How can I tell my husband that i stopped loving him, i caught him with his boss in the backseat of my car?

girlfriend	First you have to believe you deserve better than this. Cheating on you?!!? In the back of YOUR car?!?!? Third time?!? Don't you think the writing's on the wall? It's not going to stop. You may love him, but can you LIVE with him? It's been 10 years since I caught my ex-husband (emphasis on EX) in our hot tub with a floozy and that picture is permanently stamped on my memory. And what about his boss's part in this? She should be reported to her superiors for improper behavior. Wake up & smell the coffee, sweetheart. You will never be in first place in this man's heart because he's a selfish womanizer!

Mary Jane	If this is the 3rd time what on earth are you doing crying still. I'd stay as far away from him as possible before you catch something. If you caught him 3 times how many times do you think he has done this?

Goosters	Sorry for your heartaching story.Stepping on Two boats is what men desires? If you do not have any children, matter will be much easier to handle..give him a Final warning before he lost everything in life incl custody of Rights.

Pandora	tell him the truth and leave. when you said this is the third time, my thought was that she knows about and won't be the last. get out.

L G	You need to tell him just like you wrote it. Once its his fault, twice its your fault, and third you are stupid for sticking around. Not only has he cheated on you 3 times that you know of, how many times don't you know of? Is he using protection? He is puttig your life at risk. I know you aren't asking for this. But when is enough, enough? When he tells you he contracted HIV and gave it to you? You have children? What about them? Is your daughter going to think that it is ok for men to treat their women this way? When she grows up most girls marry ore get with men that remind them of their fathers. What about your son? Will he grow up to be the slime ball his father is? This man is belittling you and degrading you before your very eyes. Do not allow what little respect you have left for yourself to disentegrate. It is not your fault. But by staying with him, no matter what threat you make he will still cheat becuase he knows he can get away with it. What happens if you cheat? Will he be so understanding?

dance_babe_xoxoxox	tell himt that u cannot stand this anymore...if he doesnt luv u then u should leave or u should tell him to GET OUT.... there is not need toforgive him, knowing that he has already done it three times... before u do that, u should tell him wat u think...do not bothering about going nice to him about it.... he DOESNT deserve it. just give it to him... i hope this helps... o and divorce him if u have to and find a guy that wil appreciate u for who u r !!! i hope this helps a lil' bit!! XD

Dimples	I think you need to do what's right and beneficiary for you at this time. You just need to come out with it and tell him what you just stated here. Make yourself clear and tell him that you just can't stand or take what he's put you through. Get the courage and face what else life has to offer you.

kinacl	Girl why are you so worried about how to tell him anything. You deserved to have had a faithful man by your side. He didn't think about your feelings or your marriage when he cheated 3 times. Girl just tell him, he is lucky you are telling him at all. I would make sure it is a good time for you and only you. Now do what is best for you. Girl I would wait until I have everything together for myself, then I would tell him. Girl don't feel bad, you will be OK. I'm a Christian and I'll be praying for you. Watch this and feel better. www.mayyoueblessedmovie.com

Summer	Just sit him down and tell him. There is no reason for you to beat yourself up about telling him the truth because if he really loved you there would have never been a first time cheating. You are better off with someone who loves and respects you because he obviously doesn't.

shadow79812002	dont be afraid to tell him. just come right out with it. just remember hes the one thats in the wrong,not you. and if he did it before he will do it again

aquari-kat	Just tell him as you have told us. He's made the mistake, you've tried to work it out, but it is now obvious that he is not as committed to work on this relationship as you are. Personally, I feel that there is no reason for someone to cheat on their spouse and that it is unforgivable. Once a cheater always a cheater-what's to stop him again if there is no real consequence. You are a better woman than me for trying to work it out. Good luck-everything will work out.

cheoli	Be honest with him about your feelings and how bad you are hurt. You've given him enough chances, this being the third time. It sounds as if it is time for you to take care of yourself and your needs now. Give yourself some time. I hope you get some help or even counseling to get you through this. Look for family and friends for support. I hope everyday and every Christmas is better for you. Best of luck.

nicolas n	get rid of that loser, he wants other girls and will never stop. Stay with him and you'll end up with kids or more kids and nasty custody battles. Every day that pass, you're getting older and may miss a great guy. Christmas parties are the number one time for infedelity according to stats. When you tell him that you dont love him any more, have back up or some one close because he might go balistic, you don't watch those crime shows?

*~MaeFlower~**	well i would leave him. you can do without him. you do not want a man that will do that to you .

hurts so good	sorry you should have learnt after the 1st time he is not going to change because you keep on forgiving him.. now he done it again on chrismas day of all days time to wake up and smell the roses he is not worth the air he breaths kick his cheating *** to the guter where he belongs and dont ever let him sweet talk you back into his life....good luck

Denny Crane	In baseball 3 strikes and your out!!!

lovely	Just tell him the truth. If its the third time there will be more.

*Ferrari Babe Â¸.â€¢Â´`â™¥ â™¥Â´`â€¢.Â¸*	Tell him you forgave him but you can't forget the betrayal. It can't be a surprise to him you've had enough after the third time.

Baby	tell him the truth

SupaDupaWoman	Tell him exactly how you feel. There is no way around it. It may be one of the hardest things you do but you will feel better having done so. Besides, what could he say to you? He's the unfaithful one...not you.

Mr. Smooth	I think you just come out and tell him. Let him know that you can not get over the fact that he has cheated on you multiple times, and that you need to find someone who will treat you with respect.

candygrl	HOney if this is the third time He will go for the fourth. There is no nice way to say that you do not love him. SO just be direct and say it. My advice...... get out of that relationship!!!!!!!

freeman3905@sbcglobal.net	man o man its hard on you you have to let the jurk go he wont stop. it will go on and on

Forlorn Hope	just kick him out and take him for everything he's got, in divorce court... was his boss male or female???

BrendaWise	if it is the third time, obviously he is going to continue. So you don't need to forgive him. You just need to accept that that is the way he is, and decide if you want to continue to live with him the way he is

someones love	tell him straight up, but then again why did u let it happen 3 times??

Sapphire	easy, leave him, he ovbiously isn't ready to commit, atleast not to you.... you only live once, dump his cheatin a s s and find someone that will treat you right.

BabeHart	You're a lot more patient (or foolish) than most to put up with it a 2nd time...why is it so hard to tell him how you feel? Just do it, and then get out of that situation and move on with your life. Have enough respect for yourself not to tolerate that behavior from anyone.

Wphs	Tell him the truth... sit him down and explain it to him, do what your heart tells you to do