I am married and I am in love with someone else what should i do about it.?

omsgarcia	You know what you need to do. I'm sure you do. Follow what you believe is right.

Ã¢?Â¥Ã¡?Â¦Ã¡?Â¦Elke Ã¡?Â¦Ã¡?Â¦Ã¢?Â¥	I am in love with someone myself it's been 6 years for me and i been married 18...i have an unfaithful husband..so to those here who are making comments on cheating blah blah blah.... i waited 12 years before i cheated 12 years after he cheated on me...and for those whom say why don't you leave him...it's not that easy... honey..follow your heart... i completly understand where you are coming from... Good Luck!!

E-Male	I think you have went beyond the curiosity stage and into the deceit stage. will it really matter what any of us say, you weren't worried about your husbands opinion for 7 years , how can we matter any more than him to you? personally , I think you are a pretty evil person and wouldn''t advise you one way or the other. I know you don't need me beating you up verbally but I do not condone deceit. no reason is valid enuf to carry on with something like that for 7 years. you can not mend the damage you have done to your marriage. even if he doesn't know about it, the feelings are gone. you can't mend it. .toss in the towel and see if Mr. cheater will have you for a wife, I doubt it. they rarely do. good luck...........

babyblue	Well. I had the same feelings. I liked a married man, and I am married (practically) and I know that he liked me. I stayed away from him even though I loved the way he made me feel. Except we just talked and flirted, no touching, no kissing, no messing around. It was an innocent crush. What I am trying to get at here is that you want this other man because there is something missing in your relationship that you find in this other man, you were wounded as a child so you psychologically are doing this even though you know it is wrong. Obviously you have to work on your self esteem and heal yourself. You need to be honest with your husband and with yourself about what has been going on. If he really loves you and is willing to work this out then you have something. But make sure that you are honest with yourself. The married man has to do the same thing. If you both want to be together then that is something that you have to talk about and end your relationships with the other people you are with, but it is definitely going to be complicated.

Sandy F	Well for starters neither one of you deserve the mate that you have.. If you don't want to be with your partners , get a divorce. what is wrong with you people anyway.. they don't deserve to be treated in this manner.. Apparently you don't care anything about yourself.. what about the hurt that you are causing your husband or wife. You two really deserve each other. grow up people.. get a divorce and make your partners happy.. your cheating person you are talking about is eventually going to be cheating on you also.. i hope you like how it feels.

craig m	Forget about it... it will bring you more pain and suffering the longer you continue. You must put this person out of your mind, and body... period. The long-term ramifications are huge... do you really want to be without your husband? Are you going to be content being a mistress? What spiritual ramifications exist? The best help you can give yourself, is to take a long walk. Ask yourself if you are ready to sacrifice your real life, for the false hope of a "dream" life. I hope for your sake that you choose what is REALLY the best choice. Stay strong!

sassywv	There is no reason, good or bad, for messing around with anyone while married. You need to end your marriage. If your in love as you say maybe he'll end his and the 2 of you can get together as a couple. I hope everything works out for you.

Countessa	For a start why did you marry? you don't know what vows are. These kinds of relationships always end up in tears believe me. You have to come clean, and be honest for once here. It not fair on your husband or the other person.

Flagger	Why stop lying now. Ask yourself, If I leave my husband will this guy marry me ? Probably not. Its easy to do someone and send them home at night. Marriage is tougher. Especially knowing someones propensity to cheat.

shorty	honey, it is time to let your marriage go. you are so not being fair to your spouse. you have to think what if it was the other way around and your hubby was doing this to you how would you feel?? why be married if you are going to sleep around

ROBERT N	um, for starters.... did anything matter to you when you took your vows under god? that's a shame that this day and age people take them so lightly.... you should be ashamed of yourself and also the guy too!

ynah	Ask yourself why it happened then decide what is the best thing that you should do.

sexercist4hire	it's people like you who have destroyed the sanctity of marriage! leave him you are not worthy of him you are a sucubus!

curiousandsmiley	Well, first of all, you should not have broken your marriage vows, but since you have, I would say its time for you and you alone to weigh things out and make a life decision before someone gets hurt physically or does something to get you into hot water.

WitchTwo	Wow, I was going to say get divorced before you cheat on him, less karma that way but its too late. Both of you need to either stop seeing each other or both of you get divorced and start your life together. Good luck hun.....

heather d	i cant believe that you have been selfish enough to string along your husband for seven years and this other guy has not left his wife for a reason and if he will cheat on her he will cheat on you what you should do is break it off with both men and live by yourslef for awhile figure out what kind of person you want to be and make ammends for the people you have hurt and your husband's life you have wasted.

Caz	ok firstly have you kids cus u gotta think wats good for them?? and if you really dont love your husband then it only fair in the long run to leave him and let him find hapiness with someone who will really + truly love him. remember this affair may not be all its cracked up to be wen the secrets out. sort out your priorities cus alot of hearts are gonna get broke.

heyitsme	end it before it gets out of hand. talk to the other guy and make sure he understands that this is going going to become any better. 7 years is a lot. you need to tell ur husband about him. if you dont want to do that you have to stop with the other guy.

michelle	pray to god because you both are commiting adultery!!! thats a dam shame,,,and you guys spouses are that stupid after 7 years neither one of them can figure it out?? oh myyyy!!!!

Trinity	OBVIOUSLY, YOU GUYS AREN'T HAPPY. FIND OUT IF ITS LOVE OR LUST.....THEN GET A DIVORCE...THAT WAY....NO ONE GETS HURT...AND YOU WON'T BE NAME A CHEATER.

T Time	Do nothing about it.

daniellesmith1973	Get a divorce and be together.

msqtech	honor your vows quit cheating

IthinkFramptonisstillahottie	Sounds like a huge waste of time for 7 years.

leo4life786	tell your husband about it... and see wht he says

wfgrg15001	quit being selfish, own up to you husband that you are cheat, and hope that he doesn't rake YOU over the coals during the divorce proceedings

?	Hmm, tiptoe through the minefields

lostroad94	what goes around comes around

mightymight	Why are you married? why get married if you're going to cheat.

Amanda K	wow! sounds like you're married to 2 people! 7 years is common law!!! lol