HELP! Husband Wants to Help Out Female Co-Worker by Letting her Stay Here Till She Gets On Her Feet!?

Damien is finally here! 12/19/09	Thats a pretty tough question. I feel bad for her but I would still say no and here's why: You don't know what kind of person she is. If you've only met her a few times, there's really no way to judge if she'll follow through with everything she promises/agrees to. If she has drama and she's living with you, you're going to have drama. You have no obligation to this woman and although it's nice to help people out when they need it, she could cause issues between you and husband. It doesn't sound like he's pushing it, at least he's being nice about it:) Good luck!

Mrs. Neil	HELL NO!!! If you say yes you are just allowing the possibility of something to happen in your own home!

~too confused to think~	I let my first husband help his co-worker out b/c of the "drama in her life", and it was drama all right. She created the situation to spend more time with him and wiggle her way in and thus the divorce. Stand up for yourself and your marriage. She is bound to have friends she can count on that aren't married. Good luck.

Sammy Gabbie GO VEGAN!	Stick to your guns. The woman can go to a women's shelter. Maybe she'll learn from this and learn to keep a place of her own.

cristelle R	would he help out a male co-worker who looked like johnny depp? Better yet, would he help her out if she was 300 pounds?

Amanda	No No NO!! If it was a really close friend or family member, but not someone your husband works with...you don't know her. Why has she got so much drama going on.??...I'd certainly be asking that question for sure. She could be a complete mental for all you know. You did right to say no. edit If he is getting mad with you for saying no, I'd be asking him why he is getting so het up about it...does he have ulterior motives??? He should respect your decision!!

pictureshygirl	Warning signs - your husband is putting this female employees feeling affect his dicision over your feelings! Be a wife, stand firm and tell your husband "absolutely not will you allow a female employee to live in your home". I truly believe in what my grandmother once told me, "never ever invite another female, no matter who she is, to live under the same roof with you and your husband". Put another female in a personal setting such as sharing a home and your husband will start having thoughts that he would not want to share with you. Trust me, please don't do this!

Le	Most women say no because of the potential cheating. I also say no too: approach him and tell him this, these are the reasons why you say no. 1. you don't trust her. She could snoop around your house and get access to very private, personal information, like SS #, bank accounts, tax info, credit cards, etc... In this day and age, identity theft is a growing problem. Don't let yourself become victims. Desperate people do desperate things...tell him that. 2. If you are a christian, go and pray about it and listen with your heart for the answer. 3. Her presence in your house decrease your chances of "romance time" with him and you are not willing to give that up. Tell him you love the freedom of being able to walk around the house naked and jumping him anytime you want to. Her presence there does not allow for that. 4. With Valentines' day coming up, tell him you have planned a very special night....dinner, dancing (and you are planning to do a striptease for him), but that can't happen with this pressure of another woman living in your house. Make him choose. (I know you are a beautiful and confident woman, make sure he knows it too). Good luck.

swtlilblonde31	OH hell no, and how dare he even ask. She is an adult and needs to get her self together. I would wonder what his motivation was behind this. How would he feel if you asked him for a handsome co worker of yours to come live with you? Please he would think you lost your mind I bet. Do not let her come stay or your hubby will have a opportunity and temptation he may not resist

farmgirl	Stick to your guns, do not let her stay with you.

KJ	i'd question your husband for even thinking about letting her stay in your house. wanna be helpful? buy her a tent.

D D	Trust your insticts! If those instincts tell you that you do not do this, then don't. In fact I'd say that unless you are completely sure that you want to do this and that it will not negatively affect your relationship with your husband, then don't do this.

sincerely	NO! You are the woman of your house and there should only be you! Period and end of story. How dare your husband to even get mad at your decision. He should respect that and take it as it is. Your gut feeling already told you not to say yes and that's enough. Another stranger (male or female) can cause a friction in an otherwise peaceful marriage. So NO is your only answer to that. Don't let your husband talk you into that.

