I didn't know he was married?

Samantha J	go to the law... he shouldve told u he was married... thats just being mean. i knew a girl that was datin a married guy and didnt know it and she got pregnate by him.

Personal Genius. x	Don't pay anything!!!!! Go to court if she is clever enough she will leave it, as it will end up costing her money! Good Luck Chuck! :)

dat_sweetmami	tell her to take you to court if she wants some type of payment, i dont think she is really hurt i think i smell a money hungry person..dont get scammed!!!!

Heatherrrrrrrr	She can get a lawyer if she wants your money. You should get a restraining order on her. Now that you know he is married leave him alone.

D	You shouldnt have to pay her anything if anyone should pay her it should be her husband I mean he knew he was cheating, but just ignore her and tell her to try and be better in bed next time!

Zebra Lover	Restraining order. She can't make you pay any money to her. Tell her to get it from her cheating husband.

Mrs D	Tell her to ask her cheating husband for the money... If she is harassing and threatening you then get a restraining order.

Mommy of 1 & 1 on the way!	Get a restraining order on her. You didn't know about their marriage, and it was his fault for cheating, you shouldn't have to pay a dime.

Katie Lou Who	Being able to sue due to alienation of affection depends on what state you live in. If you didn't know he was married and can prove it then you are okay.

J n R	First you need to call the police and tell them that she is threatening you then you might want to get a lawyer and see what else you can do. DON'T PAY HER A THING!!!!! No she can not sue you for this if you did not start the affair!!!!

Anji	Do not pay this woman a dime...You do not owe her anything. She needs to take this up with her husband....He is the one who betrayed her. Get away from this man and next time, keep your eyes wide open so that you are not caught up in this mess again.

stephbbear	Oh to be so naive.... First you didn`t know he was married, now you think you have to pay her cash for pain and suffering? Tell her to call your lawyer....that might scare her off, & mention that you filed harrassment charges too, so you`ll see her in court....

shellshell	Tell her to take it up with her husband. He's the one who lied to you and cheated on her. Change your phone number. Get a restraining order put on her. Ignore her calls. Don't talk to either one of them and get on with your life. It's not your fault. Hes the one who deceived you both.

lilylady20	Depending on the state your in, she can legally sue you. It's called alienation of affection. IMMEDIATELY I'd get a lawyer. It's a really really stupid law but there you are...you should get a lawyer as soon as humanly possible. It will A) Stop her harrassing you and B) Hopefully give you better chances if you do go to court.

kelliep1777	File the restraining order and do not even consider paying her a dime, if she shows up or anything call the cops. You have NO LEGAL OR MORAL obligation to pay for anything for this woman,even if you had known. It is not your fault that her husband was a lying cheating boil on society.

just another girl	id say take it up with the guy who was stupid enough to forget he was married.if she wants paid but not in court you should ask her what her game is.if i had gotten paid everytime i got cheated on i tell ya id be a millionaire.i think its kinda dumb that she wants money for "the emotional damage".we have to pay taxes and for education,now we are expected to pay for hearache?wut the he** is this world coming too?it ridiculous!!! no offense to anyone out there its just my opinion

dancing_smurf	I would get legal advice as soon as possible. Getting a restraining order usually can be done without a lawyer but based on your posting it sounds as though more is going on in which a lawyer can advise you. Until you see a lawyer I would recommend in my opinion to get your phone number changed and not to agree to any of her demands.

Special K	She legally can sue you in some states for alienation of affection. You're in a tough spot. I wouldn't pay her out of court. If it goes that far she has to prove that you knew he was married. Where is he in all of this? He is the one with the commitment to her not you. He sounds like an azz.

lbclerk	Go to the local sheriff's dept and tell them you'd like to have a restraining order taken out on this woman. You did not know this man was married, it's him she needs to worry about getting money from for support, alimony, etc..., not you. You were innocent, and if I were you, I'd restrain him too. What does he have to say about all this?

tried333	DO NOT PAY A SINGLE DIME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Do ya hear me? Does she NOT see that this is NOT your fault??!!!!!!!!!! It's her stupid two-timing husband's fault! Now.... if you knew he was married, that would be a different story. But since you didn't, you are NOT obligated to pay a single thing. AND, if she goes so far as to take it to court, you would STILL win (and she'd waste a lot of her own money) because you DID NOT KNOW! So..... don't pay a thing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And definitely get some sort of restraining order. And.... leave the man who put you in this mess. He cheated on his wife. If you end up together, guess who he'll cheat on next? You! And you owe yourself a fabulous man who is true to you, to his own heart, and to yours. Period.

