I've been cheating on my wife, does this make me a bad person?

cppdummy	A bad person?? Maybe... A bad HUSBAND... definitely... Awe who are we kidding? you're a class A turd...

Tess	If you didn't become honest to your wife then what will you call yourself.

Female	Ask Kim , she is the one that matters.

Donavan Larson	only if you feel like u are because saying some one is a bad person is only a opinion

paulywog	Not only bad but if you have kids, you are killing them and asking for a divorce down the road with monetary consequenses. You play....u will pay.

NinaPina	Since you asked for my opinion, I will give it. Yes, you are a bad person.

tyandtobesmom	Won't be behind her back long since you use your real name and tell where you live...

pattytobby	It makes me you a bad husband, not a bad human being.

Ha Ha	well does it state in the bible: "if thys wife is old and poo, its time to try something anew though shall find new btch to makes thy sandwiches" ????? NO IT DOESNT !!! you pece of ****

Postscript	Remember marriage vows and answer this question yourself

The Bride	If you're cheating because so and so is prettier than your wife, than you are too immature to be married!!!

Woka	You know the answer to this question, the sad thing is that a person's outward appearance would rank so high.

Miami A	Yes, not only are you a bad person, but you're also a moron.

B	Oh an absolutly terrible person! I do think it would come better from you, than from that chick who calls and tells your wife.

It's not me, it's you.	You idiot of course you are. Do you really have to ask? And it doesn't make a difference that she's prettier. You still cheated on her.

michelemybell429	Who is the woman in your avatar thing with you? Is that your wifey or the 'other' woman. I don't think it makes you a bad person ...but it definatley makes you a WEAK person who lacks honor and integrity.

In Your Face Charlie!	All you have to do is turn her around so it won't be behind her back. If you do it behind her back it's wrong but if you do it in her face IT MUST BE RIGHT.

mamapowell2001	how old r u, u talk like a kid.no u r not a bad person but u really need 2 come clean. GOD will 4 give u as long as u don't do it anymore and tell your wife what u did. plus u need 2 4 give yourself.

glenwut	In my opinion, yes. You have completely betrayed someone who trusted you, how could you possibly be a good person? You could probably redeem yourself partially by coming clean and actually making it clear what you want and who you want to be with.

&hearts Emmy's Mommy &hearts	I don't think you are a bad person, if you know that it is wrong and you stop doing it. Everyone makes mistakes. But who are we to judge if you are a bad person or not? I think you and your wife need counseling though. You need to work out the problems in your marriage.

Lily	Haha, hope she finds out and dumps your behind.....wonder how your beautiful kids think about their dad cheating on mom for another woman....trust me your kids will hate you, trust me i feel disgusted just talking to my moms, ask me if i have the same relationship with her as i use to before i find out of her affair....you probably going to have to build a family with the other {prettier}woman so then those kids could love you unless you F*** that relationship up as well..

Stoo00	not if you tell her, turn it the other way around and she's cheating on you, then tells the whole internet community she doesnt know what to do and asks them for their help? are you mad? Sort it out and be the first to tell her before someone clocks your name???? and tells her themselves. Whats worse the chance of reconcilliation because you were honest or the chance of none because the world told her of your conundrum!

Dawn	Well, I think the consensus is pretty clear. You call your wife wonderful and your kids beautiful, then you cheat. HUH? The consequences are these.... She finds out from another source--you lose everything (Home, kids, wife, dog, cats, the cat's litter box etc.. etc... etc...) You stop it, tell her the whole truth, offer to do whatever it takes to save your marriage--you might have a chance. In conclusion: Bad person, no. Idiot, yes, and an even worse husband. Dawn

ilikerice	I wouldn't say it makes you a bad person. It's definatly not ethical or honest though. You can change that though, be straight with your wife. Either stop the cheating and tell her what you did, or divorce her to be with the other woman. You can't have two at once, it will only hurt you in the end.

Barb Outhere	In a word - YES! Its totally dishonest to do what you are doing, and whether you "just aren't telling" your wife what's going on, or flat out lying about it, makes no difference. Grow some gonads, and if that's what you want to do, at the very least be honest about it, and give your wife the choice whether to stay involved with a cheat or not.

Cursed_Romantic	Of course it makes you a bad person. You are breaking your vows to your wife and if there are kids to them too. You are also quite possibly bringing STDs home to your wife when you are intimate with her after being with the other woman. I don't say the other woman has STDs just because she is the other woman but because of the fact that the other woman may not exactly be intimate with you only. And you could be picking up things from other men which could threaten your wife's health. Which is not right or fair to your wife. As she is no doubt being faithful to you. And not to mention if your kids ever found out they would lose all respect for you as well. Why would you even want to risk that?

Cynthia	Would it make you feel better about yourself if I said you were a good person that has made a very bad choice? What about someone that knows better but chooses to continue to do the wrong thing? How about if I said you were a bad person because you have deceived your wife whom you promised to be faithful to? No matter how you word it, you come out looking like someone who has done something very wrong and you know it because you are asking this question. I do believe it was Maya Angelo that said when you know better you do better. You know that you should not be cheating, because cheating is wrong. Nobody is making you stay in a relationship that you are not happy or content in. If you are no longer in love with your wife, and are more attracted to this other woman than by all means stand up like a man and tell your wife that you no longer want to be married to her. Cheating is only a symptom that there are problems in your marriage. The proper way to handle it would be to stop seeing this other woman and concentrate on working on the problems in your marriage. You will never be able to work on your marriage as long as your girlfriend is around. If your problems cannot be repaired, then at least you can say that you tried your best and walk away with your head held high. You both deserve to be happy (you and your wife) so if you have any self-respect or dignity, do the right thing and stop the cheating.

SpyDoc	Yes. Cheating is cheating. Do not fall just for looks, as those can be deceiving. Why did you marry your wife? What if she found a better looking man and decided she doesn't need you anymore because you're not handsome enough? It doesn't matter how long you have been good friends with that other lady. Start being a good husband and save your marriage.

iPRO	yes and no. If you like this women more than your life, then i would say get a divorce and move on with the other girl, but dont cheat on her too. I would also say your a bad person because your cheating on your wife. If you want someone you don't have to cheat, all you got to do is end that relationship and try to be with the person you like more. Everyone makes mistakes so i say out of 100 you are only 10% of a bad person. Everyday people make mistakes so just try to stop and fix everything that has happened and move on from that.