I Cheated?

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Back W	I wouldn't lie anymore... so you really don't know who the father really is? I think hubby will divorce you... after the baby is born get a DNA test.

Jay's Girl	Are you kidding me??? You think this is a "tiny" mistake. I would hate to see what a big mistake looks like in your book. It is not fair to your husband to believe that the child is his when it is not. That wouldn't be fair to the child either. And what about family medical history? God forbid, if the child was ever seriously sick and you needed the family's medical history. How would you handle that? Would you give information about your husband's family knowing that it may harm your child or about the father's family and risk your hubby finding out. You've been married for 10 years and you cheated on your hubby with his best friend, take responsibility for your actions and tell you husband that you have been unfaithful to him. He doesn't deserve to be treated like this. Oh and one more thing, GROW UP...marriage is a something so special between to people and you f'd that up too.

â™¥ missing a soldier in Iraq â™¥	first of all please dont say you made a tiny mistake. cheating is not tiny...it destroys people. i was cheated on and it is the worse pain i have ever felt.as far as the baby is concerned both men have a right to know whos child it is. please dont lie to your husband because the truth will catch up with you one day and it will hurt him so much. think about your child. are you prepared to face that child when the truth comes out that this person they have been calling dad is not really there father? if you were worried about destroying your marriage then you should have kept your legs closed. fess up to everything it will be much better now.if your husband doesnt want to work things out with you then its your own fault. sorry but i have zero sympathy for cheaters.

rayhab	come clean and beg for forgiveness he may but he will find out sooner or later, better to hear it from you

Erica S	You've been married for 10 yrs and you call this a "tiny" mistake? Shame on you! and on top of that you want to lie to him.... that poor man. =(

C M	I don't think the "miracle" alibi has a remote chance of working. I am not judging your action because we all make choices, some better than others, but this was not a tiny mistake, honestly and I think you know that. In doing this, you have changed your life, your husband's life, your husband's relationship with his friend, and are going to bring a new life into the world due to your choice. It would be unfair of you to not tell your husband the truth. There are countless stories of men raising other men's children and not know. That is really not ethical to put your husband in that kind of situation emotionally and financially. You made the choice to go outside of the marriage, now you need to allow your husband the choice as to whether he wants to forgive you, stay together, and work through this. Likely, as you say, it will ruin your marriage as you know it. However, you cannot in good conscience allow him to take on the burden (because kids are a lot of work) of a child that truly isn't his. Sorry that I cannot say all is okay, because it truly isn't, and you have a lot of facing up to do if you want to wipe the slate clean.

PokerPlayer	A tiny mistake? I hate to imagine what you call a huge mistake. If you tell your husband it's his you will have to live with that. If you tell the truth, he may forgive you, he may not. My advice is tell him it's his but dump this other guy and never do that again. This is for your husbands sake not yours.

noona	If this is the first and only time and you love him you can be honest and talk to him and tell him the truth and try to comfort him and help him get over the shock of your betrayal by being by his side and assure him of your love.other wise abort that child ,it's better to have an abortion that to destroy a marriage..

tweedyboyd	a TINY MISTAKE are you stupid. You are a piece of crap. You dont want to have an abortion let me guess its against your morals. Where were your morals when you you getting banged by his friend? Go to hell , you and your morals!

D N	You need to tell him. It's not right for him to think that that baby is his. You were wrong but it would be even worse if you passed that child off as his. If your to scared to do that then leave him. You shouldn't be with someone you obviously don't want anymore...Good Luck

smiles22	You not be straigh with him will hurt you later when it does all come out. be honest with him and if he loves you like you say you love him. he might forgive you. with him not been able to have kids, has he always wanted children? maybe things will work out. best of luck

mummy heffalump	Cheating is a HUGE mistake. Passing off your lover's baby as your husband's would be worse. DO NOT DO IT!! Come clean. Tell your husband the truth. Be prepared to have the marriage come to an end and lots of fireworks. You screwed up! I imagine how hurt your husband will feel. You betrayed him. His best friend betrayed him. AND after 10 years of being unable to conceive with him, you get pregnant with your lover's baby!! I feel so so sorry for your husband. Grow up and do the right thing for once. Stop thinking about yourself and think about someone else for a change. Do what is honest and best for your husband and for that little innocent baby you are choosing to bring into all this mess.

ladylady4470	What??? You are or need to be honest with your husband. Is there any chance he could have gotten you prego? You are going to hurt your husband so bad if you tell him it is his and he finds out it is not. What are you thinking?

NiceGuyBigMember	No such thing as cheating. Tell hubby it's a miracle child.

