How do I let my brother's wife know that I'm interested?

VICTORIA L	Dude, don't even GO there!!!!! What is wrong with you??????????????????????

lex	spend time with your brother and be happy for him not jealous of him.you and your wife should have talked about children and if she said she wanted them at the time but now says she doesnt it is understandable you are unfulfilled.this is not something you can ignore.the need for children is one that does not dwindle and if your wife is not going to change her mind i would consider that grounds to question your compatibility.seek what he has in the marriage and use it to stabilize one for yourself but do not seek her,she is with another and you have to accept that.

Lady D	You need to speak to a therapist. I would highly recommend couples counseling for you and your wife. Are you really going to throw away your marriage over hot dinners? Why not hire a chef if that's what you want. As for the children aspect, you haven't said how old you both are or what her reasons are for not wanting children. Does she not want them NOW or EVER? There is a large difference there. Yes, your brother has a "traditional wife" (whatever that means in this day and age), but you have a loving partner who is working with you to help you both build a better future. Maybe your wife enjoys her career and wants to help the two of you build a stronger financial position before adding expensive children into the mix. Is your salary alone enough to provide a nice house, cars, and all the expensive things kids need and families want? Also, if you want her to get pregnant and have kids just so you can turn her into little Susie Homemaker, you have another problem. The important question is "Do you love your wife?" Is it HER that you love? Or is it an image of what she could be if....? You also said that your wife and you had a great friendship.... is that all there is to it? If so, then eventually you will get a divorce. If there is no love in your marriage, it will fail. If you do love her, then you need to accept her as she is and not try to change her. If your only desire is to have a subservient wife who kisses your *** and treats you like god then you are definitely in the wrong marriage. Most American women have learned that we are equal to men and are not going to be cast back into a harem. A truly loving marriage is a marriage of equals who care deeply for one another and work together for common goals. A marriage where one is the master and the other is a slave leads only to resentment over time. Just because your sister in law does these things now does NOT mean that she won't have secret fantasies about slipping him rat poison in 5 or 10 years.

chris F	Well what you do is you dont go after your brother wife but you go ask her about her sister. Maybe even go after some one like her.

sweet	ok why don't u talk to ur brother about ur obsession of his wife....see what he going to say or do to u!! i bet u guys never be brothers again

apallo123	are you a mental case, this is how restraining orders get started, or they come up with that show snapped. get yourself your own girl and get off your brothers. if i was him id kick your *** for even thinking something like this!!!!!

mr_cheevus	Marriage isn't an ice cream store brother. You can't just drop your cone for another flavour. If you want to stop, tell your brother that you are attracted to his wife. Bringing your feelings out in the open will result in one of two things: either he will take steps to keep you away from his wife, or your shame will end your interest. If that doesn't work, move away. Your desire threatens your brother's happiness, and if you love your brother at all, you will not want to destroy his happiness.

LaMariposa	I suggest you keep your little fantasy to yourself. The very things that you find attractive in your sister-in-law, are the very things that will make her think of you as a creep. She is conservative as you say, so no doubt she will be disgusted if you tell her this. What's more, you will destroy your relationship with your brother. If I were your brother, I would not even allow you in!

dad	Cut that thing off between your legs its obviously taking over your mind .

ciberpunk1	You are married. Deal with your own relationship instead of trying to screw up your brothers. How many people have to tell you this, or are you waiting for that one person to say it is okay. It is not okay. Leave it alone.

resolutionary	Don't freaking listen to that: "Leave your wife" crap. You obviously got into a marriage too soon without having weighed the costs. People do this all the time. But that's why marriage is merely like "dating" nowadays. Saying vows to commit to someone forever is more like "for now". Since you are not happy with your wife's behavior and your relationship is dying, seek counselling. A mediator will allow you and your wife to communicate, hear and understand each other without evasiveness or running away from the issue. Marriage involves COMPROMISE. Just because you are in a difficult time doesn't mean you have to BAIL like everybody else. But the world urges you otherwise.........because it's all about looking out for number 1 right?? ..........or is it...

Beautiful -	you sound like a terrible person!! what you want is a slave not a wife ..ok fair enough you want kids and your misses doesnt but what you envy is someone staying at home for you day in and day out preparing everything for you for when you decide you want to come home at night.....this fits the describtion of a slave. leave your bloody brother alone...let him enjoy what he has, a happy marriage and kids. if you arnt happy you go and find your own women... ...even if you were able to drag the poor women away from her home, husband, and child... ..im sure you still wont be happy with that! ( and you would have to look after you brothers child) what you see with them is love...and thats what you need not a slave. leave the poor girls sisters alone! i pitty you.

djk	I just read a book about separation and divorce. It said something like, when you are looking for a cataclysmic change in the center of your personality you become infatuated with the person who can offer that change for you. It is common knowledge among therapists, but is such an insightful statement, that it makes so many of the problems that I see in the relationships around me including my own transparent. You want a change. You think your husband's wife can somehow give you that change. Now you are infatuated with her. My suggestion is that you pursue some sort of counseling and soul searching. Talk about things seriously with your wife, and try to clear up in your mind that it really is not that you want your brother's wife, but you want a change in your own life. Do not talk to her or your brother, look within yourself for the change. you are obviously unhappy and just trying to force a change, but even if what you are fantasizing about happens you will still be unhappy because the change did not come from within yourself.

