How to deal with an unfaithful wife?

tonima	let her realize that u r the most faithful to her.

chunkybaby	move on ,why do men do this accept this type of marriages why stay with someone who doesn't love you? when someone truly loves you they dont cheat!!

sunshine	I WAS HAPPY TO SEE YOUR COMMENT ABOUT YOU NOT CHEATING. ONE QUESTION, DO YOU WANT SOMEONE LIKE YOUR WIFE RAISING YOUR SON? WHY DON'T YOU LET HER GO AND GET CUSTODY OF YOUR SON. CONSULT AN ATTORNEY AND MAYBE YOU CAN GET PROOF OF HER CHEATING, THIS WILL HELP YOU CASE, MAYBE. THEY CAN ANSWER ALL YOUR QUESTIONS. WOW, SHE LOVES YOUR SON SO MUCH. GREAT EXAMPLE SHE SETS. SOUND LIKE YOU DESERVE BETTER. BEST TO BE ALONE THAN WITH SOMEONE LIKE THIS, UNLESS OF COURSE, YOU LIKE SETTLING FOR THIS LIFE.

Nico Q	Set her Free. Re-focus your energy to your son and you must take all efforts to take custody of your child. File a divorce case and just let her go. Men are born with strong will - the WILL TO LET GO and move on. You will find true love soon and dont lose hope, the right woman will come across your way and love you for who you are.

OleMarbleEyes	Dude...she is having a full blown affair on you right now. Been there myself and I can tell you what the cheaters credo is: Lie...Lie...Lie If caught...deny...deny...deny Since she has a history of cheating, this is a repeat performance. Especially since she has told you that she doesn't care if you "hook" up. Deferring guilt is another tactic, if you step out, she feels less guilty and in fact can internally justify her own actions. Get your ducks in a row, hire a Private Investigator to get evidence and take her in front of a judge. Shoot for custody and if you own a home, go for it too as your child should remain in the "marital" home. It's a rough road, but you can make it.

jay	When cheating is involved there is always an underlying reason that is not obvious on the top...and very few even know why its happening and will give any excuse they can think of as the reason...like freedom in this case? but from what? responsibility ? boredom? or something else... How to deal with it depends on what you want to happen. If you want the marriage to continue then you need both parties to agree there is something worth saving. She at this time doesnt think so, so that means you will have to do some convincing that your relationship is worth every effort you both put into it to make it work. Marriage is not a 50% 50% effort and committment needed to make it work....its a 100% 100% committment thats needed. Your wife says she would be happy for you to have another woman..doesnt sound like you would you be happy in a 3 way relationship? Equally would you be happy in a 3 way relationship with another man in her life and keeping your marriage together? If you dont fix things within yourselves now another relationship is unlikely to fix it either, however we are all individuals and I do know of a few that have a 3 way relationship MMF with the blessings of all 3 and have been that way happily for years. This needs communication between the two of you and professional help from good counsellors and maybe some group therapy would be an advantage to steer you both in the right direction. You have a child that needs a stable family environment to grow up well balanced, peaceful and happy within, and for that to happen its parents need to clear the gunk out thats accumulated over the years of their own upbringing and attitudes. It is worth it to each of you personally to do this no matter what happens anyway and if after that you choose to continue your marriage you could have a very stable relationship full of love peace and happiness that can handle any crisis that comes up with a wisdom gratitude and care. Just my thoughts. Best wishes.

johnny	very difficult hate to be cheated on talk to her if she no longer in love with u think about getting couples counselling, if not then divorce probably on the cards, protect your interest then take time and think about dating again there are lots of sweet girls out there who can make u happy again, take care

Michael S	move on to the next crazy women in your life, but make her pay her share of the debt.

Ole Whoopsie Daisy	Mike Tyson would punch her in the uterus

mixershaun	see a lawyer

porkrin	Hard question bud. Well I also have been the dealing with my wifes cheating issues. We have been together for 4 years and married for 2. She cheated on me 2 times that i know of and i am still with her cause she wants to be with me. Now this is how i feel about it, i have to ever day look her in the eye tell my self to trust her and to lover and that she wont do it again. We have a child so i understand fully. Here is what i suggest, give your relationship every chance you would give your child. A broken home is not an easy place to grow up. Show her the man that she fell in love with and ask your self why did she fall for me. In the end thou there is only one answer to make the pain end one day and the healing to start and that is a deivorce.

trish p	I have an ex friend ho id the same to her husband. i feel for u. here is what you do. you do not deal with ur unfaithful wife, you leave her! I am sorry to say but she will never change and you will always have this problem as long as you are with her. as far as you hooking up with another women, you don't have to do that untill you are ready. the reason you feel like you are cheating on your son is because to you , you see your son as your family, which includes you wife, so by seeing another women you feel like u r cheating, that is a normal reaction. I think you should give your wife her freedom, as she takes it anyway. your money problems will get better as soon as you only have them to work on and not a marriage that you only want to work. I hope ou take this advice. there are women out there who love marriage and are faith-full. good luck to you.