â˜…SoCalMamiâ˜…	No, tell him that it's inappropriate. Ask how he would feel if you brought another man to live with you guys? Edit; He's getting upset because he probably already told her it would be OK without asking you first which not OK!!

arkiegirl	I don't think it's a good idea at all. Sure, if it was someone you both were good friends with, and had known for a long time.. then maybe it would seem reasonable. But like you said, you barely even know this person. It's just not wise to bring a total stranger (a stranger to you, anyways) into your home, for an undetermined amount of time. Also, I'm sure that she has someone.. a friend, a family member.. someone she can stay with for a little while. I seriously doubt that her only option is to stay with a co-worker. Sounds to me, like your husband already told her it was okay, and he's upset because now he has to go back and explain to her that it's not going to work out afterall. Either that, or the two of them had other motives for wanting her to stay with you, and you ruined their plans by saying "no". Either way, she's a grown woman.. and she'll figure something out. Personally, I would never agree to something like that...

lia sophia	Not No but HELL no! She can go to public assistance programs, state aid, etc to get on her feet. What if you say No too, she has no choice but to seek public and free help. Every place has state aid, apartments based on income, etc. Not a snowballs chance in hell, unless of course your ready to come home early and catch them in the act. There is being nice and helpful, then there is asking for trouble. If he wants to help, tell him to google local help in your city and give her a list! For that matter, he could call around and get info, your house, her shower and robe, your husband. Hell No! Why do you think all the other wives said "No!". Own this and your marriage and say no as well. When he holds it to you later that you did this, reply "Yeah me and ALL THE OTHER WIVES"

dingding	You were right to say no...go with your gut on this one. Your instincts are correct. Too much drama = nightmare for you. Even if there's no attraction there, it just sounds like a bad situation waiting to happen. If you had become friends with her as a couple, maybe that would be different. Don't let him make you the bad guy, and tell him it's not fair to do so if he keeps it up.

honest guy	Just know, if you let her, sooner or later, they will see eachother naked. I for one don't think the idea is very good. But, by the same token, I can see your husband want's to be helpful, which is something that there is not enough of in this world. I would talk to your husband, and this girl. Get to know her before you make a decision. Then make sure the ground rules are set and anything you need to make your self more comfortable is in place. It not a easy choice but once you know her, go with what your gut tells you.

ABBYsMom	It would be the dumbest move to do this...Put your foot down and say no...

mnduke62	NO WAY!

Happy Mommy	HELL NO!!! NO MATTER WHO IT IS YOU NEVER LET A SINGLE WOMEN IN YOUR HOUSE WITH YOUR HUSBAND. ASK HIM IF HE WOULD DO THE SAME IF IT WERE THE OTHER WAY AROUND!! GIRL STAND YOUR GWOUND THAT IS YOUR HOME AND YOU DECIDE WHO COMES IN AND GOES OUT. HE SHOULD UNDERSTAND.

*~~ Evan's Mommy ~~*	Yeah,thats not a good idea.

olderwiser100	stick with your no. it is your house also. bringing another woman into the house can only lead to disaster. say no and mean it.

~nicole~	Saying yes would be asking for trouble.

jtease	NO. NO. NO. Don't let her into your home its not right. I have been through this with my ex, nothing good ever can come out of this situation. Listen to your co-workers wives they are right. I too have been in her situation. The husband will give her alot of attention, trying to be a good host, (her) I was being so vunerable & an unstable mind too started to find the comfort so you get it. Attractive, single & young. Things can happen when your not home. Believe me don't do it. Say NO!

Pogo peeps	I don't think too many women would feel comfortable having an attractive stranger in the house that their husband knows from work.. Doesn't she have any female coworkers? She can always rent a room somewhere. It would just get awkward eventually if she didn't leave on schedule or had annoying habits, etc. Better to say no. Does he really have that big of a heart or is there more to it?

Musica	Call her back? BAD IDEA!!! She might just be trying to help herself to a husband...namely YOURS! Nope. Don't bring unnecessary trouble into your house. If you do, you'll curse the day she walked into the door. There's probably a good reason the others said no, other than just because she's female. If she has drama problems, they've probably seen the show, and don't want to be there for any encore...and that's why they've drawn the curtains on her. You and your husband are under NO obligation to bail her out. She's an adult. Let her take responsibility for herself, and figure out for herself what she needs to do to get back on her feet. She can get help from other sources: other friends, her church if she attends, and if necessary general assistance/welfare. It's not a question of mistrust, it's a question of protecting yourself and your marriage. Nothing wrong with that. If your husband is upset about it, then that's his problem. He's being blind to the facts.

furface	you love him and he loves you now if he is being a nice guy and he wants to help a friend you should go along with it but you have to tell him and her that if there is any sign of trouble she has to go and put a time limit on it you know him better than anyone and as far as him cheating he work's with her and that would already of happened there is nothing wrong in helping another person your the one that has to live with them and you know were your husband's heart is so you do need to trust him as he needs to trust you she may be a asset to you when the years are played out so you need to think about it some more good luck

mezwood	2 women who aren't family can't live together peacefully...say no...put your foot down, there is no way IN HELL that would happen.