How do I tell my soon to be ex that I'm dating someone else?

jess	sounds like he is already your ex................ no you dont have to tell him anything you dont have to answer to anyone but your self.................... what you do with your life now has nothing to do with your ex

Angelita Amante	Hm. Sorry to hear about the relationship with the soon to be ex husband. Well, i hope you've tried everything to mend the relationship but to no avail and I hope the other guy isn't just some sort of escape from emotional stress but rather, someone you truly connect with better than your Husband. Anyway, just tell him that you are unhappy in the relationship and that things aren't how they used to be (or something). You don't have to mention the other guy. Just tell him how you really feel about YOUR relationship with HIM. After all, the main reason is because the marriage is suffering, no? If he asks if you're seeing someone else, honestly tell him that you are. But otherwise, you don't need to get into it. If he suggests you try marriage counseling in attempts to work it out, i suggest you do try. After all, you married him for a reason.

mysty1969	I am not sure what you mean by your soon to be ex. Does that mean you are married, still living together, and have not yet been divorced, or even filed for divorce? If so then I would be a careful about dating. When the information gets out, and it will, it could lead to some trouble for you when it is settlement time. If you have worked out the details of the divorce, are living apart, gone to the judge, and are now waiting for it to be final then I don't think you need to share anything with ex.

Darlene C D	if it was me I say No!. do you have children together you and your EX- to be.if it was me I wouldn't say anything to him you just don't know what he will or might do.

auburn	I don't quite get your question. Are you living with your hubby or not? If you are still living with him then you have an obligation to get out as whether or not you feel you are still married you are living as husband and wife. You have no idea of how he views your relationship so therefore you are cheating on him. Either way of course he has a right to know.

makeloans2	Why bother? It's none of his business. He probably wouldn't tell you about anyone he's dating. Just let it be.

Alyssa <3	wow. this looks like a sticky situation. you have two main choices. you could: 1.) tell your husband now that you are dating someone else, and you want a divorce as soon as possible. (the only downside is this is more hurtful to your husband, and more wrong.) 2.) You could also keep the secret a little longer until you get officially divorced. then break the news. It wont seem as big of a deal if you're already divorced. I'm not sure if you and your husband have already talked about seperating, and if you have, choice 1 will be fine. if you have not talked about the divorce yet and he thinks everything is fine, choice 2 is probably better. i hope you work things out!

Allie	ya do it nicely but get it over with because the longer you wait the more it will hurt when you tell him. Good Luck! :)

eldots53	I think that is a really BAD idea. Whatever would you want to tell him for? First of all, as long as you are still LEGALLY married, you are - still married, whether you are separated or not, so it could rebound to your harm in any legal proceedings if your husband wanted to make use of this information. Second, it sounds as though you just want to rub it in to your current husband's face that you have "found happiness" with someone else. Be aware that you could just be on the rebound, and as much as you think your current squeeze is the greatest thing since a hot bath, it doesn't mean this might not blow up in your face. I cannot think of any kind or meaningful reasons your husband needs to know, so I would recommend you keep quiet.

Sunday's Best	If you're dating someone else, he's already your ex. Tell him before he finds out from someone else.

DJ M	you shouldn't be dating until you are legally divorced other wise its an affair and can be brought up in court as one, which will most likely mean that the judge will take things away from you.

ajordan971	Do not tell your ex anything! The beauty of separation and divorce is that what you do shouldn't matter anymore to the other. Any if it does, than you shouldn't be separated in the first place.

KingDavid	I will not even tell you what I really think,,,,,but just a thought,,don't you think it will be smarter to wait until your DIVORCE is final!?????

Barbi T	First of all, I'm glad you found someone you get along well with. But, I don't know that I'd say much if anything until you get to court and get that decree SIGNED by the judge, because until that judge signs your divorce decree, honey, you ain't divorced. You don't know what your soon-to-be ex might think or do if he finds out you're already seeing another man. Or, he may already know it, and doesn't care. In any case, I think I'd keep it still until AFTER your divorce is a done deal. You never know what might spark the fire so to speak. Good luck.

sarah B	yeah tell him and perhaps introduce them.. you deserve to be happy and your ex has no right to know anyways.... SB

l_luv_my_Sti	As soon as possible its better for him to hear it from you then someone else.

teeman824	If you are divorced you don't have to tell him anything.

Tomomi	Well, as youÂ´re talking about husband, I will tell you to tell him exactly how youÂ´re saying. The best way of saying something is to say them directly, in the most sincere way you can. In that way you will not hurt too much the person. If thereÂ´s a chance to see your husband it will be better, but if thereÂ´s no chance Tell him as soon as you can. Anyway if you donÂ´t want to break up with him, the relationship always must be sincere.; and I bet you have told yourselves the phrase "if you find someone else please tell me" so remember it. And maybe he will change to not let you go.

poker_fan_in_nyc	I am in the same situation as you but you are better off waiting till you are divorced because he could end up using it against you in court... Me and my -ex are friends and on good terms but still wouldn't want anything to go wrong in the end... Just wait...plus he is the last person you need to announce anything too...

KEMC	EVIL lol idk but do it with care

*Arielle*	bah humbug Hope this helps!! XOXO

jeanniep	I would wait until you are legally divorced, so he can't come back with you are cheating on me stuff. then you don't need to explain anything to him, you will be divorced and it's not his business.

?? yaddajean ??	If you guys aren't together anymore, what would be the point in telling him. I mean are you still living together or what. I dont see the reason for telling him, unless you are trying to torment him

Gilly137	Yes, but have an escape plan ahead of time. He may flip out and you don't want to be there when it happens. If things are bad enough that you are looking for someone else, you shouldn't make like things are good. Be honest, tell him and let him get on with his life too. Good luck

luvlisteningtomusic	Why do you feel the need to tell him. There is no need to tell your ex your private life. If it is over it is over. You do not want to feul the fire even more.

Twiggy	No why would feel a need to pronounce this? It will come out sooner or later.