waiting for baby	Your wife have issues maybe you shoul separate if you do I would advise you to talk to her about taken your son while she has her freedom to do as she pleases

Sara	Hi i am so sorry about what is happening with you and your wife....im not going to tell u to c a marriage councelor cause i know not everyone has access to such services.Try talking to her...but i think that u should let her go.She doesnt seem to be honest from what you have said.I'll pray for u.Good luck

Marty K	You have moral and legal grounds for divorce. It is important that you gain legal custody of your son. Your wife really should not even have any visitation rights and should not be allowed with 5 miles of him, as far as I'm concerned. However, the legal system has become very biased and is often in favor of WOMEN! You could be deemed unfit by reason of gender alone and could lose custody to your sick wife. I would get a good attorney, though and proceed with divorce if that's the route you deem necessary. Normally I would recommend continuing to try to make things work, but I don't know what else to tell you if your wife remains stubborn and unfaithful.

Rod	Get out of the marriage. Why should you let her make you feel 2nd rate and humiliated. You will survive and thrive without her. Don't you deserve more?

â™¥2323vsb	you know what? i'm dealing with a cheating husband. tell that wife of yours to go to he!!. that's what i'm about to do. kids or not, cheating is unforgivable. especially if they are wanting "space". whatever.tell her to go be the hore that she is.(obviously, i'm p.o'ed!)

BREE	You know sometimes it's after the fact, that we realize we have for some unknown reason, out grown a partner, or spouse, these things happen, but you must also ask yourself, have your behavior changed in any way to make your wife think differently about you...oh and the checking the cell phone, and reading her messages is not cool no matter how desperate you become...i guess the most important thing here is your little son who is innocent in all of this...you and your wife need to sit down and discuss where you go from here, if there's no way back for you, make sure that little boy knows this is not his fault, because that's the first thing children do is blame themselves, and both of you let him know this, and that no matter what happens you both love him very much...it's hard i know for you right now, but it will be even harder for your son...do everything in your power to protect him, he takes priority now...you have to face the fact she no longer loves you, if she is encouraging you to be with another woman, sorry she has lost love, and respect for you as her husband, be strong for yourself, but most of all for that little boy who still needs you. Goo Luck.

GrnApl	This is a very sad situation that all too often happens to many but not all. It is commonly known as a 7 yr. itch. While that isn't a valid excuse there seems to be a transitional period. The fact that she is entertaining msgs of that nature only serves to cultivate her desire. She is taking you for granted and doesn't realize it yet. She wants you to be a partner in her "crime". Keep your integrity it may serve to give you custody of your son which is the primary concern. Don't seperate from her divorce her if she insists on this course. Believe me she will Regret it one day but she will have to find that out on her own. By then hopefully you will have established a solid relationship. Best Wishes!

plinky	it is pretty hard to stay with the person who does not love you anymore. you better talk to each other, have a final decision. see counseling,

joe	Flogg the h*!

meandragon	ditch her

baby	I think your wife is wrong for being unfaithful.I think the financial difficult is a huge part in why she want her freedom.The other men caught her eye and she think by telling you all this is her freeway out of the marriage.I think you should get your finance in order and dont let her get away that easy.Let her know how you feel about all this.

Teri M	hello wake up! once a cheater always a cheater.!! been there done that , my x husband did it to me. i found out i was having a baby in the middle of everything.if u want a divorce do It now while the little guy is young. but u need to get out of that relationship. good luck

chona a	It's truly a hurtful feeling to know that the woman of your life has cheated you...I also give you my high regards to be able to forgive her...But I would also say that it's better to let her go if she wanted separation rather than to see her committing the same sin all over again. Try to accept things though how hard it is...Give yourself a break....I know another woman will come into your life who deserves your faithfulness, love and dedication...and will give you a happy married life that you deserve to have. Goodluck and God Bless!!!

sscott12414	Have you asked her about the msgs on the cell? You need to decide what is the best for you and your son. You also need remember that you and your wife are setting examples of how a marriage is suppose to be. The relationships that a child sees there parents in are what he used when he gets older. Not only the fact that maybe she really isn't really for the whole marriage thing and, if that is something that you can't live with, then you need to let her go so that she can find what she need and you can find what you need. Two people that love a child can work together and raise a great child even if they are not together as long as they put that child first.

Soul Sista	You two maybe need to see a psychiatrist for your issues. good Luck with your marriage buddy.

best.hummmmmmmer	she is not happy with you. avoid her and give her freedom !!

Dude	Drop her. It is impossible to make it work by yourself. She wants you to hookup with another woman that way she can justify her consience for cheating on you. When money is tight people tend to feel boxed in. It is usually the reason for most divorces. You either have to work it out truthfully or end it all together truthfully. A man can not build a future with a woman who is half comitted. She will help you build or help destroy your home... sorry there is no other choices.