How do you control your more "base" instincts and desires?

misha	mind over matter. if you can't control your thoughts, then how are you in control of your life? so take the wheel now.

pinkyismygirlfriendniluvhur	I can't I try and try , I can't though I know its one of the commandmenst, MOST people are lusting I think, at one time or another, I behave myself though, I don't insult anyone or even be rude AT ALL, and THAT is an accomplishment I'm trying to understand that being male, I am just sort of half of the equation, and I want to be near and with and around women and learn how to achieve approprite BALANCE with them.

Qyllix	Pick a song, and when they start, play the song in your mind. Both cant happen at the same time, you have control over what you think.

George	It's difficult. I'm one of the worst at trying to control it. Do you have a mate? Being honest and communicative with that one is a good start.

junkman	What is that saying "a idle mind is the devil's workshop" Think on other things, keep your eyes off other women

Laura H	Pray for God's help. Stay busy doing other things to keep your mind off it. Take a cold shower.

CC	Share with your spouse? That's sort of the idea...I assume you're married? I don't see how this is difficult, and if it is then you never really meant it when you said "I do" Have a good day

Txgirl23	Pray and distract yourself with more time consuming hobbies.

Bear	I find that you have to have something that you desire even more than these 'natural' tendencies. Focus on that true desire instead of avoiding the thoughts of the base ones. Also it helps to avoid situations that allow the thoughts to cultivate or even people who do not have the high standards that you are trying to set.. I know it is difficult in this world today but it is definitely doable. I like to think that the sacrifice (of social friends or lifestlye) makes the effort personally sacred.

voice_of_reason	dont' feed them when they come if you have issues with it and feel like they are harmful and lead to embarassment

Euthalia	I don't think that there is a way for you to get rid of those thoughts unless you start finding that person unattractive. Until then you have to learn how to control yourself and stay away from things that can cause you so much trouble in the future. Good luck and think clearly before you do anything!

la dolce vita	every time you have those thoughts go for a long and hard workout

98765	Love your husband or wife with respect first. Sacrifice yourself for their increase, even if it seems to cost you much. Love, as God intended, with loving kindness, no matter the cost. That selfishness of impurity will fall off you in no time if you follow the rules of Heaven. Pray and ask for that increase of purity.

joey322	i focus on my husband and how lustful i am for him. being around other men always makes me want to go home and jump on my husband. as for what i did BEFORE i got married....well, i gave into my lustful thoughts, of course!

CelticSaint	You answered your own question...INSTINCTS...you can't, that's why we have them, to mate, reproduce and replicate

i_luv_my_dad	Occupy your mind with something else, try to do something or some activity that makes you concentrate on the activity and not on those lustful thoughts. But really though, it's okay to have lustful thoughts sometimes, you can do that in your free time, no harm in it. :)

stacyc	Here is a tip if you are in a committed relationship with someone every time you have a lustful thought about someone else just say quickly how great they are (either as a person or in bed or whatever) more often than not you will start thinking about them so much your lust will be redirected toward them

Meichelle	I think its natural as long as you carry out those thoughts with your girlfriend/wife if you have one. Don't be a cheater.

BabeHart	It takes some willpower and concentration, but even if you cannot get them out of your head every time you want to, it's still within your control to act on them or not. One of the things that separates us from other animals is that we don't always act on our baser instincts...we have the power of self control and considered decision.

katydid	I look at the man I married and contemplate what life would be without him. It would never be worth it.

sweetladytease	The reality is you can't but you can control them by doing them in real life.

kkapustka	I can't but I use them when I'm with my husband. He thinks he gets me that {Happy} I keep faithful. Good luck

Jessie	keep ur mind busy....too much free time allows for such thoughts to keep popping up

qman	Marry a hot woman to start with.

pussycat	I don't; instead I direct those thoughts toward the one I love.