Home     Links     Contact Us     Bookmark  
 
   Homepage      News      Legal Forum      Dictionary  
Home : Legal Forum : Marriage & Divorce

How do I heal emotionally from a cheating (ex) spouse?
Find answers to your legal question.





How do I heal emotionally from a cheating (ex) spouse?

My ex husband cheated on me with a lot of women. How do I trust (anyone) again?







Nikki
It just takes time. I got remarried two years after and my husband is very loving and commited but I still can't open up completely for fear of being hurt. Good luck


itsmeagain06
If you allow what your ex did to continue to ruin your life he will always control you. You need to forgive him for what he did in order to move on because he is not loosing anything from it whether you do or not, you are. After you do that remind yourself that you are not like every other woman in the world so all men are not the same. Let the signs you received from that looser you were with help you to pre-screen men but not keep you from them.


nothingbutthenet
Rating
The first step is to become yourself again. Forget about relationships, husbands, or ex's. Go out and have a good time as a single person. Hang out with friends, go shopping, get your hair done, maybe even take a vacation. There are many benifits to being single, and freedom is a big one.

You need time away from relationships to allow this wound to heal. I wouldn't run out and start dating right away. With enough time, you will not remember as much of your previous relationship. Once that happens, then you can start to date again, but not until then.

You will never forget what your ex did to you, but you have to make a conserted effort not to bring your previous relationship up during your new ones. There is nothing a new boyfriend/girlfriend hates more then constantly hearing about an ex, be it good or bad.

With enough time in a new relationship, you will be able to trust that person. Remember no matter what, that you have to be your own person. Do your own things, with your own friends. Keep him guessing a bit as to what you are up to. A little jealousy never hurt anyone. Don't be the one sitting at home wondering where your boyfriend is, or what he's doing. Make him be the one to wonder. If you keep him on his toes, and keep him curious, he'll never even think of straying he'll be to busy doing everything in his power to keep you happy.

Granted we all wish for the purfect romance, but the bottom line is that its all a game to a certain extent. If you don't keep playing, then you end up the loser. Keep your boyfriends/husbands on their toes, learn to trust them, and enjoy life. Never get to comfortable, and never let your guard down, that's when things like that happen.

Its to short to get caught up in what one persons mistakes have done to you. Get out there and live your life!! He certainly has been living his.


preferablyyoung
There should have been signs even before you married him that he would not be faithful, but you ignored them. Men are not angels, they are almost like kids. Once you are linient with them they take the advantage. Be tight and they behave. You should have given it to him more often and don't say things like "I am not in my mood"; then you should learn that first lesson. The second one is give a relationship time and be open, honest and broad minded. Tell him if you are going to cheat, please wear a condom and don't think I will be waiting for you - give them ultimatums, then that will make them think twice and we will have better men in this world. Trust me it will make you strong and earn your points as a confident person who believes in principles. Time is the best healer. Put yourself first, make yourself happy and think of him as the loser.


Jim
you won't forgive him an thats ok, but you can't blame everyone for his mistakes


george_the_cat
Rating
Get back into the game asap.


hhbasile
Rating
Not all men are cheaters. Your ex-husband cheated on you does not mean that other men will, so go and enlarge your social circle, give yourself time to meet and understand others, don't ever loose hope! Best of luck!


felicity_pink
Give it time for you to come to terms with it. When you feel you are ready to date, try to keep an open mind as well as an open heart, not all men are the same.


nicegirl187smile
find someone new







Legal Discussion Forum

 im in love with a marred man and for the last 3 years we have been togather im geting marred in june this year
he says he loves me and i love him but we dont want to lose our kids that we have with the one we are with. he is there for me like no one has been well tell every thing to eachouter is this true ...


 Why Can't I change my last name, in my yahoo account?
Why Can't I change my last name, in my yahoo account?...


 how do i find good indian guy?
...


 Can a woman divorce her husband if pregnant? He is cheating and has left and wants divorce.?
I am 3 1/2 months pregnant. He is cheating and is with his coworker. He said he dumped her a month ago and wanted to work on our marriage but he never did and is still with her. I don't think I ...


 im stuck in a loveless marriage,my hubby hits me&my 8 month old kid,what help is available for me if i leave?
...


 How can I make my husband be intimate with me?
...


 my boyfriend is married in mexico but we want to be married here in the us can that happen if hes married ther
...


 He's Jehovah's Witness, She's Penecostal?
These two are in love, however their parents object to their marriage. Is it possible for these two to have a successful marriage. I would really love to hear from someone who has married into a ...


 How can i make a family with whom i love?
I am in love with a married person and i am also married.He has two children and ihave also two.His understanding with his wife is very good but he also love me very much.On the other hand my spouse ...


 Am I really in Love or is it just obsession?
I sometimes get tired of being with my husband, but then when he is at work or don't see him for a couple of hours I miss him so much. I have met other guys that like me and I have fun so much ...


 I'm in love with another man. Should I leave my husband, father of my 2 young children, for the other man?
...


 Should a woman marry a man 17 years her senior, even if it's true love?
...


 Would you rather marry a physically repulsive person or someone who is so insanely dumb?
Yes, those are your only choices. ^.^...


 is andrew nelson strange for giving up meat because his girl freind is vegitarian?
...


 Going to divorce court today, Will I cry or will I party afterwards???
Well, the day is finally here, my big D-day.

After 2 years of a torrent separation, today is the day that I am divorced by a court of law. He has worked over seas for the last two years ...


 How soon after a disasterous marriage should a man (37 yrs old) start to date again?
Divorce isnt final yet--but no reconciliation possible--We have 2 kids. Do I wait for it to be final---I fileed for Divorce Jan 31...


 Should I cancel the wedding and look for love again?
I posted the story earlier:
I was making plan to marry a woman, but I felt things are not write. When I complained and ask her for delay, she said, she is under pressure from relatives to marry ...


 will it remain customary in our society to marry?why do you think it will or will not?
...


 why do wemen cheat?
...


 ideas for psychology prodjects?
...




Copyright (c) 2009-2013 Wiki Law 3k Wednesday, July 23, 2014 - Trusted legal information for you.
Archive: Forum  |  Forum  |  Forum  |  Links
0.084