I don't love my husband?

shadowmutt	Then go stay with family members. Its that simple. Seperation not divorce You had a life before you met him and you will live after hes gone

Red Rose	It's good that there are no children to pay for your mistakes. You can't have it all. Either you stay with him and continue to live as you do now. Or you leave him.

appleblossom07	That is hard! Are you in love when you guys are still going out? and why did you get married if not for love? 4 years is a long time and I think that it's not healthy. No one should be married if not for love, it will just be pointless and unhappy. Everyone can live alone, you have to learn how to live with yourself. Get a small job and rent a really small appartment. I think it's time for you to go out and live by yourself and find another men that would make you feel good. Go out to a bar or something and get another men. If you don't know what to do, maby you should just cheat on him, it seems more easier. It seems like the only option here even though it's bad. It's okay to feel alone, I'm lonely all the time. I think you only get married so that you will have someone to take care of you and a place to go to but it's time honey. You are going to be very misery and regret it very much when you get older if you stay with him. Tell him or at lease gave him hints, chances are that he probably feel the same too. You guys can still be friend.

donnadome	I think you know what you should do if the truth be told, you should need affirmation from others, am i right? I think you should leave him, and start the ball rolling asap, for this guys sake, as much as your own.You have said yourself he isnt a bad guy, well, it sounds like he deserves a great deal more out of life than what you have to offer him. It seems all a little one sided, what about this guy?Can you really go on living a lie in your marriage when he physically repulses you. Many women, in a far, far worse situation, eg in a violent marriage, manage to leave their partner, so why on earth can't you?Leave him, allow him to find someone who truly loves him , and is not repulsed by him......get a better job, find your own place, and be self sufficient, dont rely on this man financially any longer, set him free, and find your own way in life.......i hope you can both move on with your lives, make a decision and see it through,and stand on your own two feet, some things in life are far, far more important than money.

â™ Jayâ™	You do have the option of returning to your parents. If not that, you have to be brave enough to move on with your life. How much longer can you stay suppressed? If you truly feel that it won't work out, just walk out without a divorce. Say that you want some space and want to live with your parents or a friend for a while. Either that, or think it through and stick by him. You did get married to him for a reason. Think back to that.

Searcher	Well you can talk to him and tell him how you feel. It won't help the marriage but maybe he feels the same way and you can get a quickie divorce. No children should mean a simple divorce which doesn't cost too much. Then you advertise and get a roommate. It is not going to be easy but why stay in a loveless marriage? It has to be very draining on you and him if there is no love. Its not fair to either one of you to stay together. After a time of loving alone, with a roommate, you can find someone else. AKA "Mr. Right". You have to make a move. Sooner is better. Good luck my friend.

-	All the reasons you give for not leaving him are excuses. If I felt the same way you do about a spouse I would have already been gone. The longer you make up excuses for not leaving him, the more miserable your life becomes. I have a friend who fled Vietnam with nothing more than the clothes he wore, could not speak a word of English, and had no marketable skills. But he knew he could not live under communism. Today he has an annual income in the six figures, a lovely family, and a great future. So what's keeping you in a loveless situation?

ellie18	Well, I find that you are in a difficult situation and I really am sorry. Maybe it's fate. Have you ever tried loving him? If it really does not work then maybe, you might want to consider divorce. Your husband sounds like a nice guy though. Treasure him while you can. Sometimes you don't know you love someone until the day he no longer is by your side. Do think carefully and I wish you all the best in finding your happiness.

Jordan M Ø´Ù¡Ù©Ù§Ù¦	Wow...a user. You are being deceptive letting someone take care of you financially when you resent that person. Let the man go so he can find someone who loves him.

DongBrat	Look, this is why they invented marital separation. You don't have to create a divorce in one stroke. Move out to the home of a friend or relative while you get back on your feet. Read up on separation. Here are some links. http://www.womansdivorce.com/how-to-file-for-a-legal-separation.html http://www.womansdivorce.com/separation.html http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/usstatedivorcelaws/a/fla_laws.htm http://www.uslegalforms.com/fl/FL-DO-10A.htm

Not Swayed	Can't cry over spilled milk...........but you married this guy why?????? Sounds like you need your income supplimented. Should have gotton a roomate vs. a husband. He is who he is and most likely was the way then ( 4 years ago ) as he is now. But you married this guy why????? You don't like him in bed, you differ on everything as you say, but you married this guy why????? Maybe if you become honest with yourself from your decisions 4 years ago, you can be honest with him now 4 years later.

LISSA	Don't ever say that you can not do it alone, because you can. And living alone is good everyone should do it, because then you will know that you can be independent. You should not stay just because you are afraid that you can not be alone, what is your happiness worth to you?????

Balu	doesnt make sense...

john_s_collier	Talk to him about how you feel. You do not have to bluntly state that you do not love him....but how you feel that things just do not feel right. Go from there. if he loves you, he will listen. But staying with him because of financial reasons is not fair to either one of you.

Bezia Aurora	Then why u marry him at the first time? Do you know there are so many singles in this planet ? Cherish your relationship as a gift from God

CatCat	well the best thing to do (in the long run) is end the relationship if you are unhappy. you don't have to get divorced just yet, maybe separate. would you be able to go back to your parents? thats what a lot of people do when marriages break. being alone is a scary thought but you with a good friend network you needn't feel lonely and you may be able to meet someone who you feel is right for you

naldo	you need to tell him this so he can go on with his life before you leave him so he can be prepared like you will be it is only fair

Insert clever name here	If he's a good man, then why not seek counseling instead of trying to divorce him? It sounds like he provides for you financially and you don't want to do without the money. Don't be a mooch. Why did you marry him to begin with? It sounds like you don't know what you want in life and you may now have ruined this man's life (regardless if you divorce him or not). It's not fair to him that you don't give him 100% of yourself when it sounds like he is giving YOU 100%.

raysmithson1	maybe he feels the same about you ,,, go for the split get away while you can ,,, it don't cost much for a para legal to file ,, like fifty bucks it's your life make some thing of it

Gator	What made you marry him then ? Did he have a big wallet ? If you can't afford a lawyer maybe you can consider marriage counseling .

oscarwilde_420	why dont u say it openly! u love somebody else!

jayjay	You dont you shouldnt be with him if you dont love him. Why dont you stay with a friend or your parents house.. you wont be alone and you will afford no worries and good luck

kensey	start doing things on your own. start building life for yourself outside of him. then you can leave him. otherwise, you could just try to learn to love him. that's been shown to work a lot in arranged marriages. good luck.

tommytheworstofthemall15	if you have somewhere you can go like sister grandmas etc ask them if you can stay there until the divorce is over and thataway you won't be alone for a while

I love my hubby :)	follow your heart. but you should sit down and talk to him and see if maybe he can change some things and try to work on it first. try taking a piece of paper and writing all the things he needs to work on and he should do that about u and then one for both of you guys!

John S	talk to him

christinamasalha	i think you need to talk to your husband. You must have loved him at one time or you would not have gotten married right? Talk to him and maybe you can rekindle what ever it is you lost.

Gwen H	U need to end it. Its not fair to u or him. Just thank god there are no children involved. Let him go and move on. It will be better if u do trust me.

resty m	that is soooooooo unfair.... learn to love him more....... don't add up to the growing numbers of couples divorcing adding up to the growing number of pipol burning in hell i bet you don't want that hapening to you...right? right!