How do you tell a coworker that her husband is cheating on her with his secretary?

ms becca	thats a tough one. lets see i think i would write it in a letter and have it be annonomous. but they may not believe it so maybe try to figure out a time when you know the cheaters will be cheating and try to get the spouse there. if you are close to the co-worker perhaps they will trust you if you just honestly tell them in person everything you know or have seen.

Jane	you don't

Stephanie S	When some people see this question they will most likely say its none of ur business but is this coworker of urs a good friend? does she help u out when u need it during work? if so then u should tell her but there is a chance she might think that ur either lying or why are u telling this to her when its none of ur business, and how do u know? anyway just tell her if u want to but think of what she might say...well good luck with whatever u decide to do

Henrietta N	HEY IF UR HUSBAND OR WIFE WERE CHEATING ON U WULDN'T U WANT SOMEBODY 2 TELL U. NOT TELLING SOME1 IS JUST AS BAD AS U DOING IT URSELF. ITZ LIKE U SUPPORT WHAT HER HUSBAND IS DOING. IF THIS WAS BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND I WULD BE A LITTLE LIENT BUT THERE MARRIED HE MADE A COMMITMENT, SHE REALLY SHULD KNO. NO MATTER WAT.

Josie826	I would say, don't get involved. If you and her were really good friends, that would be different and you should tell her. But since you are both just co-workers, I would let it go.

finewine	You don't! It is none of your busines.

chrisarea_99	i wouldn't but if you must then make sure you show her and not tell her. let her see for herself with your help. usually i stay out of things like that cause it could easily turn around on you even though you were only trying to help. he'll only lie and she'll probably believe him and hate you. so help her "see" instead of hear.

wwwdardar	take a picther in leave it on her desk and a envelope

lyn	JUST STAY OUT OF IT. SHE MIGHT KNOW AND IS DEALING WITH IT. IT COULD JUST BE A BAD RUMOR. SHE'LL FIND OUT SOMETIME.

thethursttee1	Send an anonymous note with a picture to her house with no return address. Dont mail it from your neighborhood. My girlfriend did it and it worked.

Revenant	You don't. Honestly, it's not your business or your place. Avoid the drama of putting yourself in the middle of that.

timetraveller	You don't you keep your mouth shut and mind your own business.

Mad Dog Johnson	don't get in the middle of that one! But... if you must be very very subtle! like full color 8x10 photo's in the mail

hum	with a christmas card.

rainchaser77	You don't. It's between the two (or three) of them and none of your concern. I certainly wouldn't appreciate hearing something like that from a coworker. Getting involved in a marriage is iffy even if it's a friend or family member, but a definite no-no between coworkers.

Chula	You don't. It's none of your business. And she probably already knows anyway. If it was your sister that would be a different story, but at work it just gets ugly and could turn out really, really bad for you.

The Indigo Cobra	get a life, it's totally none of your business (was the scecretary hot?)

Andrea Girl	well just tell her that she is better than that and she doesnt deserve someone that cheats on her

nottashygirl	Stay out of it. It's not your business, or your duty to tell her anything. You will risk your job and your relationship with her. Stay out of it. I know you mean well, but she is going to take it out on you...even if she doesn't mean to. Nothing good can come out of it, and I wouldn't want to be the ultimate bearer of bad news.

Crystal B	You don't tell the coworker... unless the coworker is your wife.

bbq	you don't. however that being said that doesn't mean you couldnt arrange something where she might find out for herself ;)

misty blue	I would stay out of it, because sooner or later she will find out,

Catwoman	umm wow.....well just write a note or/and video tape it

LMDDMLM	How do you know?

bold_pleasure	How do you know?

goodhrtdgrl	I would sit her down and tell her. Be direct and to the point. What she decides to do with the information is up to her.

dianesomeone	don't.....

Clarkie	Don't tell her

happyha31	It is none of your business.