Husband is looking at other girls!!! Is this normal?

Karen	I think that it is normal for anyone to look at an attractive person, but not to stare. It is also completely disrespectful to you, as his wife, for your husband to stare down a girl in your presence. Unless if your husband is intellectually challenged or completely heartless he should know better. If checking out that girl was more important to him then your feelings, then he isn't being a good husband. When he married you he made the decision to be with you and you only and that includes "looking".....why does he need to look?....he has you! I believe that staring and dreaming is being unfaithful....especially if it's done in your presence with complete disregard for your feelings.

dazed and confused	I'm not married or anything but I've been with my boyfriend for a while now and he takes a couple glances at attractive women every now and then and that's completely normal..boys will be boys ya know? but i don't usually mind because i know at the end of the day, he's with me and i just keep that in mind.. now staring at someone that excessively is a little different, you should talk to him about that. Usually when i notice my guy checking out another girl. I'll comment on her looks before he can.. I'll say something like "hm that girl has a nice figure." and just say it very nonchalant and act like its nothing, that's usually when he notices that I've noticed what he's lookin at and then he'll usually say something stupid like "oh, i didn't notice" even though you both know differently but i just brush it off...and sometimes I'll kind of make a joke out of it i guess and it takes off any kind of tension in the situation. i hope this helps. Good Luck!!

RD	Well I'm sure that a lot of guys are going to answer this and say that it's normal. In today's world, it is normal, but that does not mean that it's right. When you marry someone you are supposed to love them and respect them. Loving and respecting your wife is not looking at other girls while she is right beside you, that is very disrespectful and you don't have to take that crap. I'm not saying that he can't look ever, but he definitely should not be looking while you are with him, I know how much that hurts, my ex wife would always do that to me. Guys are attracted to the way a girl looks because they are beautiful, and they are going to look, but looking at a girl while your wife is standing next to you shows you the blatant disrespect he has for you. Tell him it's not right. I never did that to my wife or girlfriends, I look when they weren't around though, but not in front of them. I loved them. Sorry he made you feel bad and probably lowered your self-esteem a little, good luck.

Michael T	He is not a freak. Guy look and watch. Haven't you seen that AT&T add where the guy watches the girls in the reflection on his cellphone as they walk by. Tell him it hurts your feelings. He'll try to cut it back.

Teenie	Yes it's normal to look but not stare at her that's so disrespectful . You better check your husband or do it to him give him a taste of his own medicine.

johnbenn_2000	I always understood that as a married man we could look all we wanted, just not touch.

None of your buisness	I would've cussed him out up and down in the parking lot.

Anna	normal are not he should have more respect for you than that, and consider your feelings on how it makes you feel.which is not good,, un-attractive and make you think you don't have it as once like before and that he's not satisified with the way you look anymore and he looks elsewhere. and im sorry but some men can be dogs about stuff.

p money	Ohh my gosh i just saw something like this the other day on you tube !!!!!! It is destiny for me to answer ur question!!! watch this: http://www.youtube.com/watchv=ZkJ7ETnz4Fo&watch_response and read the comment on bottom by BosnianVillain.....ok i will write it here: We are also animals our selfs.We are just smart enouph to not call our self that:P We live in colonies,we make nests,we gather food and so on. Being "smart" is not about knowing everything,it about finding a solution or answer to something u dont know.Thats were the rest of the animals fail.Thats the pruve that he loves you if he is looking at others and still stays with u.There is always some1 better and prettier then u out there.. Oh and also..... Women dont seem to want to understand men.Its not really that hard,just look at nature.Males are about mating with as much females as posible.Now we came up with a paper called "marrige",thats not going to change our genes lol

Purrsona	Yes, its normal. But you might find it easier to let him know you know hes looking by saying something like. "Cute, isnt she?" ..

Magnolia	Yes its normal =P To go farther than looking isn't so don't let it get to deep. Marriage is SUPPOSED to be a life long commitment remind him that but don't drive him away. If it gets worse talk to him not too dramatic guys hate that. If it got to the worse point get help from a therapists or something? Hope it Helps but its Normal Morgan<3

Hot to Trot	Relax. Guys don't get special "never look at another girl" blinders after getting married. Men will always look at pretty girls, but usually try ti be discreet. I look, but I would never do anything. Nothing would be worth risking the life I have with my wife. She know this too. Sometimes, if the girl is super model hot, my wife will point her out so I don't miss! He is just being normal, don't worry.

macandy	the time to worry is when he stops lookin! when he does thar it means hes found something!

rebecca	Normal and annoying. My husband was blatantly watching this chic's butt at a restaurant - to the point of stretching and looking backwards at her. When I confronted him, he claimed to be staring at the ceiling fan. Truth is, most of the time they have NO CLUE they're doing it. It's ok to let him know you caught him looking and let him know it bothers you. He'll probably deny it vehemently. I always let my husband know when I've caught him - or I point out nice-looking girls before he can see them so that it becomes my fault he looked. It stresses me out less that way. It has become sort of our 'thing'.

melissa_annemarie	yes it is normal.I dont blame you for getting hurt by his looking so many times,but it is normal for a guy married or not to look/gaze etc.

rie	I know that my husband sees pretty women even when he's with me,but he's politely discreet & I never notice.Tell him,& if he doesn't stop...give him a dose of his own medicine,& see how he likes it.

zestysesky	Come on now, yes, it's a little hurtful, but at least he was just looking in the candy shop windows and not inside fingering all the goodies. He was going home with you.

paulcrsm	My wife says that the day that I stop looking, she'll know that she's going to have troubles.

TheFlowerLady	Well, do you want him to look at other guys? He's married not dead.

I hate stupid people	that's crap, i'd kick his ***!! It's one thing to look when he's by himself, but when his wife is right there?!?! screw that man!!

Bob	Absolutely. I even know some straight women who will check out a woman if she is hot enough.

MikeyintheOC	Heck you even noticed! Normal.

Julia	u should have called him out on it at the time! thats just disrespectful and rude. check out some guys but make it obvious so he realizes and see how he likes it

dude d	yes its normal, but if he ignores you then u got a problem, also if u dont like this try loving him more show him ur the best and no matter how hot another women is she can never take ur place

nevesxr	Do you ever look at other men?

Meagan	yes its normal just as long as hes not touching or screwing

Jeffy.	Normal to want to but not normal to give in.