Does losing strip poker constitute as cheating if the spouse isnt there or doesnt know about the game at all?

misguidedrose18	I'd say any time a person in a relationship is naked in front of someone he or she isn't dating, and the other person doesn't know, there's a problem. She obviously has no trouble stripping in front of anyone, any time, at all. The whole situation seems fishy, really. She betrayed your trust, absolutely. If you think she can ever do anything for you to trust her again, give it a shot. If you can't get over it, then break up and move on. Seems like a girlfriend naked in front of people other than you is a good enough reason for a break up.

volleyball head	im sorry but i think so.

MICH	I think you should be honest with her about how you feel.

Moondog	Try to get pictures.

stpayne55	How long have you 2 been dating? that really does constitute what you should do. I've have many girlfriends who did a lot of stupid stuff within the first couple weeks of dating, probably because we had only been dating a couple of weeks. I have been dating my current girlfriend for 4 years and we are both in college now. If she were to do something like that, it would be a huge issue, whereas if she were to do it in the first couple weeks/months, it wouldn't hit me as hard. If you have been in a relationship for awhile with her, i would say this is an outcry for something new or exciting. If your relationship is relatively new, than i would do 1 of 2 things. 1: Explain to her how it made you feel. See if she responds with any kind of sympathy, and if so, give her ONE more chance. 2: Keep your pimp hand strong and find someone else. Hope this helps.

BeLiZe Gyal	i can see why you would be upset.....she was only with 2 other people and nothing happen....i don't know if you should be that upset.

...	"Jesus said, If you look with lust.You have already commited adultery in your heart."

mushpuppie	Yes, sorry to say it would be considered cheating and i feel bad saying so. But you sound as though you are a great guy who loves his girlfriend and you should be proud of your beliefs.I see she came clean and told you after the deed, but was she regretful?, or afraid you would find out elsewhere?If you want to try trusting her again then let her "EARN" your trust..if she loves you she will.as far as what you should do, that depends on your true feelings for her and hers for you.. I'm sorry to hear of such a great guy that you obviously are being done wrong by something so stupid and petty as "strip poker"..She should count her lucky stars!!!!!

sophia_of_light	Yes it was a nono, but you have a couple of great things going for you that you fail to see, they are that she is honest, she has a consciens, and that she loves you, also respects you enough to face the heat of truth. Forgive her, no one is perfect and we have to make mistakes in order to learn from them. Tell her she is no longer to play unless you are there playing the game with her!

Adrian	Hi there, Tell her to put the boot on the other foot "would she like you to play " ( strip poker ) if she weren"t there? The crying thing is also in my opinion is not on because she is diverting your attention from the issue at hand by using "emotional balckmail" ask her if she where crying when she stripped in front of this other guy?. And also when she called you "full of remorse" ( was she telling you before anybody else could ? ) as it makes no sense buddy. ' Everybody makes mistakes and they need understanding and forgiveness when they are geniune about themselves it's up to you to decide whether to forgive her or not.. good luck buddy..

Chloe	If your a little mad about it, cool off for a little while. And if she's truly sorry then you can forgive her. She probably was a little drunk and didn't mean things that she did. Just give it time, and see what you and her feel about the situation =]

J~Me	Oh my I would be mad too. At least she feels bad about it. Just think she felt bad about it. If she didn't think it wasn't cheating she wouldn't feel bad right? In my opinion, be glad that is ALL that happened and tell her you disapprove of behavior like that. Ask her how she would feel if it was the other way round. Good luck.

blapath	She told you and she felt bad about it. So you can be angry and you can feel bad, but you can also forgive her. Everybody can do stupid things some times

Linh Thi	Well, she's sorry and didn't do anything physical so just let her know you're upset and to not do it again. It's still flirting, still not something she should be doing, but it's not like she had slept with the guy and there were other people so it's not like she stripped for the guy who was there. I say forgive her in time, let her know the boundaries though.

Aussie 1	Big no no in my book too. If she knew she COULD lose, she shouldnt have participated. At least she told you the truth. Let her chase you for awhile so you know how sorry she really is.

Flipper	Dump her. Your trust was betrayed. She should know better than to play strip-poker with "some guy" there. If it was all girls, I wouldn't worry about it. But "some guy"??? That's a breach to trust. The fact too that she actually got naked should worry you. She could have just left before taking off the final piece, or just simply refused to take it off at all. That she showed no modesty should concern you.

jautomatic	she's not your property. So what if someone saw here nekkid. She has the same parts as all women I assume. Naked is no big deal.

pa625	obviously the thought of even playing that game turned her on take a que from that. unless she can count cards her chances of getting even semi-nude was a reality. in my opinion its enough to dump her over. c'mon some other guy saw your girl naked! think about it.

jake	kid her about it when you are in your rocking chairs.

Yvette D	I think she should have a little more respect for you and for herself not to be in situations like this...Her friend might not be involve with someone but, she is and she should value her relationship alot more than to show her body to someone else....I understand how you must feel but, you need to sit down and let her know how you feel...I don't think its something where you should consider leaving her but, she really needs to know that this isn't want you want or expect from a girlfriend.....I hope things work out for you either way...Godd Luck***

Unique&Clever	I think that when you're in a relationship with someone you shouldn't put yourself in a situation that might make someone think that you are cheating or would cheat. Being around naked people doesn't make you look innocent, that's for sure.

rexxyellocat	Then why she did not quit before betting to loose, or why she accepted it in first place? That is not all or nothing game, she just made a striptease actually... I sense that she is not fully happy with you and still look for other enjoyments and then feels sorry. She could call you to ask before playing such game or she could invite you too. But did not. I sense a betrayal here. I would not trust her anymore or be very cautious for the future.

justme	I wouldn't call it cheating but it was definitely wrong on her part and it seems like she knows it. I do agree that she should lose a lot of your trust on this one. It's not grounds for a break up but she has a lot of work to do to regain your trust. If she's worth it, she'll learn from this mistake and prove to you that she's sorry. If I were you, I'd be stand-offish for a while until I calmed down. By the time I completely calmed down and started to move on (which could be a couple of months), I'd know if she were worth me sticking around for. PS - If that is the whole story (and it might not be, she could be only telling you half of what happened to read your reaction) give her a second chance. If not, I'd move on ( 1] for lying, 2] for doing something she felt she had to hide from you). If she cheated on you now, next time will be easier.

Zaferus	As long as there was no touchy touchy I wouldn't be too freaked out. But it's good that she's feeling guilty about it - it shows that she's not ready to take it to a level that is cheating. All the same, if she's willing to "make it up to you" I wouldn't be complaining too much!

Jeenie	...HMMMM are you sure you weren't the one who ended up bucket naked infront of your friends? lol (kiddin'). If I was in your situation, I would put myself in her situation. What would you have done to avcoid ending up in that situation? Have you ever done somthign to betray her?. Cheating is not about what's right or wrong for the outsiders, rather what's right or wrong in YOUR relationship! take this for example, there are millions of swinger couples that are ok with their life styles, but if I was to do as much as glance at another guy( and get caught lol)...chances are that I would not hear the end of it from my boyfriend. If you have an open realtionship, this should not affect you at all, I know if would not affect me. Is not like she touch or was touch by anyone, or kissed any one in there (Or is it?) I want to think that if she was honest enough to tell you waht happend, that she did tell you the whole truth... and in that case WHAT'S THE BIG FREAKIN' DEAL? ppl se us naked all the time..Or did u seriously think that a bathing suit actually covers you girl's body?.(specially when the water is really cold lol)