How do you start your life over again your early 30's?

santabuck54	I would suggest meeting new people through friends. Sometimes a friend will know someone, or of someone that is single and maybe in the same situation ........ looking to find someone after being in a long relationship or marriage that has now gone south is daunting. I know from experience, the rules in dating have changed and it's a lot tougher to find that " right " person. Don't give up or fall back on that "maybe this is how my life is supposed to be" feeling. There is another person out there for you and you will find them or maybe they will find you, when you least expect it.

luvz_pussee	just do it, you'll figure it out as u go...

Owen E	Ever considered a hobby or going to church start going to functions that you enjoy who knows maybe you find the next love of your life at one of these events. Just have to hop back on the saddle remember it's just like riding a bike once you learn you never forget. It make take time to get up the nerve to talk to complete strangers. You will come around when you realize nothing is going to happen unless you make advances.

Level 7 is Best	This is the PERFECT age to reinvent yourself. Make new habits, force yourself outside your comfort zone. Stop asking questions on Y!A and get the h*ll out of the house!

Skylight	Pray, go to Church, and things will work out.

Gyan B	Share yr experience of life for the benefit of others,specially youngsters who are startingt heir married life.Don't feel shy if the kids start u calling uncle.It happens with everyone.Join gatherings and feel young.Do not allow yr age to overshadowed yr personality.

Typing Tornado	Hello Nicky. I'm sending you hugs. Have you tried on-line dating services? Even if you aren't ready to start dating yet, many of them have the option of selecting "just friends". A friend of mine uses Plentyoffish.com - here's the link. http://www.plentyoffish.com/inbox.aspx A lot of these dating services also offer weekly or monthly get-togethers that are apparently lots of fun. You're still very young - you'll survive this. I left my hubby at the age of 35 (I'm 42 now). Most times I love being single (when I have to shovel my own drive way I sometimes wish I was married again - lol). If you need someone to talk to e-mail me through Yahoo Answers. I'll give you my real e-mail address. Take care, hun.

celticbuddha	a lot of cities, nowadays, have what are sort of support/meet up groups for singles and/or recently single that are geared towards older people, like those in their 30s, 40s, and so on. since you aren't into the whole bar scene. i'd suggest finding out what sort of nightlife stuff there is in your town. such as art gallery openings, they tend to have an older more mature crowd. best bet is to decide as to what sort of person you'd like to date, what sort of qualities you'd like them to have, and think where they would be mostly to be hanging out at, and go there. for instance, if you want a sports minded woman, there are business women who do go out with the co-workers for buffalo wings and beer at sports bars for the big games.

blue	Do not despair. You need to get out with your friends, learn a new hobby, get on the internet, join a chatroom-you may want to go to church, start a conversation with someone at the grocery store-ask your friends what they do and sometimes they can hook you up-i know its hard-Ive been there-just pick yourself up-brush yourself off and get lookin! Good Lck!

girleyworley	start building some online friendships with like yahoo 360, and my space. Then you can pick and choose who you have friendships with and take your time do not rush into anything b/c you never know what kind of freak you will meet online.

Olivia	Early 30's??? Mid-life crisis??? Honey, your life is JUST BEGINNING. Go back to school, join some groups, hang out with friends...you don't have to go to the bars to have a social life. There's always myspace-sign up and meet some people. Don't feel lost, you have your life ahead of you, sounds like you are maturing and trying to figure out who you are and what you want to do with your life. I went through the same thing, it will get easier.

ruebezahl2001	I can completely understand you. First you have to get used to being by yourself. You will see it's not so bad after some time. Sign up to a gym, go to places like museums, parks. Try meetup.com

palv d	start mastering and memorising today"s music. if you love the music of today, you will never get older

timssterling	Go to church or take a yoga class or martial arts or something that puts you around other people and youll start developing a network of friends and that will get you on the way!

