I'm the other woman?

deepndswamps	You have got to be kidding! No you're not are you. You already know the answer, that's why you asked the question. You either want someone to give you permission to continue or someone to take your responsibility for ending it. Well, here it is. I will take the responsibility. END IT.

thepainter	you are being played.

Milie88	My dear I really understand how u must feel. When we are in love, men's lies become truths. We believe them because we don't want to get hurt. But really, deep in your heart u know what he's telling you is a BIG lie. He wants to have both his wife and you. I was on the same boat as you and I had a kid from him. I couldn't stand being the other woman. I wanted to be the best and his one and only. Being in the situation drastically lowered my self esteem. I was sad all the time when he would leave to go home to his family. I couldn't shout to the whole world that he is my man. I couldn't tell my family and friends who he is. We weren't free to go out together. It was just something rotten that was eating on me slowly. I made the right decision of leaving. Believe me it was the hardest decision I ever had to make because I have his son. But time and distance helped. Create a distance from him. Move as far as you can so u don't bump into him and where he can't see you anymore. Think about this, do you really want to ruin a family? Hurt his kids? And believe me, if ever he decides to leave his family to be with you, you will not trust him. Because u know. He cheated on his wife. Do u think he will be faithful to you this time? He made a vow, he broke it. If he will ever make another one with you, what is ur guarantee that he will not break it? His word? Come on, that is just not logical! Leave for your own sake. You'll find one that will be true to you. I am still waiting but i don't mind. I deserve someone upright whom i could trust and be secured with for life.

Kimberly T	I say yes. I am having an affair, and I am in love with the other man, and he says he loves me and I believe him. I have a child with my husband, and it is hard when there are children, I think he does love you, but he doesn't want to hurt his family even though he already is. It is a very bad situation that he and you are in. Hopefully, if he is truly unhappy and wants a life with you he will realize he needs to be happy too, and being at home unhappy for appearances sake isn't enough. Good Luck, I support you as the other women.

Slimsmom	You don't state whether you are wanting someone to share your life with or not. What do you expect people to say? It sounds more like a statement of fact than an inquiry about what you should do. So, I am not sure what to say to you. The first person he lies to is the one he probably loves. That would be his wife and kids. You claim to believe him, but if he will lie to his wife and kids, the ones who are supposed to be the closest to him, what makes you think he won't lie to you, too?You are fifth down the list of importance in his life, maybe farther down than that. He will say and do whatever he has to to get into your pants and not get caught. He is a dog who wants some extra on the side. Don't get caught up in his lies. He isn't worth wasting your feelings on. You deserve better than a lying, cheating dog. Wake up. He uses your love of him to get what he wants out of you, that's all.

acid tongue	*****

artyspiff	He is using you. If he meant what he said he'd grow some balls and get a divorce Asap! Don't be such a fool. Dump that chump!

MS	Been there, done that. He left his wife and married me, fifteen years later, he dumped me for a younger woman. The man is so selfish, he doesn't even pay child support. My advise, he does not respect you at this time, he will never do, he only cares for himself, not yours neither his children's. He is not worth it.

Precious	any married man is dishonest, even to you...just cut it out

>>\|\|<<	You should never believe him. He will say anything to keep you coming back for more. Married men pray on lonely women or women with low self esteem. Men love a variety of women and married men will do everything and say anything to keep the other woman hooked and thinking she stands a chance. It is all part of the game. Think about this. Would you have had anything to do with him if he had told you that he just wanted a booty call although he was happily married and not leaving his wife. The excuse is to draw the other woman in. He is not leaving his wife and you should run as fast as you can away from him. He is bad news and you deserve better than that. End it tonight. Good luck!!!

honeyluv_2010	He is lying. Once a man is still living in the same house with his wife he is sleeping with her. Think about it, why would the wife go for him sleeping on the couch? Get out now before you get hurt. Find a man that is unattached.

