I am having an affair with a married man..Will he ever leave his wife for me? This has been for a year now.?

EMAILSKIP	Shame on YOU. Stop destrying now. get away and leave he and his wife alone. There is no excuse acceptable for messing with a married man. It's trampish and unacceptable. Shame on you- Shame on you -Shame on you!

None	no he is not going to leave his wife....have some dignity and leave him, there are a lot of single men , but you need to be free so you can realize how close are from you,. Leave that loser.

I'm just me	Sweetie, I'm sorry to say that statistics say that most married men will never leave their wives. Doesn't mean his feelings for you aren't real. But she's more important. Best to move on, honey. Affairs are a no win situation and doomed to failure. I'm sorry.

Ibdreamin099	Chances are he will not leave his wife willingly.. divorce is to expensive for him but.. if his wife finds out about you (and there could be others) then she might divorce him but that does not mean he will end up with you in the end.

Countessa	Well who knows but if he cheated on his wife with you. He might cheat on you if he leave his wife and we say marry you. You know the old saying what goes around comes around. Think about it

Spot	You have better odds of winning a $10 million lottery than that happening

Indiana Jonas	He has the best of two worlds right now.... Hes getting action on the side and has a wife at home. Think about it. If you were with someone you cared about, but could get away with messing with someone else (and your a bad person) you wouldnt leave him.

just me	Highly doubtful. And even if he did, what makes you think he wouldn't cheat on you too? If he isn't already. The guy is a loser...cut your losses and move on.

Skanky McSkankypants	no. and if he does you'll ahve to live with wondering if he's cheating on you like he did on his wife. Good on ya.

SusieQ	You better hope he doesn't leave her for you. Because if you end up with him, he'll do the same to you. Only 3% of those relationships last. I know, because I am the wife. I figured it out pretty quickly and told my husband to get out. He did for one night. But he soon realized the error of his ways. He didn't really want her at all. He was not willing to give up his family for some bimbo. Leave other women's husbands alone!!!!!!

Dr. Nightcall	No. But if he did, do you think he would be likely to drop you in a few years when he finds someone else?

vvkat_sg	Depends on how bad(if so) is his wife. But as long as you dont confront, things will be same stay as they are now I guess. You should either get him or forget him. Your choice.

physandchemteach	Has he made any progress so far in leaving his wife? It has been a year, so he has had plenty of time to move out and get his own place. Plenty of time to file the divorce papers and get the ball rolling. Has he done any of that? Then you have your answer as to whether he will leave his wife for you.

Tiffany	Probably not. And even IF he does (which is unlikely, or he would have done it by now), then he will probably end up leaving you for some other woman he is cheating with. History repeats itself. As hard as it is, forget him and move on to someone who deserves you.

Amy	don't ever leave the one you love for the one you like...so noooooooooooooooooo

Mojo	Absolutlely NOT!!! You are a fool if you think he will. If he hasn't done it yet, he's not going to. All you are is a free and different piece of a**. You are wasting your time. Move on. He will continue to play you as long as you let him. You knew what you were getting into.

blondie	The best question of the night!!Get real a year now!No honey he isnt going to leave his wife for you believe me im sure everyones answer on here will be the same as mine.He is just using you till he either gets caught or you push him leaving .You need to find a real man that loves you and isnt takin.

*babydoll*	Don't have affairs with married men! Sometimes they leave, but then you have to wonder what you'll get to deal with...no matter how much better than "her" you think you are. He's using you and you're using him. Now it's time to "stop that." You know better and know why you're doing it, so I won't say much else. You can try therapy if you want. Good luck.

fin	If he has been cheating with you for a year and nothing has happened,Probably not. And why would you want to be with him? He is treating his wife like a piece of poo by cheating, and if he cheats on her how do you know he wouldn't cheat on you. And get a man of your own, stop being a home wrecker.

?	No you're pretty much screwed! He's never going to leave his wife because she probably cooks his meals, takes care of his kids, does his laundry, Cleans 'their' house and lots of other things you won't do. Get a life!!!! You both need counseling!

mel	What you have just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard. At no point in your rambling, incoherent question did you approach anything even close to a question. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having heard it. You are awarded no points, and may God have mercy on your soul.

sniper	dont count on it

Nicole Z	Don't pay too much attention to the insults on here.. I'm sure you didn't set out to destroy someone's marriage and we can't always help who we fall in love with. The reality is that he really has no reason to leave her. He has the best of both worlds (and possibly more!) so unless you rock the boat, he'll stay and have his cake and eat it too. I always say it's never good to leave one person for another and it goes the other way too. It's never good to be the one who "stole him away"... it brings way too much baggage into the relationship. Unless you are content to always be second best, you would do yourself a big favor if you just let him go. Don't offer ultimatums.. just let him go. Good luck.

mother mission	Shame on you for asking that question. And shame on you for getting into that affair. Find a relationship with a free man. Put yourself in the wife's position. Then feel how it would hurt you. Pray hard and leave them alone.

farmgirl	I think you know the answer to that question already. And if he did leave his wife, would you really want him? I could never marry a man who had a long-term affair on his wife. That says a lot of negative things about his character. Now, don't get me wrong - sometimes a a guy will screw up and give in to temptation or whatever, and it's possible for him to still be a great guy. But a long-term secretive affair? Being willing to lie to somebody he supposedly loves for a year? What dose that say to you?

mommyLynn	most likely not....sorry to say it. But I've been there......and i wish you luck with whatever happens...

dociletooth	read the story section of the Other Woman.com site-- you will get your answer. Dating a married man is like going to a party and at the end of the night taking a swig from all the leftover drinks laying around- you know- the ones with an inch in the bottom and cigarettes butts floating- and saying "this is a great drink!"-- don't be a vacation for a man who is forever straddling the fence of his life because he is a coward-- you deserve a man who can give you his whole heart and doesn't throw you leftovers like a dog in perpetual heat.

Paige2	ONE year! I know a person that was dating a married man for 15 YEARS! He never divorced his wife and ultimately found a new love. Don't waste your time. He can do the same to you, as he has his wife, and probably will. What are you thinking?!