I am really freaked out right now. My husbands ex just sent?

4everFaithful	Just be the bigger woman, stand still, leave them where he can see them (no, not the garbage). It's probably something she's doing moreso out of spite than a result of his doing anything to provoke it. As a matter of fact, if anything, if your husband don't know what to do or if he's as upset as you (or not)....just allow him to deal with it. It's his ex...not yours. U R a woman.... remember how bad you'd felt the last time your relationship ended and you didn't necessarily feel justified by the ending?

kiwi	Why is this YOUR problem? Let your husband know that all these roses have arrived, and let him deal with it whatever way he wants to. 12 DOZEN???? She spent a fortune!

Bushrod Isbister	My first reaction was to tell you to toss them. But thats wrong. In the interest of honesty show them to your husband. I'd want him to show me the card though.

CaseyK	First does he have any contact with her at all? I would almost be tempted to get rid of them and never tell him. I am not big on hiding things from the other person but in this case. Because if he never knows then there is nothing to talk about or anything to stir up a problem and that sounds like what she is trying to do. Then tell him and then throw them out. Did he leave her or did she leave him? If she did then she has it in her head that if she had never left, then they would still be together and if he did the leaving then she is trying to stir things between you and him now hoping he will come back her way. I would have denied deliverly. She has to know that he is at work. I am surprised that she didn't send them to his place of business or where he works. It really sounds like by sending them to your house that she is causing the problem she is wanting to or upsetting you the way she wants. Just don't go off on him over something she has done, he has no control over her and as long as he hasn't talked to her or given her anytype of impression that he is still interested in her then no it is not his fault. Just be cool about and not coy, no reason to be ugly. Good Luck

splashdesign238	Well, before allowing emotions to accuse and throw blame your husband's way, find out if he even knows about it. This may be all his ex rather than your husband's part. If your husband does have a part in this, then there are some heavy duty issues to immediately resolve. It should be an obvious thing that he has absolutely nothing to do with his ex, unless communication is needed for children within that marriage. But if it is solely "her", then your husband, not you, needs to drop the bomb, in a tactful way of course, that she is NOT a part of his life. You are. And you are the love and focus of his life. Be together. Be a team. And support each other through everything. Make it work.

JustMe	Don't trip! Your husband is just loved by someone other than yourself. Who is his wife? Who does he lay down with a night? Don't let her spoil your day, its just flowers.

Versacetica	Alright take a breath and calm down, leave the flowers as they are, and wait for your hubby to come back from work. As soon as he is settled, ask him what is going on between his ex and him,tell him how frustrated you are with the situation calmly no screaming, then let him be the one to tell her to desist from such acts next time because it is disrespectful, do not lose your cool here it might be what she wants you to do.cheers

matthew y	i think she is jealous of you you should probably have a sit down with your husband and get this straightened out before she makes thing worse women can be pretty evil sometimes

Lost	Then call he and tell him that they are there and you demand him to send him back to her with a note saying please do not send me anything anymore I am in a happy relationship and I do not need you to screw it up this is not right he should not accept this or I think you should throw them away and call her and tell her one or maybe two nasty words and tell her to leave you to alone.

moon&stars	Are they still talking? Were their issues resolved before you got married? Is she just a crazy ex or do you think that there could be something going on? That is kinda odd...for an ex to be sending flowers on their old anniversary. Maybe you should talk to you hubby about it and ask him what is up.

Tadpoler	He needs to take care of this. There is no reason for this other than DRAMA. He needs to tell her to move on and not contact him anymore. If it persists, then she is stalking. Are you sure that he doesn't want the attention?

Marina	Throw them in the garbage! If your husband doesn't put a stop to this crap, I would put him there too! Each week it is something new with these two. Enough is enough! I know you don't want to hear this, but he is encouraging her to do all of this. She wouldn't be doing it otherwise. Your problem isn't his ex; your problem is him!

Uhhhhh.....No!	Give them to your husband when he gets home, but change the card and say: Just cuz I miss you!

Miss thing	Burn them. Burn everything. How do she know where u and your man live? Are they still talking? Are they still friends? After burning the flowers calmly discuss her to your husband and how you want her to leave you two alone. You must stay calm to get through to him. Men hate a yelling, loud angry female. she should not know were you'll live

Professional Psychologist	144 roses? Yikes.

Sexxylexi	My boyfriends ex was in our relationship for 6 months while him and I were first dating (now we're engaged and have a daughter together). She was physco though. She would stalk him and whatever but I would tell her to go F-off and I was always so rude to her and he didn't care because he didn't like her anymore. If she tried to give him something he'd be like 'go ahead, do whatever you want with it' even before I'd want to throw something away or whatever. So if he truely cares about you then when he finds out that she sent them to him he should say, without hesitation, to do whatever you want with the roses. On another note - did you mean 12 roses and not 12 dozen roses? Just wondering because that would be like $500.00 or so and if she spent that much money on him then yeah, she's physco.

free_angel	I'd give them away or trash them. Whatever comes first...

Jersey Boy	Call your husband immediately and tell him what was delivered. Be sure the doors and windows in your house are locked. This woman sounds unstable and may be dangerous. Good luck.

American Beauty	Were it me, I would place them on the kitchen table and let my husband deal with it. I'd leave them in the delivery boxes and go on about my day. If he placed them anywhere in my house, I'd toss them in the trash. Otherwise, I would say nothing more about it.

Blue	She sounds like a real piece of work. You should send her a thank you card for sending sympathy flowers on the day your husband made the worst mistake of his life.

?	I WOULD TAKE THEM OVER TO HER AND SHOUVE THEM UP HER RECTOM

Cherilee123	just mind games...my husbands ex sent cards he had given her when they were married and underlined the words you are the only woman I will ever love...even tho it pissed me off I pretended it didn't when I saw her...and told her we laughed about it and then he threw them out...that really made her mad but she didn't try it again...tell her thanks for the roses but you're allergic so next time send money ...ps throw out the roses and don't even mention them to your hubby

NIH	It sounds like his ex-wife has a serious problem and is showing no respect for you or your marriage. Why is she still trying to celebrate a union that is no more? I would let your husband know how you feel about this. If he respects your feelings he will make it perfectly clear to her that what she did was not appropriate.

Shay~Shay	That was very disrespectful of her and does she know where you stay. If they don't have kids together why are they even communicating.? It's a must that you talk w/him when he gets home and find out what is going on. Does he still have the same job when she was married to him? If, so she sent them to your house to piss you off!!!

Kim	She sounds a bit unstable... either that or she is trying to mess with you. Otherwise she could have sent them to his office instead. Throw the roses out and do nothing about it. If she is trying to get to you, then don't give her the satisfaction! PS I loved the answer you gave to bf6262 about the married man still seeing the ex:)

rodriguez m	i would make her eat the roses. that b****. then i beat her azz.

eeyore6838	Hunny, don't do a thing...Let your husband see them and let him take care of it, don't give this woman anything that she can use against you..If you love your husband enough and trust him, trust him to do the right thing....good luck

Al B	I would show them to him, ask him what is going on if anything, wait until they are all dead and then send them back to her! It may be that she was the one to get the divorce and now regrets it but if he is happy with you, she is wasting her time - and money.

doclakewrite	it is up to him to deal with this..... not you.... if he doesn't then you need to talk to him....