Hott Mama	Truth always comes out. Looks like your gonna end up on Maury Povich

kitty1972	a tiny mistake..thats no tiny mistake love...you are goin to have to tell him the truth...think about how you would feel if it was your husband who got another woman pregnant? would you want to be lied to,and his best mate at that.?he wont believe you anyhow...shame on you and his mate...that stinks...hes lost his wife and best friend now thanx to you 2 being selfish... cut the wooow is me crap lady...its your husband thats got the raw deal here. youve made your bed mrs...deal with it

LilSunbeam	You obviously have to tell him, even if he COULD have children you would have to tell him. It's bad enough you cheated with his best friend but to think you could actually pass the baby off as his for your own sake is disgusting....you deserve whatever you get but your baby sure doesn't.

busymom4boyz	Your husbands best friend??? With friends like that who needs enemies! You should tell your husband the TRUTH!!! There is no excuse for what has happened regardless of what is going on in your relationship. This child deserves to know the truth too and better for you to deal with it now then when the kids is already here and it slips out the wrong way. You need to give hubby the right to chose to stay or go. Don't force him into a situation that he is unaware of

Kristen	If you told him it was a miracle, there is a possibility that he would start second guessing you after a while and order a paternity test. You HAVE to be honest with your husband. Trust is so big in a relationship. If you don't tell your husband the truth, it will eventually come out one way or another, trust me. Think about it, do you think he'd rather hear it from you or someone else?

ronnieD	I wouldn't say 'tiny' mistake, but oh well. It's done, and I know how sometimes best friends are hard to resist. Oh well, no bashing here, but your marriage is done. Prepare to wear that scarlett letter on your forehead. And getting pregnant by his best friend makes it 1,000% worse. Sorry, but no way out of this one. Good to know that abortion is not an option. Maybe you'd be happier with his best friend, anyway. (Unless he's married, too...)

shiamarie1	Please dont tell everyone that it's your husband's child. The truth will always come forth. You need to face your demons. What would you do if your husband had done the same to you? Having a baby by your husband's best friend is not a tiny mistake. You've changed the lifes of everyone in your life including your unborn baby. I suggest you seek professional adivce. Good luck.

conny	I can't believe that your going to tell your husband that this baby is from him by a miracle. Do you actually think your get away with this affair you had?? This will all come back to you and I hope your husband leaves you. He deserves better to have woman hurt him the way you did. This was NOT a "TINY" mistake. You just threw away 10 years of marriage. Your a real Moron!!!! I have NO pity on people who hurt their spouse. You need to grow up!!!! You deserve what you get. You will pay the consequenses big time.

Wondering	TINY MISTAKE? How does lying on your back while some guys bangs your brains out become a mistake.Sounds to me like you new exactly what you were doing.A mistake is when you add 13 +9 and for get to carry the 1.Consciencely screwing someone is not a mistake.

Spring	Just be honest. Your husband is not an idoit so don't treat him like one.

lala	I am really sorry for whats happening. I don't think this is a tiny mistake. You have just missed up four peoples lives. First is you, your husband, your other man, and now the beautiful creation you have in you growing. You need to tell everyone the truth. How do you even know the father of your child will let another man bring up his child? Maybe he wants to be apart of this babies life. Your husband already knows there is no possible way of having a child, more then likely he will not believe you. If you lie to him, you are just adding more lies and making matters worse. Also you need to think of yourself and the baby. Do you want your husband to stand by you or do you want the father of the child? Whom do you want to be with and do they want to be with you? I wish you the best of luck! Look to God and your heart, don't lie anymore, you are only lieing to yourself and your child.

writenimage	Basically it boils down to this: You made a mistake. It happens to the best of us. but now you have to live with the consequences of your mistake. You need to come clean with your husband. Tell him the truth. If not, it will eat you up inside. If you have been married for 10 years, maybe he will be willing to work it out. But you can't lie to him. That will make the situation worse. Tell him the truth. An as for abortion, don't punish the child for your mistake. Everyone makes mistakes, it does not make you a horrble person. But you have to come clean.

Royalhinney	Any lie that you speak now will eventually catch up to you. It always does. Be honest and be ready for your husband to be unable to accept another mans child, meaning that you will be raising that child on your own. No bashing here, everyone makes mistakes. It's how we handle the mistakes that shows our level of maturity.

Afro	Sound like to me you wanted a child of your OWN Right? Tiny mistake? No! that was big mistake and married for 10 yrs. There no turning back now...in 9 month later...... your husband might want a DNA in other to see if he is the father of this Baby....