I'm cheating on my husband, and he things were friends.?

noitall	You needed to fix your marriage before breaking your vows which is awful. Would it have been ok if he did it to you if you were like him? Probably not. You should get out of your relationship if you are no longer in love and do not see a future. Don't wait for your other guy. Anyone who would get a married woman in bed who has three kids doesn't give a sh-t about a future with you. If your husband finds out he can take your kids. Stop thinking about yourself and think of your children. Grow up.

sunshine86	You need to get away from the abusive husband it isn't healthy for you or your children. You have confided in the other guy and he may not be the one for you. He is just a Savior now who offers you what you don't get from your husband. don't leave to be with someone else leave to regain your life and self respect. Good luck.

dph_40	You should seek a professional counselor and begin to work on your personal issues - as you are not doing anyone, including yourself, any favors -you're just moving around emotional baggage that really needs unpacked and then you'll have a clear mindset to make clear and healthy decisions. Good luck. I've been where you are and wish I had followed the advice I have given you - might have saved me a whole lot of grief and heartache and especially for my son.

whitcomelouann2000	I WOULD BE GETTING A DIVORCE YOU DON'T NEED TO TAKE THAT ABUSE FROM HIM BUT I WOULD NOT LET HIM KNOW THAT YOU ARE SEEING SOME ONE CAUSE HE COULD USE THAT IN COURT AND GET THE KIDS FROM YOU

phlebotomy26b	Well if this other man wants a long term relationship with you then I would work on that and leave that abusive man, Cheating is not right,but sometimes a person needs a outlet with other people when a relationship is so abusive. I would try to leave the abusive man a.s.a.p. because if he finds out he might get very violent.

SADGIRLOH	First things first is being in a abusive relationship is not good. Also cheating is not the answer. I would say follow your heart this new guy looks really good because your husband looks really bad right now. If you decide to stay with the husband i would have him and may be even yourself seek counceling perhaps he can overecome the abusiveness. If however you want to be with the other guy be honest with your husband and tell him the truth. Good luck to you I hope you figure it all out.

Eryc	the answer is in you. what do you feel? if you decide to divorce your husband, you will need time to yourself for your kids. time to heal no matter how happy you think you are. heal. as for your boyfriend if he's helping you cheat on your husband then imagine if HE was unhappy with you, what will he do?

ibrushallday	you better get seperated and file first ........ if he catches you ...... you will get OWNED

strawberryblond	i come from a family where my father was abusive to my mother. for your happiness, your kids mental stability and your and their future relationships, get a divorce. and a restraining order. please.

SNOWMAN	Use you brain, who can support you and where is your happiness? Duh, you're a bad girl.

Gidget	You need to settle things with your husband, even if it means divorce, first.

lavito	Do you think you can trust the new guy???...It's not so easy to find a real trustworthy man. I think you should have your cake and eat it...for the sake of the kids.That way when your colleague pisses off you still have your family, and you will need them then...

GRUMPY	Well part of me says work it out, BUT on the other hand abuse does not get better. It only gets worse. So I would honestly say if things are that bad with hubby then go for it, BUT get rid of hubby.

nemraC	Well first of all I would worry about my kids, and make sure to never leave them alone with your new guy. You sound desperate to have someone love you and may be blind to other dangers

Teacher	Abuse is a good reason to get out of a relationship. Cheating is also abusive emotionally. Leaving the hubby will be hard, but safer.

bahams princess	W.OW well your body tell u im that he not getting it right so u u want more i can't belive that he think that u and him are friends leave him. god well always love is his kids

barbieQ	neither get a divorce its oviously over, you never forgave him for his indescretions and now you are acting out on it. as for your friend he's cheating with you and you're married he'll do you the same way make a clean start focus on you and the kids.

G L	I would say it is about 2 years to late to work on your marriage. You should have put your foot down when it started to happen but don't jump for the first person you met and can talk to. You basically told him you have been a door mat for 2 years so he may just be as bad 5 years down the road. You need to work on yourself and regain some respect for yourself thru you not others

trace	I was in the same position. When your husband is verbally abusive it most likely always leads to physical abuse. Honey, the man you are with right now accepts you for who you are and that is a wonderful thing. You are worthy of love and respect and your husband obviously isn't doing either. My suggestion is GET A DIVORCE before it is too late.

zara01	Get a divorce already!

Patricio B	first try to arrange your marriage, if it doesnt work well you know what to do.

Weebles	Why are you even with your abusive husband as you say? that's crazy to keep your children in that atmosphere. Go with the other guy if he's good to you and yours. good luck in y our choice

Nagitarâ„¢	Screw it...........stay with the new man.

lilgracie	hmm...if you still love your husband, stay and try to work it out through professional couples therapy. if you love this new guy more, then divorce your husband and start over.

carmen c	Why havent you left your husband? He will never change. Kick him to the curb and pursue a relationship with the new guy. You never know this could be love.

Chazerai	I thing that you are voting with your feat.

Harold T	divorce first

laughing maniac	you should get a divorce if he is so abusive you might get hurt

cancerman	Follow your heart.

David	IF he has a steady job, is good to your kids, then keep him. You and your children do NOT need an abusive man in your life.