) ok... he could have too much to drink & was being responsible... give him the benefit of the doubt... If he does this all the time, I would sit down and talk to him... or why not join him at the bar for a drink...

Dfirefox	Try it out on him,stay out late with no explanation of your whereabouts,and you will find your answer.Sounds like you two are roomates,not mates.

Tam	No its not acceptable and its disrespectful too. He needs to come clean about what he was really doing. I truly hope he is honest. Good luck darlin!

Blue Foots Eve	I'd say it's not a good sign. If he wants to go out then he can ask you to go with him. If he has issues with that, then tell him to do it one more time with out you and he won't have a reason to come home, because no one will be there and he can do wtf he wants.

Angelbaby7	NOT good or acceptable, either. He HAS GOT ALOT of explaining to do.

beachlivin	not good

pufferoo	Go with him next time.

your_fantasy87	Yea i would be angry and ask him what the hell he was doin! And why he didnt try to contact you! Thats really not acceptable!

Mr.Sleepy	maybe he is just hanging out w/ his friends n playing video games? lol. i dont think it is accceptable unles it was work

pete	i wouldn't get away with that sh!t. but then i wouldn't want to. if i was out that late i would probably be with another woman.

drama.princess4lyfe	ummmmm.... NO! your husband should not leave you for a bar and come home at 3:00 am. Thats just wrong. if he is with you, thats one thing...... but if he isnt, that could be another. depends on what kind of person you know him to be. and to me, he doesnt seem so great. =(

Dee	No, I don't even think it's acceptable for a spouse to go to bars with "coworkers."

kcbeason7	my husband would be out on his butt.i believe if your married you have no bussiness at any bar with out your spouse.

Laura	Yeah, sounds fishy to me too. Esp. if it's a regular thing. Were the co-workers he supposedly went out with married? Why didn't he invite you along?

Bucs Fan	Doesn't sound too good to me...

wiseolguy	sometimes boys will be boys.......it may be nothing. If he would have asked you if he could stay ouy that late, what would your response be?

Answer!!	you mean a.m - confront him - ask him if he was cheating - and tell him to get his sorry @ss home on time!

ranch_tester	Sounds like the both of you need to set some boundaries on behavior. There are certain rules of engagement when it comes to married life and staying out until almost 4 in the morning is not part of the typical agreement. Tell him you are not going to let the same dog bite you twice. Unless you are next to him at the bar, thats not going to happen again.

miget2max	unless he was with you...bad news babyyy