Skill	This is not about your wife, his wife or your brother. It is about you! You need to work o this problem you have before you destroy your life and his. I think you have a problem. I think you need a lot of prayer. Marriage is a choice. Obviously he made a good choice and you didn't. Don't try and rob him of that choice. Please...get help soon!

birdsdafly	you are just thinking about their relationship because it sound perfect....and yours is falling apart, if I was you I just step back and take this opportunity to think clear. maybe your wife want kids in a year or two, and from the sound of things why would you want kids now! lusting after your sister-in-law, yes I said it lust that what it is.

sweet_trixie_1977	Well, first of all, you need to decide if you want to end your marriage. If you do, then you need to do that and get it out of the way. If you're doing something questionable and get caught, then it can look bad on you during the divorce process. Secondly, I'm assuming you're meaning that you want to make a move on your brother's wife. Please don't. You could ruin the relationship with him and her. You said she had sisters...well, there's an option. Also, there ARE women out there who are devoted like your brother's wife. I, for instance, am. I am married, love my husband with all my heart, take care of the house, cook and take care of our newborn son. He helps out, but only with cooking sometimes and of course spending time with the baby. Just sounds to me like you need to get out of your marriage if you aren't happy...then maybe the rest will fall into place later.

rottmann	wow stay back you can destroy a family and freindships except the fact that he is blessed for what he has. you need to stay back

lynn s	NO, NO, NO, Why would you tell your brother's WIFE that you are crazy about her.. show some respect for your brother...and what kind of a relationship would you have with your family when all this comes out into the open...If you prefer a subserveant wife rather than a career wife then end this marrage first before looking for another... either that or stay in the marrage you are in and hire a maid.

Bryan M	If your not happy in your marriage, talk with your wife about it. Your lusting after your sister in law and your coveting what your brother and his wife have. I think you and your wife would benifit from marriage counceling. Also ask your wife why she doesn't want kids.

Dan P	you're bad and no brother to have. People like you disgust me! YOU'RE BROS WIFE NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!! Dont even go there! It sounds like they are really close, if you tell her you're interested u will loose you're bro and her, being traditional she wont appreciate you're hospitality honestly. so just be a decent fella and lay off. Dont destory something just because you're something is not as good!

Candace C	men like you absolutely repulse me - did you ever think that maybe you didnt deserve that??! Did you ever think that a marriage was more than having a woman be your slave?? Your brother probably treats her like a queen and she happily does those things. Maybe if you treated your wife with some respect and showed some concern and willingness then she would be interested in having your children. You should be ashamed of yourself just excusing yourself from your marriage just because your SISTER IN LAW caught your eye!! grown up and act like a respectable man.

bailie28	you dont say anything to either one...talk about a damper at family reunions..you need to get your wife to go to marriage counseling with you at your church or somewhere and figure out where you are heading as a couple and are you for sure she doesnt want children or doesnt want them right this minute..if you get into counseling and realize you dont want the same things its time to seriously consider your future as a married couple but to say something to your sister in law or brother would be a huge mistake..HUGE

goldwing	Are you nuts? Do you have NO respect for your own brother? What kind of husband would you be to one of your sister-in-law's sisters if she knew how you felt about her? I think you better back off, keep away as much as possible before you become a pariah in your family, for that is the direction you are headed in. Funny, you were happily married before your brother got married...have you always been in competition with him? Get some counseling before you ruin your life..that is the direction you are heading in.

suzyq	Do you want your brother's wife or her sisters? I hope not his wife! Anyway, if children are a top priority for you then you have to ask yourself what is more important: your wife or children. I believe that this is a discussion that should be had prior to marriage because when those vows are taken, they should be serious. Maybe you should try marriage counseling, at least give it a try before quitting.

MJ	First thing, talk to your wife about your feelings, my God you do not go out looking for a replacement for your wife before you tell her its over. If you tell her how you feel you two may be able to reach a compromise. And yes,I believe your sister in law would find it creepy, anyone would.

Simon M	Your treading on very thin ice buddy. I think if you are impressed with your brothers wife, and would like to explore possibilities with her sister, then you had better take it up with your brother first

crunchymonkey	keep away from your brothers wife dude! not only is that really unfair on your brother but you will be deliberatly splitting up a family. leave your wife though if you are both after different things its time to move on.

ARTmom	I think you are more envious of the situation than wanting to cause a problem between you and your brother or his wife by saying all that. Talk to him,not her-tell him how you respect his relationship and life and see how much you would like the same for you. Talk with him about your marrige-go from there. Don't cause a problem by stumbling on the wrong statment.

Sam	this must be hard for you... You have 2 options 1. talk with your wife and discuss the things that bother you.. or 2. divorce. if you want kids and a wife who you would love to run home to. Are you happy with the relation ship you have right now? is your wife not good enough for you, or not pretty enough? whats the main problem? she doesn't want kids? you have to talk to her good luck on that.

FaerieWhings	Stop looking for an excuse out side of your marriage to leave your wife. Leave your wife if you are unhappy. But don't pursue another woman if you aren't at least separated. But if you seriously want one of her sisters, then be prepared to do what you brother did and take on that life.