How do I end a relationship of 5 years?

shultzie knows best	grab what you need and lave the rest she isnt a gf she is a keeper leave this lunatic

Starla F	You leave her

aleirah82	Leave town! On a serious note it sounds like this girl is using emotional blackmail to keep you chained there, and rather than suicidal she sounds manipulative although you can't always be sure. My advice to you is to tell her you need to move out for a while, that you have every intention of getting back with her in a couple of months you just need a break, or some space, it will give you some time to see what she will really do. If she does attempt suicide or becomes violent call the police and ask them for advice. Another thing you can do is accompany her to the psychiatrists office for a couple of months until she is stable enough for you to be honest with her. She may have a mood disorder.

frieda l	okay, I think that leaving someone isn't easy but if it needs to be done , that's final...No, do not leave town but rather keep yourself too busy for her....don't meet, what you said about a bloody nose , that means you must keep away and maybe explain that you are finished,,,,on the phone or in a letter....but keep away...if you meet ignore and walk away.....do not stop to talk....she is not reliable enought or logical....you need to be firm....get out ..... good luck.....

nynerprincess	She makes her own choices in life as do you if she kills herself her blood is not on your hands because you cant make her do it. See if she will go to some kind of counseling or something if she says no than shes not ready to help her self and you cant fix her she has to. Maybe some time apart is what you need, if you love her you can always stand by her as her friend but the situation your in right now is not healthy for either of you. Maybe leaving her is the wake up call she'll need and everything will work out in the end.

hermit	Can you say "co-dependence"? You don't want to "hurt her feelings", eh? Sounds to me like she's doing a pretty good job of that on her own, not to mention feeding off of yours, as well. She doesn't need you, man. She needs medication. Take a walk, my friend.

JesÃºs Ernesto Miguel	Try figuring out who she likes a lot, and ask him to give you a help.

Kristin A	Stop making excuses and end it. She is in charge of herself, and if she goes crazy, that is not your fault. Her telling you she will kill herself is her way of controlling you even more than she is now. Do what makes you happy and get out of the relationship. It sounds like she needs some help, and you are not capable of giving her that kind of help unless you are a doctor. Actually, giving her the heave ho might be the best thing for both of you...she needs to move on too. Be wary of the stalking that might take place though, and be ready to put out a restraining order if she abuses you. Don't ever let anyone, even a woman, be abusive in a relationship.

marilynfsmgm	pack your things when shes not around,call a friend of hers who cares about her,and tell them you are leaving and dont want her to be alone.then go and dont look back. what she does after that point is her choices and is not your fault.

Jewels	Leave her and then press charges against her to stay away from you....

Need2SellMyWatch	Just leave. I had the same issue with my Ex. Took me 3 more years until I left and called his bluff on his death and suicide threats. Emotinal blackmail is an effective tool and it is working on you. You will be sad for a bit but it will be worth it in the end. I have never looked back!

Sophiesmama	I would tell her you want to go to couples therapy, even if it is just to get her to look at her behavior. Sometimes you have to rethink the word love, why would you want to be with someone who treats you this way.

shelly and michael lynn	Sounds like a trick question. Like how do I run in the rain without getting wet? Use an umbrella. It's difficult to get out but it's all up to you.You still love her, but do you love her enough to keep going through hell? You may be able to bow out slowly (trial seperation) or you may have to just have to leave and stay away forever. In this touchy situation you probably aren't going to get your cake and eat it too. figure out what's most important you getting out or her welfare.

Sunset	You shouldn't worry so much about hurting her feelings. She doesn't care or worry about yours. Leave her if need be put a restraining order against her. And don't fall for her saying she'll kill herself. She's just using that excuse to control you. http://www.domesticviolence.com

24Special	Just end it!!! Do you really want to put up with this abuse forever? Sounds like she's insecure and has trust issues! Just leave her a note one day when you leave and tell her that you love her but you just can't go on this way anymore!!! But if you love her that much and don't want to hurt her feelings then just stay and put up with it! The choice is yours. Best of Luck to You!!

Stellar	get in the witness protection program

J	be honest and tell her the reasons why you feel you don't want to be with her and keep your hands above your face

free_angel	Tell her it's over! If she threatens to kill herself, tell her go ahead if that's what it's going to take to get over it. All you know is that you're going to live. Tell her you have gas, matches, rope, etc. and all she has to do is take her pick and she can't say you never gave her anything.