helly	Find new hobbies and interests that involve meeting other people. Maybe take up an evening class to learn a new skill, or take up dance classes. Whatever you enjoy doing, make it a social thing, so you will meet other people who enjoy the same things you do. You're still young, you know! I'm in my early 30s too. If my marriage ended, I know I wouldn't be short of things to do with myself. Call up your friends and go out together.

pooh	you dont know life it hasnt kicked in wait till you get in the mid 40 right now you are still wet excuse my french you havent lived your life yet to soon to make that old man move good luck there are some down to earth slow woman out there that are not ready for the nursing home good luck go get them tiger

CF_	what do you mean "re join life" when did you stop living?? my first husband died when I was 35.. I was quite happy doing my own thing.. didnt need to worry about being single.. never did... I never lost touch with life.. I had hobbies (painting, gardening etc) and just enjoyed those.. I never really felt lost - well maybe for a month or so - but that was it.. I met somebody by chance - not by looking - the problem is that when you are looking you are likely to meet somebody who is looking for a vulnerable person to take advantage of... this is how many women are hurt - emotionally and financially.. become comfortable with yourself and enjoy being single.. dont become despirate - dont become needy of another person to make you feel whole - if you do you will never be whole.

TimWarneka	Consider working with a good counselor or life coach. You'll need support as you launch this new phase of your life.

Betty	Join a sports team, the gym, volunteer, etc. I met my 33 yr old bf a year ago through sports. We were both new to the city, recently out of long term relationships, and had no idea where to start over!! We both figured our dating lives were through....now we're living together with a child on the way, and happier than we could have imagined!

Neenie	Start with Jesus and everything else will line up.

Jennifer	I'm 26 and going through the same thing. I've been meeting a lot of new friends through networking events for my professional life. You'd be amazed at how many young single professionals there are. Church is another good way of meeting people. I've also tried dating from www.match.com, and met some new people that I didn't have connections with but that I consider friends. Just give it some time, things will look up before you know it. Afterall, you're lucky, you have a new lease on life!!

terry t	it is really hard to meet people now a days- im a single mom of 3 my boys are grown- i do go out once in a while but there is nothing out there. maybe try a singles club or some bars/night clubs have a singles nite, you could try that. look into joining some on line dating sites- there are a bunch of those- you can meet people to talk to-

Ross	get into clubs a gym or courses ....go to clubs at the weekends...look on line......just go for it ...its not the end.....what are you rushing for...

Momu	You've been with some one for a long time. This is good for you to give yourself some time alone and get to know yourself...maybe the new you. "Life beggins at 30". It's not too late to start your life all over again. Be active with your life. Do volunteer work. Find a new hobby instead of partying. Focus on your career. Keep your focus on yourself.

Daisey M	Typically, it has been my experience and observation that a single lifestyle is complemented by a career lifestyle. If you are gainfully employed, like types tend to gather after office/work hours. That could be a good starting point. Also, hobbies tend to be another good place to find others to be social.

nomorenoodles	Maybe try joining a church or other faith-based community (if you're into that). Or try an online dating service. Lots of people use them nowdays! It would be a great way to meet people in your area, and do some casual dating. Don't be afraid to talk to new people. Things will get better!!!

Stuey	Get out of your routine!!! It probably consists of the same thing day in and day out. You are most likely living the life of someone who is still married. The fact of the matter is, there are still a lot of people (like me) who are looking for our first time marriage. You can only help with your experience. You got a new shot at life hun. Take it.

Yvette D	I know how you feel...I was with my ex husband since I was 15 years old and we got married when Iwas 21 and we have two children together...I'm 30 now and life seems so different now that I'm divorce. It seems like I was trapped in a time zone where he and I lived and nothing else matter...I realized that I need to get out and meet new people...Although I myself am also over the party life going out with mutual friends helps open the doors for potential new people...Don't overwhelm yourself and don't get discourage...But, also don't become a piece of furniture at home...Have fun and enjoy your free time..

C>/	Early 30's? You've barely started your life and you act like it's already over. That should be your first clue.

sw	go to bars