Husband and wife having holidays without each other

Husband and wife having holidays without each other - is that odd?

We have a 6 year old daughter , have been together 10 years and love each other very much. We have 1 or 2 holidays a year together and once a year I go away for a few days with my daughter and my friend and her daughter. Another time he takes her away either with his brother and their little one or just the two of them. This suits us very well as he works long hours and loves to spend time just the two of them and I like the opportunity to get decorating or spring cleaning jobs done unpestered. My husband is upset because the manager at the warehouse where he works has said that's odd and shows that there is a problem in our marriage. He told him it was none of his business but I wondered - does anyone else think its odd? It seems there is a rumour now that our marriage is on the rocks and wondered how many people would interpret this that way? We are going away for a week just the two of us in February to celebrate 10 years together.

muddlingalong	good grief, does the manager of a warehouse have nothing better to do than comment on other people's family arrangements? you would have thought that maybe he would be more interested in the accounts or business. It's Nothing To Do With Him! You sound to me like you two have a fabulous arrangement worked out, that suits you both. Ignore the man. He knows nothing about you and is quite possibly jealous enjoy your time away in february send him a post card!

Jessica	if you are also planning to go away alone together and want to be alone together as well, I think its great.

icewitch54	It may not show as a problem in your marriage. If it works for both of you it may well be what keeps your marriage healthy.

thinker bell	sometimes people need their own space to grow and there is nothing wrong with that. I am sure that a short look into the manager love life will show that actually the real trouble is in their life and not in your hubby

Robin	The way you described it sounds great to me. We all need alone time. Now if you two were always going off with just friends without each other or your child that would seem a bit odd. But your scenario sounds healthy. Who cares what they think.

Mark	It's not weird at all. My wife and I travel together most of the time, but occassionally she goes with friends on a trip. Or I go with my buddies somewhere. It's no big deal.

xxx	It sounds like a divorced couple but after all it is your life so you should do whatever makes you happy. As long as you trust each other I don`t see any problem.

acmeraven	Nothing odd at all in my humble opinion. My wife takes off and visits daughters and grandchildren for a week or so at various times every year. What with the booming economy and cheerful economic news it is getting harder and harder to not work.

Lauren	From an outsider's perspective it probably would sound a bit odd and may seem as though there are problems in your marriage, but the only thing that matters is that the two of you know the truth, so who cares what anyone else thinks! Like said above, it is healthy to have time apart and it's good for each of you to have special quality time with your daughter, I bet she loves being spoiled twice over!

say it all...	No it's not odd. You are two separate people that got married...you are still allowed to have separate moments...

Katie M	Your husband needs to think for himself. If it works for you and your husband, there isn't a problem. My husband and I take SOME vacations separately but we still enjoy our vacations together.

Courtney	I think it's healthy for you two to spend a little time apart every now and then. It makes you appreciate what you got waiting for u back home. And screw his manager, that guy's probably divorced and unhappy!