I'm in love with a married man?

JustMyOpinion	It's hard to be in love, but don't set your self up for heartbreak. Honey, there is a reason that he is married to another woman and not you. He loves her, they have a life together. To him, you may be nothing more than an innocent flirt that makes him feel good or something.

Jody	Don't get involved with a married man, it's immoral and will lead to no good. If he's not willing to leave his wife, you will have a life of being used and misery. Fall in love with an available man of good morals, and be elevated, not a home wrecker.

Dr. Rekhaa Kale	Do you think love and marriage is like moving and shifting in and out of an apartment? If you think so, you need to orient yourself into the definition of marriage. If he says that he does not love his wife but cannot leave kids, be sure he is irresponsible and just wants fun. He is making both the families miserable and so are you! If you are just wanting to have fun with him and are feeling that no spouses will ever know or bother about it, go ahead, but if not and if you expect any emotional attachment or commitment, know that you are committing a sin. Ideally, stop clinging to him for love. Stop making him say that he loves you. Remember both of you are using each other to escape your spouses. It is no love. It is escapism.

flateach33	You are digging a big hole for yourself. He should never leave his family for you. You should not ask. It would be the best thing for both of you if you just walked away. In the end if he does divorce her and marries you, he will have to look his child in the eye and tell him why he left. One day the truth will come out. When it does he will have to look you in the eye. He will always have one question in the back of his mind.. Was she worth it? Was this worth leaving my son for? Be-careful what you wish for kid you just might get it. The ends will never justify the means. Let it go. Please don't be the reason of ending this marriage. It may break your heart, however you will not die. You will go on and you will learn to love again. Later they may decide to divorce and the two of you may get together. If it happens by you pressing the one you love may end up resenting you and then what will you have? Nothing. No character, No belief, and will always be looked at as the other woman that got what she deserved. Best of luck kiddo, please think of your future.

nikki	infatuation can be best described as a favorite pair of pants. when you first buy them they are awesome, you want to wear them everyday, they make you look hott, everyone like how they look on you, and the ones who dont think they look good on you...you ignore. but after a while they get worn out, tear or they dont fit right anymore. so, if you really like the pants wear them once in a while and make them last longer.....be jsut friends, take things as slowly as possible, dont lose someone you love due to hastey actions when you can be mum and let things take their course. no disrespect to the spouses but things may not work out int he end fo rthem hence leavng you 2 to your path. there is a chance that this is a momentary crush, ending as soon as you gain what you did not have before. if so then jus tbeing friends now can be a constant and beautiful thing whereas acting on your feeling at this point can ruin 2 marriages and a friendship

anna34511	have some respect for your self and his family. leave him alone

J	you need to move on he already said that he doesn't want to loose his son so he's not going anyplace

grouki	He is angry because he is married and he is not leaving his wife for you, You guys can still flirt and have fun together.

America scarica	Please stop trifling with adulterous married men. It will end with both of you completely f*cked up and you with alot of guilt. Get divorced and find some strange unmarried booty.

MaksMom	If you are not in love with your husband I suggest that you get a divorce so the man can have a chance to have a good marriage to someone who actually does love him and will be faithful to him. It sounds like your "boyfriend" is feeding you a line and hopefully his wife will find out what a loser she is married to and get out. I doubt that you are the first & certainly won't be the last! I'm sorry that you are in this miserable situation. The best thing you could do for yourself is get out of that relationship. It is poison for you. I know it will be painful, but doing the right thing often is. If you can afford it, get into therapy. You have self-esteem issues that you need to deal with. Move on, start over and make a choice to be happy, not miserable over some manipulative, married loser.

happily married	He doesn't want u to love him because it complicates things. U need to find someone who is not attached.

Luv Peace	I'm sorry but u're a horrible person for doing this. That guy is lying to you..if he's not sincere to his wife he wont be sincere to you..Dont break up their home.

Jennifer S	He's married therefore he's off-limits. And so are you. What part of LOVE, HONOR, CHERISH don't you understand in you marriage vows. He's MARRIED, so are YOU. You shouldn't even be looking at him like that--those looks are reserved for your husband, not some stranger.

marjus	HE GET ANGRY BECAUSE HE HAVE DONE A FAMILY AND HE LOVES HIS FAMILY...BUT EVERY MAN WHEN HE FIND A NICE MOMAN OUT OF MARRIGE HE TRY TO KEEP HER BUT FAR FROM FAMILY.....SO YOU CAN HAVE TO FIND SOMEONE ELSE......

treasuredwife69	Are you off your rocker?? Your nuts! If you are so desparate to have him, talk to his wife and see if she will back out of her marriage so you can have loverman all to yourself!!

Ra	move along.. not only u are uinin your marriage .. but his too..this aint right.. if your marriage is on the rocks.. that doesnt mean u have the right to push it off the cliff...

lisasimpson	i don't know if really you're in love with him or if you are unhappy with your husband so try to find a way to escape... If you really are in love; that ain't a feeling you can earese that easily.... I guess you should talk seriously with him without mentionning your own feelings but asking him what he wants, what he expectes from your relationship. If he tells you that he likes you and no more...keep him as a friend (maybe one day...) or leave this relationship. If he says that he loves you...you should both divorce and get together. I kinda know that situation so, if you want e-mail me and we can "chat" together if it can help you. (my address: ishouldneverforget@yahoo.fr) good luck and be careful not to destroy yourself!

AnswerGuy	IF you were in love with a married man; you'd not entertain these notions of infidelity. IF you were in love with your husband; you wouldn't act like this. IF you loved this other guy; you encourage him to work things out with his wife and give him some space. You are really saying in this post, "I'm in love with myself and care only about my own lusts and wrong desires. I want to go blindly into a self destructive relationship with someone that just wants to use me."

ROLLIN	Sweetheart, there are very few honest men left out there. Keep moving on and maybe Mr.right will be waiting just waiting for you around the corner when you let go of this no hoper.

heartbroken_butdetermined	you need to just move on from him. Simple as that

I like it hardcore!	i think he is happy in the relationship he has got. Having his cake and eating it it looks like. The only way he will marry you and love u is if u walk away. He will realise what he has lost and come running back. Works everytime!

suporpoof	play with fire and you will get burned....... How many single men have missed out on a good woman because she had this Cinderella fantasy that the married man she's cheating with is going to drop his wife and everything else and go off in the sunset with her? If he did go off with you....he'd eventually find and use the same excuse why he cheats on you to some younger chick... leave the married liar alone unless you really like being second in this mans life

angel	I really dont think that you guys should have any kind of relationship unless it was over between him and his wife. But if you both feel that you love each other you should both leave the relationships that you are in and be together. And that does not mean that he is leaving his son too.

gowtham	not a problem both of u remain married 2 others and if u still feel u r reln is worth then have double fun.......

Snoopy	Move along, dear. He's not being faithful to his wife now, what makes you think he would be faithful to you? (But then, you aren't either) With marriage, you took a vow for life. Try to honor your vows.