Guys, help me understand..?

U is for Uranium	He's using another tactic. He's hoping you miss him so much, you'll take him back after you "secretly" discover he's considering marriage. If that's the only mail for him you got, he's already changed his mailing address with all of the other places he gets mail from. Why would he not change it with the church as well? He's trying to rub salt in the wound and hopes you will put up a fight to get him back. Hand him the letter, appologize for opening it, and simply tell him congratulations on his wedding plans. You not giving 2-sh*ts what he does will make take him down a notch. Show any concern and he accomplished his mission â€“ he got you second guessing.

lost2day	..........manipulation, or a cry for help. Perhaps he`s regretting his past behaviors, he showing you what he`s about to do. He`s throwing the cards on the table, so to speak. I don`t think he wants to marry her. He`s unhappy, that`s no doubt in my mind. But stick t your guns, it`s over. Don`t give him the time of day, you don`t have any ties with him....like kids??? So why pay attention to his stupidity??!

vhesponage	Well, hopefully by now you realize that he is NOT normal. He is childish and a whiny little baby boy. Ignore the letter and pretend you never saw it. Even if he tries to be coy and ask about it. Just say, "Uhh. I don't know what you are talking about."

Chance C	I think there are two situations, but the first one doesn't really make sense. The other 'lady' is living with him and doesn't know that they are getting married. So he sent it to your address? <== Thant's the part that's confusing. or He want to be a little drama queen and he can't handle that you don't want to be with him so he is trying to rub it in your face by getting the letter sent to your address. I wouldn't bother his high school drama if this is the situation.

William	Round file.

clemenza222	That is not normal. He is still bitter about the divorce and he is not over you! He is being childish and I'm certain the letter was mailed to you on purpose. Whatever you do, never mention it to him or any mutual friends that you may have. If you do, it will give him the sick satisfaction that he is looking for. Stay strong and go on being happy!

Slevin Kelevra	another concrete reason for me never to get married.

No one	He is trying to make you jealous and seeing if that would push you to come back to him. If he indeed purposefully mailed it to you. Consider it a desperate act by a desperate man. It is good that you are ignoring him though. Take time to yourself and have fun. You will come through this on the other side smelling like a rose.

Share	He's not normal. . . ignore it and be happy that he's going to be someone else's problem. Maybe he'll finally leave you alone. I went through a similar issue - my ex didn't cheat but after we were done, he kind of tried to "hang on." One day when he asked me if we could get together sometime and "date" (he knows I have a partner) I asked him what the woman he was currently dating would think of that. . . he had no answer and hung up on me. It took a long time for him to "hint" again that he wasn't over me. It's been two years and just last week he asked if I wanted to date. . .he doesn't bug me but he does drop it on my once it awhile. It's not creepy - just annoying and I'm sorry he can't seem to get over me. Have pity on this man and get on with your life . . .or more so, have pity on the next woman he has "chosen to spend his life with!"

stockoslayer	He has an obsessive disorder apparently. Just ignore it and go on about your life.

Danielle R	if he purposely mailed it to your address then he could ahve done it for one of 2 reasons - 1) he is trying to ge a rise out of you because he has feelings for you and figures that if you react and are hurt and upset by his upsoming wedding plans then you must still love him too. or 2) he is trying to get a rise out of you and make you feel bad and hurt you just because he's a loser and he gets pleasure out of seeing your pain. congrats on being divorced from this guy because sounds like he is not good enough for you anyways. my advice is ignore the letter. throw it out and act like you never saw it. when someone wants a reaction out of you for whatever reason, if you don't react, they might eventually back off.

HUSSLA	now that you opened his mail (I'm sure it wasn't accidental, but you can keep saying that), either throw it in the garbage or return it as wrong address!

Becky	throw it away, don't think about, don't call him about it. he's not worth your time. if your happy the marriage is over, then move on. don't open mail addressed to him in the first place. if you don't care, that shouldn't be hard to do.

Me	Just ignore everything and move on. Don't stress over him

djmixah7	he doesnt have an obsessive disorder its not even close to that. he is simply trying to make you jealous and want him back, just ignore it thats all.

JustMe	Sounds like he had his cake and eat it too. Now he want you to bake a new one. Silence plus kindness kills, ignore him, you will be fine. God bless!

Michael M	It sounds as if he is experiencing conflicting feelings. On the one hand he wishes he hadn't blown it and he wants to be back with you. On the other hand, he feels a need to show you that he can move on and get along without you. Normal? Well, I give people a free pass on irrationality within a year of getting divorced ;)

kurt.biewald	no clue if someone is mean and vindictive then you are better off without them anyway, you said you didn't want him wish them well, and try to mean it

J Doe	He is playing games w/ you. Mail a pamphlet to him on faithfulness & marriage. Look up Bible verses & mail that to him & his future Bride. If he did it to you, he'll do it to her. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

CURRIEND	He isn't normal. Just ignore it and put it behind you. Be the big person here. Do what you were excited to do . . . move on to better things.

Captain America	I would have assumed it was a mistake if it's the same church where you guys go...if he did do it on purpose that is a shame...just tape it shut and put a please forward to: his new adress and let it go. I'd leve him a voice mail that just says sorry i accidently opened a letter for you at the house, I forwraded it to you and leave it at that.

Rev. Bobby L. Adams	it sounds like he is attempting to hurt you. I would contact the church or ministry via mail. And politely inform them of his new address. I would also write " No Longer At This Address ' on any and all mail that comes there.

Linnie	Looks like she did the mail misdirecting...

dcgirl	Because love and lust make people do some pretty irrational things. It sounds like he is immature on a lot of levels and needs your attention, even if it is negative attention. Send him a letter back with a picture of you and a super-hot guy on a beach somewhere, telling "Dirk" how much you enjoyed meeting him in Cancun. You can make one on your computer with Photoshop or get a friend to make one for you. LOL that'll teach him a lesson!

Simian J	He would appear to have the emotional maturity of a small snail.... My advice would be to laugh at it, write him off and try to erase him from your life... Meaning, do not associate yourself with weak people. You are better than this!! :-) Good Luck!! :-)

Ronaldobhoy	He's got problems. he's setting up a meeting to marry this girl, but he deliberately wants you to know. Either because he wants you to be jealous, as he still has feelings for you or he wanst you to be the excuse as he has doubts about this girl. He's playing emotional blackmail or using you as an excuse. I'd send the letter on and wish him good luck and farewell

naveen shakya	he want to discourage and depress you. you can live your life enjoy fully with your friends. believe in god he give the best life partner to you.

kp	sound to me he's an a**hole

thebuffettour	Normal person doesn't. He is just trying to establish control by having you react to what he does. Best way to deal with it is to show him he has no control by not reacting to what he is doing.

knightjoles	I don't know what part of the world you are in Ma'am but I have friends in India who could have written exactly your words ! Which means that such men are to be found universally. Having said that do not despair, this chap per se is not the only have with ths psychological problem. Men you see are not given to accepting the fact that a woman can leave them ( if even they are wholely in the wrong). You have just hit him where it hurts the most - his ego ! Hence the plaintive appeals ( including this left handed "threat" in the post) to take him back. You have rightly snapped him right out of your radar and that's where he stays - period ! Legally, you have your rights and you could always complain to the authorities of harrassment in case he tries to communicate with you in any form or cause you any further emotional harm. He doesn't have a good relationship with his "friend" either and he's right now groping for emotional straws to hitch his ego balloon too. Stay the pace. Don't give in. He'll go away