Poker Helper	You need to end it in a blunt and clear manner. You need to not let it be your problem if she threatens to kill herself. You only live once, and you need to be happy this time around. Take back her keys to your stuff, get your stuff back, and end it. Don't give in to her usual pleas. Just get it over with.

kandjforever	OK...IF SHE IS THIS WAY LIKE THE WHOLE KILLING HERSELF THING, THEN YOU SHOULD JUST SAY, LOOK THINGS ARENT GOOD BETWEEN US NOW SO LETS TAKE A BREAK AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS. IF SHE THREATENS TO KILL HERSELF THEN SAY WELL I LOVE YOU BUT I CANT BABYSIT YOU. TRY TALKING TO HER MOM OR DAD ABOUT THIS. IT SEEM UNHEATHLY TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WHERE ITS KIND OF ONE SIDED. YOU LOVE HER ENOUGH TO GET AWAY, SO SHE WILL FIGURE OUT EVENTUALLY THAT ITS IN HER BEST INTEREST TO BE APART! TRY IT AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS.

alomar	just leave her, but expect bad things to happen. she will raise some bad things, but owning your life deserve some sacrifice

wc2ketey	Be honest with her. Tell her you need to move on. I would suggest a restraining order if you are afraid that she will get violent again. Run...don't walk. This is not a healthy relationship.

Lynn N	Bless your heart. I would for real lay down the law with her. I would tell her to move out--if she is living with you-- tell her not to call you, come and see you and if she does then you will let the law take care of her. You need to get on with your life so you can be happy. She needs to get on with her life so you can be happy. I worked with a girl like that. She put it to us that he was always beating her up--he may have been but it was just to show her to leave him alone. She brought everything that happened to her on herself because she was always bothering him. I don't think he put his hands on her though. She was crazy. She even went to a place where his long time ago ex-girlfriend works now and threatened to fight her just because he use to date her. Now come on do you really want to go through anything else with this girl? I would think not. Better be glad she did not do this after you asked her to marry her--if you ever thought about it I mean. Most people wait til the I do's and then go crazy. You are lucky you caught it in time. Just do what makes you happy and what will make you happy for the future without having to worry about her doing something to you anymore--and for her hitting you in the face tell me where you live I will take care of her *. That is not right. You do everything for this girl and get treated like that--you deserve way better than this st. Email me if you want--GoosyGirl28@aol.com

Slimsmom	It sounds as if she has some serious self esteem issues, which should not be your problem. Unfortunately, she is making them yours. There is no easy way to get out of a relationship. Just muster up the strength to do it, and just do it. Have your bags packed, wait on her to come home, then sit her down and tell her you are leaving and why. There will be tears and moaning and threats. You just have to steel yourself against them and do what needs to be done for your own sanity and peace of mind. The fact that she has to use emotional blackmail to try and make you stay should wave a big red flag in front of your nose. Don't allow this sort of manipulation to work anymore.

mizzbee1975	I think you should leave, after all this is an adult you are talking about and It seems like she needs more that what you can give her. You need to do what makes you happy, and I think you are wasting your time with this situation...remember life is too short to waste it on things that bring a frown to your face Be happy

the_emrod	This woman, much though you might care for her, is an emotional leech. Imagine your best friend has just told you everything you have written here. What would you advise them to do? You would tell them to leave wouldn't you? Well you are your own best friend and you have to end this now. She has already abused you physically and crossed a barrier. It will not stop. SHe will keep doing it as you let her get away with it last time. You MUST make a clean break. Tell her in the day time, tell her firmly and quietly that you don't want to be with her any more. Then make the break. Don't answer her calls, texts or the door if she knocks, however hard it might be DON'T GIVE IN. Don't speak to her at all. If she threatens to kill herself, ignore her. You are NOT responsible for her emotions or actions. She is an adult and has to deal with this. Do this today. If you don't, you will spend another week of misery when you could have already got out of it. It will be tough, but have the gumption to do it and you will get happier. Good luck to you. Remember, any response you give to her is attention, which she is craving. You do not owe her anything, you have a right to live a normal life, without sacrificing your own happiness. DO IT!

salsa	She needs help. Counselling! You're dead meat if you don't leave soon.

Suzy Q	this is not love and i am sure you know it. well this is what you do. you get ready to move out and move out of state and get all organized and then you leave her and out the way you go. you can have yours stuff shipped. if you dont' have guts to do that just tell her you are done and if she wants to end her life go for it. you would gladly help her as you are just done with it. you can't be threatened and stuff any more and that you are going to move and move. leave that day have something already fixed up place dont' tell her and get going.

RB. Johnson	This girl has a depressing problem about herself. Go get professional help from council and start to do things without her and call the police when she shows up at your home. Take control of your life and be serious about what you want.

Klingon	Your caring for her is turning into emotional blackmail. Leave her once & for all. You DON'T NEED this aggravation.