I found out my 1 nite stand had a daughter with me she hid for 3 years. can i ask to get my rights terminated?

luckylover	dont drink duh

newyorker	i agree with the person above!! DONT DO DRUGS!!

hello.	did any other guy sign her birth certificate?

la man	Why don't you call a lawyer and ask?

I say this and that	You need to leave it alone unless she contacts you ... seriously, you are messing with families

dinosaurkisses	if she hasnt told you & tried to get child support yet... odds are she wont in the future.

P.Y.T.	well im pretty sure you would both have to agree on that , in order to sign away your rights.

lovelymelinda619	Yes you should. its your daughter. thats dumb hiding your own kid away from you for 3 years and you didnt know. you should stand up because it can become worse.

blondbrunette1	So this is about money? An innocent child in the middle- nice! One day, many years from now you will regret it if there is anything to you (but it doesn't sound like it). Man, what a world we live in!

Jane D	Go ahead it is your right to give those rights up. But as a parent if it was a one night stand or not that little girl reguardless is your seed. Half you!! And it will be your LOSS!!

Miceah B	You can get a lawyer and get your rights terminated so that the MAN who is raising her can adopt her and take his name. Then you won't be legally responsible for her.

rivasj27	If you do not want your rights to the child, you can sign away all rights and you will not be held responsible for child support.

ohiolady1974	You can terminate your rights. But you need to have her agree to a paternity test before you do anything. Make sure the child is yours. Good Luck

Lovely Lady 27	Well, I wouldn't do anything. As far as you know its not your child. She told you she had a miscarage that terminated your rights. She chose not to tell you. I would pretend you don't know. That will be best for all partys.

splice	Even if you get your rights terminated she is still biologically your daughter...step up to the plate and talk to this woman as well as your wife...otherwise it will continue to eat away at you for the rest of your life

Susan D	you pay the suport anyway. it's right thing to do! it's a good thing that he treats her like his kid, not all kids are so lucky, but you should pay, and maybe visit sometimes. you may feel like you're intruding in their life, but it's your kid too! without you she wouldn't be there.

.	Go to court and have your rights as the father of this child that is unwanted by you terminated. I am sure her mother and future father will be thrilled to have you permanently out of their lives.

Shavon	You can't just go sign your rights away especially if you are not the father stated on the birth certificate. You will have to prove you are the father first and that will disrupt their lives. Why not just discreetly contact her and speak with her about it.

Stace	That depends on if she put you on the birth certificate as father. If she didn't then she would have a hard time trying to stick it to you until there was a paternity test. And why disrupt their marriage and lives with crap like that? If she hasn't done it yet, she probably won't.

Ricky J.	Find out if the girl's husband has adopted the kid. If so, all done. Go no further. You could always petition for it but that'll put you on the court's radar and you'll be stuck with child support. Best to get her to petition for it. then you'll only have to sign the papers in front of a witness like a lawyer and such.

chik7896	First of all you don't even know if this child is yours are not, you are jumoing to conclusions. Second of all, sign over your rights? Be a real man, and if the child is yours, be there for her. Don't try to run away from your mistakes. This is YOUR daughter. You might just regret your decision later on in life.

Just_Call_Me_Shady	You cant say the kid is yours unless you have a DNA test. Just because the little girls face may look like you when you were young, doesnt prove shes actually yours. Shes more likely to be the womans husbands kid. But if your so suspicious, you can actually call her up and ask or get a DNA test, thats the only way to prove it for certain. Dont jump to conclusions, find out.

I've Got My Answer	Yes contact the courts and let them know you want to relinquish your rights to the child. You may have to go through her and have her contact the courts, but you do have the right to do that, especially if you're not going to be involved in the child's life and it sounds like she doesn't want you to be......

Tree	If she wanted to get you on the hook for child support, she would have contacted you a long time ago. There is a chance the child is not yours. And most likely, when she gave birth, she probably put father unknown. If you are very concerned, you should contact her but that might open up a can of worms.

Rivergirl	Wait..deal with this issue if the need arises. One of these days, you may have a change of heart. I understand you don't want any surprises in the future. You automatically think that a "surprise" would be damaging to your family, when in reality, it could be just the opposite. Your unborn child already has a half-sister..that's something to think about and take into consideration.

Witchay Woman	I think you need to try to be a dad. You helped bring a child into this world, even if you were drunk and didnt' mean to, and you have an obligation to at least TRY to be a father to this girl. I understand not wanting to jeopardize your future family, but you have to deal with the consequences of decisions you make.