Do you think it is a good idea to live together before marriage?

Nancy M	Living together before marriage can sometimes ruin a relationship. I have known couples who had lived together before marriage and now they are divorced. My son and his wife had lived together and now married. They have been married now for almost 11 years.

stanlin	I didn't used to, now, absolutely. People opt for divorce too easily instead of working through the normal process of two people living day to day lives under one roof, more like roommates than an actual couple who made a life long commitment. That just doesn't seem to mean anything to young people anymore.

Kat	If you have been together for 3 years, then there is no reason to wait any longer, and no reason to waste any more time moving in together. Just GET MARRIED!!! What are you waiting for? I know this from experience, and I am your age, and at this point, it would be a waste of time and prolonging the commitment that you guys have already put off. Why live together and not be married? Just sign the piece of paper and make it legal. I don't think you should wait any more YEARS to get married either. Especially if you want to live together. I planned my wedding in two months. Just do it!!! Don't move in together.

HEATHER M	Yes i do, both my son & daughter lived with partners befor getting married, my son went out with his partner for 10yrs then they moved in together they split up within a year.

fragglerockqueen	No. I don't think it's a good idea for a couple of reasons. One, it's more mysterious/ exciting to explore a new life together. Two, who's gonna buy the cow if they're already getting the milk for free? They may decide after a "few years" of living with you, that they want to try something (or someone) different. If your already married, though, the other person has more of an incentive to be faithful and try to work things out. Unless, of course, you already have children. Children seem to change everything and people are always willing to work out a relationship (if at all possible) just for the sake of the kids.

mlb	No. Because there wouldn't be a good foundation so the marriage will most likely fail. If you value this relationship you wouldn't jeopardize it.

Robbo_Robin	Absolutely! You really cant know someone properly until you live with them, even though you may think you know all there is to know about that person. If you do this after you are married, its too late! But I suppose it boils down to what you and your family/peers, are comfortable with. x

gcason	No. People who live together before marriage have a higher divorce rate. There are several studies that show this.

JM	a lot of people say no and things like "the divorce rate is higher if you live together first" which is actually apparently true but i lived together with my hubby 1st and i would still recommend it. i think it's just a good idea to know what you're getting into! it's really stressful to have a new marriage and adjust to living together at the same time and can cause fights. i thought the transition was super smooth because we had already lived together best wishes

Misty D	Absolutely. You can only really get to know a perosn if you're living with them - their little habits that could drive you crazy could also be relationship breakers if you TRULY can't deal with them....but you only get to know these things by living with someone.

lovely garl	well if you relly love each other that you cant stay apart yes. but i will think it good to be patient and save that for ur marriage life. you are still going to live together till death do you part anyway.so why rush into it.gud luck hope it helps.

Someone	Nope that's not good !

AlexisM â™¥	Definitely a good idea!

vidia	theres good and bad: Good: no what they like, what they do that annoys you, and if you can actually stand them Bad: you might find out you dont like them

?	Co habitation actually reduces the odds of your making it down the aisle. You need to have something left to look forward to. If things get too comfortable, he's not going to have as much incentive to pop the question sooner rather than later.

groovychick449	I think that is the more ideal way to go. A lot of break-ups happen due to bills, ways of living etc. So you've gotta see if you can put up with him basically! lol.

breezinoz	Best to know what its like before you tie the knot...your decision really. GOOD LUCK!!

jes.swade	I would, You should probally get used to being around eachother all of the time so you are already used to it if you still decide to get married... good luck : )

Toni O.	probably not...it's still safe to keep your virginity...

Dart Swinger	Yes. You never really know someone until you've lived with them.

Princess	modern days, living together before marriage is quite common. as long as your religion doesnt go against it or your parents. its a good thing coz sometimes you hve to live with him before you see his other side

David P	Yeah, it's better than going through a messy divorce if you realize you guys can't stand living together, there's nothing wrong with it, it can only help matters.

Steshha	Yes! Definitely. You don't want to get married and then move in with each other and realize you can't live with each other.

vezovaio2002	no! that ruins the excitement!!!!!!

Just me	I don't think it is a good idea.

Dezz	Yeah its a good idea

Anon M	Yes! Practice makes perfect.