Do you think that when you are married your husband or wife should emit control over what you can and cant do?

chiefsonlygirl	control, what are you a dog? NO, your human and it should be a give and take from both sides, its called compromise, and respect,

anbrbo	that's a tough question. no but sort of. marriage involves a lot of compromise, but that shouldn't be about control, per se. neither party should feel controlled in any partnership, if that's what it is. unfortunately some marriages involve a power-imbalance in which one party is dominant over the other and controls their actions and life. all I can say is that's not the kind of marriage I want for myself. you have to decide that for yourself; but I think you'll be happier if you feel you have control over your own life, and whether and when to make compromises for the other person because you love them. good luck, I know I need it too!

IMOK	Absolutely not. All marriages need respect and open communication.

just_shaye	hell no. you are your own person on one should tell you what you can and can't do. and if a man is you need to beat his face in if you need help i'm in clover sc

Trapped	Marriage is about, giving taking, communicating, listening, compromising, and working together as a team to work things out. Control is not a good word of choice I feel. Nobody wants to feel controlled. Nobody should be controlled. But there should be boundaries that both parties should agree on and worked out until it is resolved. Good luck. :)

LadyE	It shouldn't be about control, but about mutual respect, wanting the best for each other, and a "policy of joint agreement" in matters that affect them both.

purple_rme	your husband should give you some control. he cant tell you what to do. he dosnt own you!

barbdodge49333	This is a hard question to answer not knowing all the facts. Sometimes spouses may ask us to do things because they are concerned for us. (not going out at night alone, staying out of dangerous situations, that is not control but concern. I would say that in that case they are simply stating their wishes and I would respect them because I wouldn't want them to worry. If your spouse is saying you absolutely can't do something and it is an unreasonable request, it is a problem and could be the early symptoms of emotional abuse.

Jennifer	marriage is teamwork, it shouldn't be a control situation. If you don't agree with something the other is doing discuss the way you feel, but let them make their own decision. If it was meant to be, it'll all work out.

nisey513	No, absolutely not! If your husband or wife is doing something that you would rather them not do, talk to them about it. Let them know how you feel about that situation. If they respect you, then they will respect your feelings about the matter, and you will be able to work it out like a husband and wife should be able to do. Good luck!

mars1012000	contol can get out of hand to the point where it is nuts or sick it is best to have a balance so both r happy

mgray1981	Only if one provides all the money for the house... No, I don't think anyone should be controlled. If one party makes all the money they both live off of, which ever way it may be, then yes what they do should be limited to their allowance.

sweetapple250	In marriage your wife or husband should not be trying to control the relationship. How has this been going with you in the relationship of the marriage. You dont have to take this. You two need to have convestion one trying to control both in the marriage. Everyone has there own mind to make for there life. Let the other person know how you feel about it. I would not take any long. Tell me this person has not put hands on you if so you need to get up and leave the person right now. Learn to think for yourself.

Me	No...The couple must learn to live together in harmony, and to work together as a team. They should share their concerns and the events of their lives and always show affection to one another