I accepted the invitation of a married man for a coffee, he wanted to get closer to me but we are both married

Bethy4	You made your vows, don't start something that will be harmful to not only you but your husband and the other married man and his wife. The fallout from this type of thing will not be worth the moments of pleasure you are anticipating. It is called adultery, which is a sin. God Bless.

kathyw	Oh, please. You can't be friends with this man. You're so close to trying to jump into bed with him that you are making excuses and painting your marriage as a bleak desert and your husband as a guy you don't like for this and that reason, blah, blah, blah. You're simply looking for permission to cheat and reassurances from everyone that this won't appear to be the sordid affair it really is and you really won't be breaking wedding vows and endangering your marriage - oops, I'm sorry, I forgot that you don't really give a crap about that marriage. Whatever you're doing when you're drinking coffee with this guy, you are flirting your brains out with him and encouraging him. Otherwise, he wouldn't be on your tail. So knock it off, cheater wanna be!

findinggodsmissions@yahoogroups	The two of you need to look at the reasons why the two of you are finding each other attractive instead of your spouses. To many people get bored with their spouse, or do not find them as attractive. Spice up your relationship with your spouse, and look at the qualities that came to lite over the years. That they are the parents of your children, or that they were the ones you have been faithful to for such a long time. Don't throw a commitment away over a simple lust or philosophies.

Gisela A	It's wrong and the worst part is that people like you two leave children without loving, faithful parents, what a shame that's call Adultery. if you're not committed to your husband alone you should off never married him. or atleast let him find a good faithfull wife.

*~~Fuzzie~~*	Get a divorce if you truly do not love your husband, but don't cheat. That is, in my opinion, one of the worst and hurtful things you could do.

sloegin	You are not "in love" with this man. You are likely addicted to the feelings you have when you're around him. It's new and fresh. You don't have to talk about mortgage payments, house cleaning, laundry, toilet seats left up, finances or underwear on the floor. I've been in your place. I lost my husband that I thought was a mistake and now, I'd give everything I have or ever will have for his underwear on the floor. Hindsight is 20/20. Please think long and hard about this. It's hard to see from the inside, but listen to those on the outside looking in.

wildflower	Some people would mistake love for lust. Think a million times. The grass is greener on the other side of the fence is not always true.

Fernando G	Don't be a homewrecker!!! This might seem innocent at first, but trust me, it will eventually turn into something that's not! Cut it off RIGHT NOW...no matter how much you like him! Your feelings will only grow stronger for him. Plus he might end up screwing you over like he is doing his wife! Why would you want to be with and trust a man that you already know is not faithful? Talk to your husband, tell him what your wants and needs are. Tell him you are not happy. At least TRY to make it work! Just stay away from the married ones! Marriage is so sacred. Again, open up to your husband about everything, you just might end up falling in love with him if ya'll can work it out. Try new things......spice it up! You HAVE to do that to keep things interesting! Tell your husband you need more attention.......TELL HIM.......being open and honest is key.

Jason G	You got problems. Why did you get married? Remember your vows? For better or for worse, in sickness and in health, til death do us part, remember that? If you were not willing to do these things, why did you get married? I believe most people say these things because of all that goes into the day of the wedding. It's supposed to be for life. You had to know that you didn't feel the way you were supposed to when you get married. Did you do the pre-marital counseling? The other guy is married. You think you have a future with him? You need to lose one or the other or both. You got problems!

liz's momma	stop seeing him he is married and talk to you r husband if you dont love him you need to let him know and you need to see what can be done with out hurting your husband and your coffee mates wife

angelkisses12103	I am going to be very blunt and to the point!! You are a married woman and he is a married man. By the way that you are sounded by making all the pathetic excuses your husband is a great man and probably deserves alot better than yourself. How would you feel if it were the other way around? It is because of shelfish single minded individuals much like your selfs that trust and the real meaning of marriage had begun to fall apart. I don't know why I have even wasted this much of my time because I am sure that you have already acted upon your selfish needs.

wiccanangel1973	u need to set limits and boundaries and he needs to stop cause u are both married and u dont want him and this issue to come between u and your marriage and u dont want to be between him and his marriage .and would tell him how uncomfortable it makes u feel and be honest tell ur spouse what happend and I would be telling his spouse if situation continues but talk to your spouse about it right away

ez-goin	get a divorce cuz u r not a strong person

Tangled Web	Well apparently you want out of your relationship. Leave your husband....if you love him you will leave so that he has a chance to be loved by someone the way he deserves. This will leave you single. Sounds like you have your mind made up as far as whether you want this new guy, so if it doesn't bother you to be the other woman, then go for it.

sharonz	u are confused

John H	How is your husband hurt by this? Just don't get caught (easy enough) and nobody gets hurt. Otherwise, you will gradually grow to resent your husband for denying you what your heart wants, and your marriage will end bitterly anyway. Enjoy it, get this little fling out of your system, and have a happy life. I promise you, some people close to you, whom you know and respect, have done this exact same thing.

Krazy	Go for it.................thats what you want us to say so you can feel better about yourself, i feel bad for both the spouses ...you are both selfish and i hope you bring bad luck to you and him for doing this............

sylviavnpttn	You answered your own question- I refused, don't want to hurt my husband-- need I say more?

Valerie	"we are both married but i like him" Now imagine your HUSBAND saying: "we are both married but i like her" Still confused???!

H	Remove yourself from temptation. You will have to break off this friendship. You are way to close to cheating. Do something nice for your husband this weekend and get re focused on your marriage. The same things that you are thinking about do with this other married man, you could be doing them with your husband.

MRS.SAENZ	you are a homewrecker!!!! you should not have excepted the invitation and he should not have gave ou the invitation!!!!!!!!!! if i knew your husband and his wife trust me you two would not be in a marriage anymore and then you wouldnt have anymore problems!!!!!!!!! you are married how could you like this man! i feel sorry for huband and wives that their partners do this to them. how would you feel if you found out your husband was doing this to you> i hope you get what u deserve.... what comes around goes around.....

meltedwatches	Tell him you can't meet him. If you were in a casual relationship, it would be different, but you're not. Marriage doesn't shut off the part of us that likes other people, but you are expected to ignore it. If you never liked another person after being married, they wouldn't need to include the part about "forsaking all others" in the vows, would they? No. Just focus on loving your husband, and let this crush pass you by.

monkey tuesday	Go and get some couples counseling. Maybe you forgot the part about "till death do us part" in your vows. The guy just wants to get in your pants and he will not care if you end up divorced because of it. Likely he will stay with his wife and ignore you after he gets what he wants.

Steph	i am fifteen years old, and i may seem young and inexperienced to you, but my mother made that mistake that you might make. Don't do it, you'll regret it. First of all, your commitment is to your husband, why you are out with another guy is questionable. Second, If you have kids, it effects them. Let me tell you, my mom thinks it doesnt bother my little brother and I anymore because it been almost three years, and i think about it all the time. It eats me away. You being a responsable wife, and possibly mother, please make the right choice. Think about your family, they should be your first priorety. God Bless -Stephanie

Dena	Why do you need a bunch of total strangers to tell you what to do? You know it's wrong, so just don't do it.

soichangedmyname	girl dont do it! it may seem harmless but you have to think of the innocent people that u might hurt!

JC	You don't go out with him.... why chance hurting your spouses for no reason!! Keep your distance and don't flirt.... that would only be looking for trouble!! Try to reconnect with your husband and get what you are looking for from him!!