How can i recover from my husband cheating and losing my baby from stressing from it?

hot_tamale962	you need to go to get some therapy, and I think you should go by yourself first, then maybe him too. but you can not change what happened, you can learn to live with it. you may need to be with out him for awhile. ask a therapist though not yahoo answers, good luck sweety, and stay strong. You should get off here and get on the phone so you can get some professional help.

Melm	My goodness, here we go again. I should start a club for wifes who stay with husbands who cheat (I am one of them by the way). You may not ever get over it honey. You could try counseling for yourself but it probably won't do any good if he doesn't go. Just remember that this is not your fault. You did nothing to deserve it! If you really want to get on with your marriage you have to somehow dig deep down inside and let it go completely, otherwise it will just keep eating at you. The trick is to not get obsessed with what he is doing and who he is with. You may not want to get pregnant again for a long while just to make sure that you don't bring a child into a bad relationship. Good luck to you. I really hate that this happened to you.

Kitty	Move on with your life instead of your marriage. Seems to me like the two are not compatible. There are more fish in the sea, you will find a good man eventually.

Nutsters-ChickÂ©	I'm not sure I could ever 4give him 4 such a breach of trust. Does UR Man even realise or appreciate how damn lucky he is? That U want 2 stay with him & work 2gether 2 move on from this. U need 2 give it time, lots of time.

legguy2003	Will you actually be able to forgive? Do you really want to stay with a man that cheated on you 2 times? If you want to salvage whatever you can and really make it work then you need to seek out counceling. Find reasons what drove him to cheat in the first place. And also find out how you can cope and get over the loss of a baby. Good luck to you!

renee1724	Honestly, you probably won't get over it, but I guess you could try counseling. But seriously, why would you want to be with someone who cheats on you and causes you so much stress.

>>\|\|<<	Is there a group of women that you could join to talk about similar situations? I lost a fullterm baby boy 20 years ago. I went to a group of people that had lost children that were babies and older. I joined another group of women with tragic backgrounds and we were able to talk. It would be good for you to talk to other women who have dealt with infidelity.

kittykats2	Why would you want to continue? You did not say that your husband has any remorse in his heart. What is he going to do to make the marriage work and make himself into a husband? The best way to recover is to learn your painful lesson now-get rid of the boy and marry a man next time.That way you won't be 50 years old and complaining about still being married to a boy.

joandi_99	Why do you feel that you have to torture yourself by staying with a man who has abused your trust and broken your vows of marriage? COME ON! Wake up and kick his sorry *** out. Either that, or you move out. He isn't worth staying with and I have no idea how you can overcome your feelings of betrayal and loss caused by him unless you get away from him.

Cattlemanbob	You need to get away from him. Also, you need to be treated for whatever condition made you lose that child. I doubt if just stress would do that, unless you deliberately forced yourself to overreact and induced a bunch of panic attacks in series. That was your deal. Cheating was his. Get a lawyer. Get a divorce. Get a reasonable settlement. Get a new life.

Cameron D	WHAT!!!!! Why would you want to stay with this piece of shi*. What the hell is wrong with you. Remember Lorena Bobbitt. Cut off his mini pecker and kick him to the curb!!!! If you think this might be a little harsh....just shoot him between the eyes with a 50 cal.

lol_des	You lost a child that can sometimes never be gotten over but as they say and it is true with proper support and time wounds heal. Your husbands cheating well that's another thing you either can punish yourself or him forever or you can choose it let go of it with all the feelings attached to it...for most of this the letting go of such a huge hurt is just too much and sometimes we are better off with a clean start. You need to see a professional to work out how you feel what you can do and your choices in life good luck.

mom	You need to ask yourself if you truly want to move on with your marriage. If the answer is yes then you must come to terms with the affair. It is usually helpful if you contact your clergyman or a mediator to help you deal with the hurt and damage that has occurred.

Just Me	If you want to stay with him, then go to counsling, but the best thing to do would be to leave. If he cheated once he will do it again, and there is no way you need to go through that. I am sorry about the baby, and I know how much that hurts, that is something that time will make a little more better, but you need to get out of there... Good Luck, and there will be a man out there that will love you and would never ever cheat on you

S.	I would not try to fix anything,but this would be me. If you can not get over this,leave the marriage. You need to forgive him and forget about it or walk away. Beleive me if you stay and still think about it and stress out about it,it would make the rest of your life hell. I am so sorry for what happened to you and for the loss of your baby. Good luck to you

lostintheclover	You need to separate & divorce him. If he even really cared for you he wouldn't have cheated. Men like that are scum, you will do better with the right guy.

Desiree J	You have a choice to make; do you want to be a vicitim your whole life or do you want to develope a shield for the wickedness of others?

Dr. Terrence Thirteen	leave your husband. if you dont that memory will be with you forever and you'll never move on. besides if you stay it's like giving him permission to cheat. besides how can you stay with the man who is the direct reason your baby is dead. cheating on a pregnant spouse is one of the lowest things a man can do. and he did it TWICE!!!

TMAC	You need more than therapy. You need someone you can trust to talk to that will not take any crap and call you out on the reality of the situation. Not a therapist. A sponsor. This is from your childhood and your stupid parents not doing their job in raising you to accept life on lifes' terms.

michelle	Honey i would never move on!!!!! especially after losing YOUR baby because of him!!!! he dont deserve you,,,,,,he deserves the hoes hes messing with.....move on.....even better divorce his ***,,,,,where are the ladies that have more self esteem and self respect???? hes a loser!!!!!!

majesticwife	I think that the two of you need counseling. If he is doing this in the beginning of a marriage you may have years of heartache ahead of you. I personally would leave.

happybunnyjg	IM REALLY SORRY ABOUT YOUR lost and i would kick your husband to the curb,you deseve sooo much better

maple_bud_on	If you cant trust him then you dont have a relationship, If he was so unkind that he would cheat on you, then you are better off with out him hun!

Aussie Chick	Revenge is sweet. Take him to court and get a whole lot of money out of him. Then go find yourself a much nicer man.

blueducky	hes an *** wipe wow1 please dump him.

sassy_sexy_honey	Time, and some real strong persistence and trust!

DAVEG_10	Once a cheat. Always a cheat.

yournotalone	One word, Counseling. For the both of you.

nanny2	You may never get past it,Hes a cheater,you deserve better.