Guys I need your advice! If you were in a (live-in) relationship for 3 years and the girl decided that you?

kram k	baby some guys are afraid to commit. I have a son the same way. He is on the 30 year plan. His gf and him will live together for 30 years before they get married. They have been together for 4 years now. The question both pardners need to ask is, "Do I really love you?" Don't fight about it, but talk about it with each other. Take time to think about what life will be like once you have gone your separate ways. The biggest thing is, don't fight about it, talk about it. good luck

o0_gandayan_0o	Pressuring someone isn't really a good thing. Although, he should be proposing by now. I think there are many things to consider also. Maybe he is planning on a new career or maybe there's something that he needs to do before committing fully. There's also a chance that your boyfriend do not believe in marriage. There are many people who thinks marriage is overrated or just a paper you sign infront of a priest or judge. I was in the same situation as you a year ago. My husband and I are very much in-love with each other. We lived together for 2 years. I have been constantly asking him about marriage but he insist on not doing it because he thinks marriage is just a piece of paper. He also said it will never change our relationship. We finally decided last year to get married, although he still believes that. Anyways, if I was in your situation, I would not date him anymore, maybe you love him, but if he isn't giving you what you want like the marriage thing, or fully committing to your relationship, then maybe he's not for you.

luvin_lyfe22	okay. i can tell u love the guy. i feel that in a sense ur right and in a sense ur wrong. Wrong because u kind of pressured him into it. Maybe he was lookin for a perfect time and place to propose. But i mean after 3 yrs id be pissed 2. Right because if he didnt love u the way u loved him then he wouldnt have moved in with u. he should of proposed long time ago.

kz	You made the right decision. He's not ready to tie the knot and you apparently were. If he felt like you were pressuring him, just say you released the pressure by letting him go.

John W	I doubt that I would live with a woman unless I was married to her, but if she dumped me no way I would be seen anywhere close to her. He sounds a little undecided about where he wants to go in life, in general. If he hasn't packed everything up yet, do so and put it out the front door. I'm not sure one who is wrong or right in this situation but I don't think it would work. Leave him and find someone who will fit you and your life.

[Gone]	If you wanted to get married then you did the right thing. You have waited long enough.

The High Flying Freedom Frie	I have never wanted to commit to any of my past girl friends. Retrospectively, I realise that it is because I did not love them enough for that. I think you are right to kik him out if you are after a life long commitment.

April	If your desire is to be married, and this guy isn't ready after 3 years, then I'd bail. Marriage is not only a civil contract, it is a social expression of love and public committment. It says we are a team, and it says that our children come from a union of committment. If you want marriage. he ain't it, tell his so, and get on with your life. Watch and see -- he'll marry the next lady he dates!!!!!

iceberg	Been there done that! BYE BYE. ADIOS ,etc. He is not ready and is NOT the the one! Why should he " buy" when the milks free? Good Luck!! Get out. It will hurt, he will be missed... or move on.

been there	you did the right thing, you stood up for what you believe in and now he will see that there is no one else out there for him like you, and when he comes back I bet it will be with a ring and a proposal but you'll have to make the decision whether or not you want to take him back.

JCman2010	The thing about this is that u shouldnt hav kicked him out just bcuz he didnt propose to after all this time. When the time is right, he will propose to u. I knew a couple who dated for 7 yrs bfore the guy proposed, the time just has to be right.

Dominika	Maybe you should take a break from each other and date other people. If you guys end up back together then it was meant to be. You can't force someone to do something they don't want to do and if you did you would hate life with this person b/c they would be unhappy. A break from each other will tell the truth rather or not you are meant to be. If they miss you enough.....they will have time to think about life without you and may decide to get hitched after all. If not then move on.

cadillac grills cadillac spills!	and action 5 4 3 2 1 wow it as right what u did hes a *, just get a guy that can treat u right and that he would not be a cheap **** 2 not buy u a engament ring and CUT thats a rap

totally confused	Girl don't even waste your time with this brother, he clearly doesn't anything from this relationship, if you had to convince him to go ring shopping with you then he's not worth marrying. It will only get worse for you. Cut your losses and move on.

gxsilver1	Tell her to get a life and that shr lost the best thing she will every have,There more fish in the sea.

glass man	why buy the cow when you get the milk free?

Cybeq	Honestly you never should have started living with him but what's done is done. You found out that the guy is scared of commitment. If you can kick him out of your place then you can get along without him. Finish him off by dumping him and get on with your life.

redpeach_mi	if you don't want to be with him, don't be with him on any level. if you continue to sill date him, he is still getting what he wants without the commitment. 3 years is not that long. it takes some people longer to make serious commitments. if you think he's worth keeping, try to be more patient. if not, kick him to the curb and move on.

The Big Shot	Dumb the loser. He probably has a white girl on the side.

Karyn B	Probably not. It seems that you want the commitment and he's happy where he is. Obviously that's not a compatible relationship and you're unhappy because of it. You should consider looking elsewhere for someone who is more compatible with your goals in life instead of trying pressuring someone who isn't to marry you.

me	You have the wrong man. If you spend that much time with a person, I think three years is enough to know whether to move on or not. I hope you didn't support him too (that's a different story). You can find someone else who will show you the emotional support you need and cares about you. Good luck, you can do it!

Massive Mann	My wife and I " Dated " for 6 years before we got married....give it a chance...he'll come around

mickey	I think you did the right thing. If the guy doesn't want to marry you, and you have strong feelings about it, then you really did the right thing. If he cannot commit, then why should you keep on living together?

biggity_baseball_bat	if u get married, b prepared 2 make a lot of his decisions

BBFH420	I think first you need to find out the reasons why he is not ready to propose. Maybe they are valid and the two of you could try and work something out until he is ready. 3 years is a long time to throw away.

osageavenger	you have to realize that marriage to guys means no more hanging out with the guys,it can be real scary.but i think you may have done the right thing.if he loves you more than his Friends,he will go through with it. also you must realize,after you are married you go into a new tax bracket.not as much money at the end of the year

someDumbAmerican	You were practically married already. You need to be bound in a legal contract to feel like you're in love? That's sick. Call him back and ask for forgiveness.