How do you handle a sassy, mouthy child or one who swears at you or calls you names?

Becky Jo	Beat the shlt outa them.

MRS.SAENZ	slap the sh*t outta them! kids now a days need that old discipline. the way life is now a days that is the only way of saving your kid. kids are the way they are because of no discipline!!!! im just about to have my first child and i am definetly going to do the things my mom did........ how many of you know "the look" :) hahaha. that look was enough to know that you were gonna get it.:) being in a store and getting pinched, being put in the corner. toys being taken away or the things that meant the most to me. being grounded. no playing with friends outside, no tv. yup.that is how it should be. my mom didnt do that to my lil bro cause he is the baby but now she wishes she did.

jhae l	take away every thing!!!!

mrs_endless	Well the child is certainly headed down the path to self destruction. #1 you do not put up with it.....you correct it by grounding, taking away favorite privileges, maybe even a spanking. If you are the parent then start parenting....you child's future depends on it.....you must have rules in your family now.....and you must make sure that all children stick to them....other wise....this child is going ot end up on drugs, alcohol, if it is a female, she may very well end up pregnant.. You must demand respect......and set for these rules.....the rules and boundaries are for the child's safety. Will they like them after being allowed to run free....oh NO, it is actually going to get worse b4 it gets better.....you have to remember and remind.....who the adult is in the family.

Sandy K	What the hell? Oh hell no, you cant let that keep going on. You need to take that kid by the collar and smack him around. He has got to know who is boss. My boys have never talked back to me, they know if they even think about it Im going to pull a Madia on them and grab the bag of belts out of the closet!

jo k	Ignore the child when thes behavior is going on .I have a 10 year old and 4 other children and we have learned to completeley ignore him his behavior seems to be getting better,we tried the smacking and sending to room and various other things but ignorng him works best , hes not getting the attention he wants ,when hes behaving we give him heaps of attintion. Good luck.........

susie	Well it depends on the age of the child for the most part. Time out would be a solution for any child but you have to be consistent about it. Take away privileges such a television, music, computer, spending time with friends. Hopefully the child will eventually realize that they can not get by with treating you that way.

Jane Marple	May I point to you that you are in the 'Marriage & Divorce' catetory....I know I got confused at first too! (I noticed that your last 6 questions were about how to raise children)

daljack -a girl	It should have started when the child was very young. Now you're going to have to take things away and give restrictions.....and stick to them....no matter how hard it may be. Children need to know about consequences for their actions.

April	By all of you realizing that you are a dis-functional parent -- biological or step, and getting into counseling.

Psyched Gabby	Nowadays, there's not much you can do. I'm not that old but when I was a child my mother would have spanked us good if we dared talk back. It's sad your child does that but try not to give him to much attention when he is engaging in bad behavior. Try to, instead, encourage his good behavior by giving him some sort of praise when he is doing something good.

good_fatrabbit	very simple,kick his spoiled @ss

openminded	I have no idea. My kids would never do that. 8 and 13 and we have respect for eachother. Who said a single mom can't do it all!

iyamacog	A bar of soap worked in our household. Especially when it sticks to the teeth. It usually never required a repeat performance. Once was quite enough.

Mary M	You might want to try family meetings. Let your child express him/her openly.There most likely is a hiden problem that you don't know about. You could also.Buy your child a book to wight in.When she/he gets mad they can put it all on paper. Taking their stuff away is not the answer nether is beating the child's butt. You have to look deeper then all that crap.

kjnsr	as we say in the country " jack them jaws" or a swift spanking is in order. But I will admit if had beeen my child they would have picked their *** off the floor

NCA	don't give them anything they ask for unless they do it politely, and simply ignore any sass. dont show that it affects you- there'll b no point if it has no effect. kids derive satisfaction from bringing out reactions. ALSO depending on the kids age you might need to explain the problems of being so rude. but dont shout- talk calmy and be clear on what you want. spanking also works...but it depends on the age. and spanking for correction...kinda like to shock the child. not to actually hurt them!

Charly	I was just that way, heck I still am, but my mom still always laid down the rules and if I broke them I was wacked with a belt on the butt, lost TV or Computer Privalages, or had extra chores. I think they are decent ideas to try.

doinitthamexicanway	i would like to know that myself...3 of my 4 children scream, kick, hit, back talk and ect. ect. some days i just sit down to cry!!

bela	u need to take everything they need off of them. there toys, there phones and don't let them see there mates on the wkends. when they start being good and behaving themselves give one thing back at a time. if they start miss behaving again then take it back off of them. we did this to our kids, in the first 2wks they had to show us they could behave even when they did they didn't get anything back because we had to make them understand. it works very well, trust me. they are better behaved then they have been...still got a lot to learn but they are only young. and children they just like to test us to see how far they can get. we let our kids know that they won't get anywhere. ***good luck, tell me how it goes.

KAT	If you do not react when they say something sassy, it means nothing to them. They are looking for a reaction. If you cannot help but say something, say " No!!! That is not nice to say to anybody". It takes a lot of control, but they will get the hang of it. Kind of like if you had to teach them a sleep pattern when they were a baby. Eventually, if you keep up with it(consistent every time), they will get the picture. If you hit, they will hit. Good luck.

Cara d.	You need to tell them that you won't put up with the way they are talking to you, and tell them who do you think you are, im the boss of you and you won't speak to me like that.

Lydia	Parent him or her MUCH better.

Rhapsody	I'll probably get several thumbs downs for answering this but I seriously wouldn't tolerate that kind of behavior no matter what the age of the child was. I am pro-spanking (no not beating) and I believe in this case it would be of benefit to the child in question. If the child is toddler age, I light smack on the bottom won't hurt him/her and will help them realize that this type of language won't be accepted. If the child is older, a couple swats won't do permanent damage. My mother always threatened to wash my mouth out with soap-but I would advise against that! You could try the 'ole hot sauce trick. (Unless the child likes spicy food). Hope this helps.

daisyrose	is the your child ... if so you better put your foot down and teach him or her some repect and manners for it to late ...

?	spank there *** and if that doesn't work threaten to send them to someone who can handle them

Royalhinney	Depends on the age of the child. I always found that a good punishment is to remove the things that they love the most...the video games, the TV, the computer, the stereo. I use to give my kids standards to do as well. Don't just ground them and send them to their room! It's like Disneyland in there and they will actually enjoy it.

Ralph	Smack the **** out of him/her

?	Pretend to yell at them but just move your lips without sound coming out. When they wonder what is going on, tell them God is making them go deaf because they are being sassy.

rollo_tomassi423	Assuming you are talking about your own child, you make sure that you never give in to that kind of behavior. If your kid wants something from you, they will then learn not to act that way. Yeah, and spanking is a great idea too, if you just want to release your frustrations in some manner. Only problem is, it does not work. The kid will just continue to mouth off behind your back and only learns how to be a bully as well as a smarta**.