Morbid One	YOU OWE HER NOTHING. Her husband hurt her, you didn't even know she existed. Tell her exactly what I wrote (but coming from you). Don't be a fool and let her pressure you into anything. She IS, and should remain, a stranger. The "alienation of affection" thing some people have said she can take you to court over, only applies if you KNOWINGLY cheated with a married man. You are safe, and to stay that way, have no contact with either the man or his wife. I also suggest you get to know someone a little better before sleeping with them, no offense. This situation should never have happened to you.

â™¥ missing a soldier in Iraq â™¥	you have nothing to do with that. do not give her money under the table. if she wants money from you tell her to take it to the judge. she will probobly drop it. also get a restraining order so she cant contact you. also change your phone number asap. he is the one that cheated not you so if they want to get a divorce thats between them. why the hell should you have to pay for a divorce? use your head girl!!!

Wildflower	Depending on how she phrases her statements to you.. it could be considered blackmail which is a felony. Listen and see if she uses "If, then" statements.. i.e. If you don't pay me, then we'll have to go to court. Don't pay her a dime unless she takes you to court, which I can almost guarantee she won't.. she's just hoping to scam you out of your money. I would also tell her straight up that you consider what she is doing is harassment and blackmail and are seriously thinking about going to the police and retaining legal counsel. I bet you won't hear another word after that. Then, I would quit talking to her. If she continues, then file a restraining order against her.

Glow	Alienation of affection doesn't hold up in court in every state. There are only a few states that people can sue for this reason. I do understand her hurt and frustration (especially because she may not fully realize that you didn't know he was married) but you don't have to pay her a dime. She should have it court ordered that her husband pay the attorney fees and whatnot if he makes a lot more money than she does. He knew he was married, he committed adultery.

Lisa G	You write her a letter and send it certified mail. Keep a copy for your records. (insert date) Dear _______: You contacted me on _____ __, 2008, _____ __, 2008, and _____ __, 2008. On _____ __, 2008 you stated __________. On _____ __, 2008 you stated _________. On _____ __, 2008 you told me I had to pay you ___________. Mr. ______ never informed me he was married. I was unaware that he was obligated to anyone. He intentionally deceived me. Now you are threatening and harrassing me. Please note that I do not owe you a penny, will not pay you a penny, and will seek legal action against you if the harrassment does not stop. You are hereby warned that any further contact from you will cause me to seek a restraining order and possible criminal charges against you. Cease contacting me immediately. Respectfully, ______________ BTW: Record all phone calls, keep all voicemails, and any documents that she sends to use if you really have to take her to court. You are not legally obliagted to give her any money. File a police report every time she contacts you. If she does not stop..take the police reports to the prosecutors office. They will give you the restraining order and file charges against her.

Perdendosi	Yes, people are right that the tort of "alienation of affection" at one time allowed a married person to sue a "paramour." But there are pretty much NO states that still recognize the tort (perhaps in the South). Plus, I believe it's an intentional tort, so simply sleeping with her husband, with no knolwedge of the marriage, is not enough. Tell her to pound sand. She's blackmailing you. Then, even if you can't afford one, talk to a lawyer. Spend $150 bucks to have him write a letter on your behalf to get her to stop. EDIT: Wikipedia has a list of the states that still have the tort: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alienation_of_affections Also, note, as I said, she has to prove "malicious conduct" on your part. Simply sleeping with a guy and not knowing he's married wouldn't be "malicious" (well, at least it shouldn't be. I don't know what the law would be in your state.) Don't let her blackmail you. talk to an attorney asap.