I cheated while I was married?

I was married and my husband useto be physically and mentally abusive to me I was so scared I didnt know what to do. I ran into an old friend that i hadnt talked to in years and we started getting close. I told him the things my husband was doing to me and he said he would help me in anyway. As time went on I desided to leave my husband cause he woudnt stop the abuse and ended up sleeping with my friend a month later. 2 months later my friend wanted to be with me and I was all for it i had bill pilled up from my ex and my friend payed them I couldnt afford to leave on my own he payed the rent he paid everything til i got on my feet even though i refused the help he payed anyway...4 years later we are still together anf our love is strong we also have a daughter ..should i feel bad for cheating on my ex husband even though we were separted (he use to pulled knives out on me and guns. me and my ex have common friend still and they say i was wrong for cheating.

skydiver	glad you happy put the past (nightmare) behind you and live on

s v	You should not feel bad if he was half as bad to you as it sounds.

divachick95	that's good that you left him. ovesially he got jealous and he was abusing you. you didn't have a family yet and your happy with this guy and you two have a family and anyway that's all in the past and now get on with the present.

Kelly s	No, at least you got out. I am glad you are happy. Wrong for cheating yes. Just be sure you don't make the same mistake again or he doesn't do the same thing to you.

retired	You were right to leave. You were not right to have a physical relationship until you were divorced.

Toto	Is nothing wrong at all. You have my support in 100%. You safe your life.

davidg32	Luv, as far as I'm concerned...the minute your husband hit you or pulled a knife or a gun on you...he forfeited the right to any kind of allegiance you might owe him. And neither he nor his friends have the right to criticize you for ANYTHING you did...even if you'd cut his throat. Just be glad you're out of that situation, and with someone who truly does love and cherish you...and tell your friends that they can all blow their criticism out their as.s.

Mean Carleen	I am totally against cheating NO MATTER WHAT, so yes, you were wrong to cheat BUT damn.....Its 4 years later.....WHY EVEN BRING IT UP!!! There is nothing you can do about it now so what the hell diff does it make. Tell the commom friends to shut the hell up , mind their own business and to move the hell on.

Sting111	are you trying to get back with ur husband?

Nelson M	Don't look at it as cheating, think of it as escape from an abusive husband. You wouldnt be force to sleep with your friend and eventually have an affair with him if it weren't for your husbands evil ways, right?

Baby Girl	Gurl, hell naw, you did the right thing for leaving!!1

xovenusxo	cheating is never the right thing to do. but you are spending too much time downing yourself. get on with life.

Who_Dey_Baby?	No. Your husband broke his vows first when he abused you. You did what you needed to do to survive.

to_sassy4_u	I wouldn't feel guilty. But why are you waiting 4 years later and a daughter later to even think about it?

cheech11681	You are fine. It was long ago. Move on & be happy. Being right or wrong doesn't matter anymore. You said that you left your husband, then slept with your friend anyway, so you didn't cheat.

gmconlan	It was wrong, but it happens thousands of times every day. It's called survival, and you did what you had to do.

jmol72001	dont say your love is strong..if it was you wouldnt have cheated..its either black or white baby...convince yourself of the fact....you are one nasty pig

S	no it was not wrong, cheating got you out of a bad relationship. besides ya'll were seperated, not like it was a loving marriage.

panda	No honey let it go just like you did him... you are still alive aren't you.... i would be sorry for that...

Kallie	No, yall were separated. My husband and I were separated this past summer, he slept with a few girls. I can't be mad, we wern't together.

AsianPersuasion :)	In an instance like this, no. You needed a way out and this was your only way. I am glad you have love now and that you are safe.

sebi	u write to long. that was really boring..................................â€¦

Lisa	live your life without regrets ask yourself this are you happy? are you content with yourself? if the answer is yes nothing else matters you can ask all the what ifs but the reality is you and your happiness. never look back and question yourself if you are happy and content with your life.

JayEmmBee	No you definately weren't wrong for cheating and its awesome that you actually had someone to help you along as you regained your strength. Its sad to see women in the same situation who don't have the courage or confidence to leave them.

fortyninertu	You were still married and that is cheating.