I dated a married man please read?

chlango1	get over it and forget about him.HE IS MARRIED.

leoslady3900	Leave him alone there are plenty of Nice SINGLE men out there that would like to have a nice girl. Most of the time a married man will tell his mistress that he is going to divorce his wife for her but it usually never happens.

Rooster 1972	Look what you are saying is that you want something that really does not belong to you. Put yourself in his wifes shoes. How would you feel if you found out he was seeing another lady. The same way she did. I cannot blame her for wanting a child to help save her marriage. Look now this guy cannot even if he wanted to could leave this lady. There is just too much involved and I am sure he does not want to go through a nasty divorce, settle the assets, pay large child support, and on and on and on. You just need to understand that you should never get involved with a married man again in your life. Just too much drama and hurt involved. Stop calling this man, stop the emails and take it day by day and move on with your life. Sooner or later you will meet someone who is single and they will make you a happy lady.

samm5683	why would you date a married man to begin with people like you we call a home wrecker you need to leave him alone and find someone who aint married to get in a relationship with

shortstuff_48506	he will never leave her especially now that they had another child together. dosen't sound like he's to miserable to me. go on with your life and you will meet someone who is right for you and not married. trust me if he ever did leave her, would you be able to trust him 100 %. he cheated on her, what makes you think he wouldn't do it to you. good luck

krisi	You did the right thing to break contact. Do that again, and stay away from him. He is selfish for expecting you to be second best, he is bad news. Say that to yourself whenever you feel tempted to make contact again.

gmconlan	You should know by now that he is not going to leave her for you. Is that the way you want to go on for the rest of your life?

tnmtngirl	This is really pathetic. I wouldn't waste 5 minutes on some married guy. Raise your standards and move on.

Maw-Maw	You only need to do one thing---get you a life, he has his.That was a very big mistake.A man that cheats always will, so he'll be doing this to someone else one day.You need to get way past this, a year over someone that was married is way too much time.Have a great Thanksgiving.....

ally'smom	you should stop! you are screwing up a FAMILY they have children no matter how you feel if you loved this man you would never come between he and his kids. He chose her, he married her , you were WRONG... DEAD WRONG to ever contact him again. If i were his wife and found out i'ld have a few unpleasent things to say to you. You must move on it's unhealthy and you clearly has maturity issues maybe when you have kids you will understand what you did.

kymmy_kins	You should let go. You are asking for heartbreak and trouble. If you were married to him would you trust him???Put yourself in her shoes....?? Do you want her life????? Move on and find someone who will love you and only you.

Kitty	You're making a mistake by hanging on to the past. A year is plenty enough time to get over a relationship set-back. Forget this guy, and start dating people who are single and are emotionally available. You're wasting your time on a person who's CLEARLY not interested in a real relationship with you.

SHERITA J	Go to Wal-Mart, load up on fruits and vegetables, personal items and bottled water. Then go to the video store and rent your favorit funny movie. Go to church on Sunday and call your friends that you have not talked to in a while. Go to work and be the best at your job. Oh yeah, to answer your question.......see the above note.......GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE. You are too good for mess. And by now you should know that he is no good to anyone not even his wife. And if he ever gets with you, he will definitely do the same to you as he did to his wife.

wish2bwriter	Do not let him blame you for "making him crazy" about the two year separation. You are much, much better off without him. I know it doesn't feel like it right now - but you will get through this. Take all the good qualities you loved in this man and look for those same qualities in a man who will treat you with respect and love and, most importantly, is not married. Hang in there - I know it hurts but you will get through.

My dreams are my sanity	People are going to tell you that you should just leave him alone and etc. but i tell you my friend that i understand you....before i got married i dated a married man... i know it was wrong but you know what i found out... i found out that love like that is not really love... it's an obsession, married man sometimes have the power to influence and brain wash women that for some reason.. we fall for them... i know the way you feel... You feel LOVED .. correct... but you need to search for love somewhere else.. good luck

candleinthewind7579	Move on...he's obviously holding onto his marriage and family...don't destroy them. Children are involved

thetiffanylurae	You need to move on. Its clear that he has. He will never leave his wife and if you continue what your doing you will always be just a back up girl. Find someone who you can be #1.

Etoile	Sounds like a sticky situation. I would NOT contact him anymore. Trust me there are healthy men out there who are single, hardworking, and LOYAL. He seems a bit confused and scattered and it is not your responsibility to fret over his issues. There's too much luggage here and you don't need to carry other peoples luggage. Take care of yourself and move on. Letting go is a REFRESHING feeling. Be the kind of woman you'd like to find in a man! Good luck!

Archie Kings	Pack your bag and run like hell

Lori	Do yourself a favor.....move on. You will forget him at some point. He is leading the life that he wants. No baby can save a marriage. It's up to the husband and wife to do that. Don't fall for anymore of his lies......MOVE ON. Find someone that deserves you.

msthinkpositive	GET a life, without someone else man. There are too many single men or already divorced men to choose from. If it wouldn't have been you he would have had another victim to believe that lie about leaving his wife. Kids don't cause people to stay together these days, which is a lie too. So, if you want to be happy, then get someone who's available to help make you happy.

l_kur	I would suggest that it really is time to move on. It has already been proved that this man will not leave his wife and children from you, how much ever miserable he feels. Looking at all this, it seems like he wasn't that miserable after all and was rather using you. So, there is no reason to feel guilty for having put two years space between you both and not supporting him. Anyone in your position would have done the same thing. It is sort of a reflex action among people. So, don't feel guilty about it. Try not to contact him again as it will reveal your desparation for him and he may start to take you for granted. But as I said, its time to move on. It will be hard initially but time heals everything and you will find someone who can give you more security and love.

Texan	Find a nice single guy to date and leave married men alone. Most married men are just looking for a booty call anyway.

Cap'n Jack	Trust me, he is never going to leave her for you.

givelife	leave him alone, you deserve better. i know that it is easy for a stranger to tell you to just move on, but in the end you will be happier, I promise. It will take time to get over, but eventually everything will fall into place. I feel sorry for his wife to be married to a man that could just ignore his vows. Believe me, he was cheating on both of you and both of you deserve a good decent man who will love and worship only you.

hot_italian_empress	Oh, gosh...this is so painful, I know. I'm probably not one to talk---I've taken my share of hits for the posting of my own situation, but the truth is, a relationship takes two people. You cannot do it yourself, and you need him to have equal commitment which it diesn't seem like he does. My way of looking at it is, he would have found a way to seek you out if he'd really really wanted to be with you over this past year. There are places you go that he would have staked out---SOMETHING. He didn't, and instead tried to patch his home situation---so that needs to tell you something, even though you love him dearly. I believe it is probable that he loves you some, too, but if he doesn't have the balls to stand up and grasp the happiness, you can't do it alone. Leave him be and wait and see what he does. It's the hardest thing imaginable, but important to do. I did this...totally pulled back from someone I love desperately, and he came to me and also took control of his situation and changed it so we could be together. HE has to be the one, I'm sorry to say. Patience is the key here, but SO HARD, I know. Best of luck to you.

Georgina	move on - why do you want someone who is taken? you are not only taking the woman's husband, the father of her children but you are also robbing the children of their dad. some people are simply unable to say no and hurt other people but clearly he is indicating there is no future between the two of you since he is choosing her. let him go. Go find a man who will choose you and the babies you will have for him and think how you would feel if someone would be wanting to take this man away.

jokersmile	Leave the guy!!!He doesn't deserve you!