Dr who	Same old song and dance,same old line,don't you believe it,he sees a nice pair of pants he would like to try on,and that's it,you are out to get hurt,buy him or the wife if she fines out.

cheetah7	If his marriage is really over, then why hasn't he left her yet to be with u? Think about it. The truth is, he may never leave her. He has too much to lose. And if he can't be honest to his family, what makes u so sure he is being honest to u?

fruit_snacks	Yes you should believe him.. Right now I am the other women. I married a man and we divorced for complicated reasons... We left in good terms and remained friends after the divorce.. He went home to visit his mother in Lon-den. She arrange a marriage for him. He could not break her heart. He had planned on coming back to marry me, but had to do what his mother asked. He plans on coming back to the states to marry me. We are in love and talk everyday... if he saids he loves you then yes he does. it takes time for him to end his marriage, even harder when there are kids in the picture... good luck and soon he will be all yours.

judy	u nvr noe if he is cheating on you anot.. due to e fact that he can date other woman when he hasnt put his relationship with his wife to an end.. he claims dat he is sleepin on e couch.. but u arent there to c for ur own eyes.. if u wan, u can give him benefit of doubt.. as to believe him for e time being n c how it goes.. but always remember, nvr ever ask him to divorce with his wife.. it isnt e right time.. put yourself in his wife's shoe...

yp_fanta_beaumont	You need a quick swift kick in your ***. If he loved you and really wanted to be with you he would have left when he started to feel the way he is telling you he is feeling. Don't be stupid. When youre lonely hes at home with another woman. His wife.

ally'smom	I think if it was really over he would not still be in the home with his WIFE and kids. I also think a guy who cheats on his wife with YOU sure as heck will cheat on you to. I ALWAYS have a special little hate in my heart for the other women IT'S WRONG!. WHEN a MAN proves he can't be a husband and father to one family WHY DO WOMEN EVEN FALL FOR THEM? losers liers are what they are.

wolfpack0810	U r the cookie on the side, tell him to leave his wife or ur leaving, he is married and if he wanted out of the relationship that bad he would move out not spend every night at home with His Wife!!! He's playing u and u r falling for it!

47skittles	its one thing to cheat with someone, but with someone that has 3 kids? thats so wrong...i know its hard because you love him or whatever, but if he was so unhappy with his wife theyw ould get divorced. He shoudl be divorcing her b/c it wont work out, not b/c he is in love with you. think of it if it were the other way around, how hurt you would be...there are kids at stake here... he needs to figure things out with his wife, and if they can work things out let them. if not, then let them end things before you get too involved. its not fair to the wife or to you either because you arent getting all that you deserve, which is someone to love you completley. and always remember. if they cheat with you, they'll probably cheat on you.

Uncle John	Any guy, liar or not, in that sort of scenario would make the same claim, until he's found out. But I think your guy might be telling the truth. Yes, I think you should believe him. But at the same time, be observant of him.

P R	If you really are in love with him, I would give it time and see what happens. Time will tell what the real deal is.

marypaz	As much as you are in love with this man, think of it this way.. Not only is he cheating on his wife, he is cheating on his 3 kids. If he can't be man enough to tell his wife that he wants a divorce, then how can you be so sure that he's being completely honest with you if he can't be honest in the first place to the people that should matter in his life.

tysavage2001	Forget about him as far as ever going to be with you. He has a wife and kids at home .. he will put you off .. year after year . until 10 years of your life passes by .. and then what ? You have nothing at all . Find someone who is single and available and start a REAL life with someone who loves you. Good Luck ! :)

Big Me	You are a piece of A** to him and that is it.

amberharris20022000	he is playing you

*~Jenny~*	Dont do it anymore, hes having his cake and icing, going back and forth to you, and his wife. You are just going to get hurt, i've been in that situation ,and its not fun. move on.

KT	you are stupid!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

dwayne	milking two cows at once

fire5060	Go for it!