I have been talking to another woman and am married.?

stessie	This is so wrong You two got married for a reason and You need to find each other again...

Kster	In a long term relationship/marriage it is easy to become compliant because there isn't much that is unknown (interesting and exciting) Marriage is more than just excitement it's about loyalty, trust and what you are teaching the children you chose to have, teach by example. In life we are all growing and changing. Take the time to date your wife again before you make the decision to move on.

HAPPYGIRL	You and your wife need to have a serious conversation and perhaps see a therapist. Do this before you involve someone else in your life.

High on Life!!!	There is a time when you feel like your life is monotonous. 15 years is a lot of time. I've been married for 13 years and I know exactly what you are going through. This is only a face. Be true to your wife. Kids will suffer. Keep your friend as a friend only. Believe me the grass is NOT greener on the other side. Good Luck!

dwjdnow	You should stop talking to this other woman if it is tempting you to be unfaithful to your wife. You don't want to teach that to your children. If you recognize that you marriage is same ole same old spice it up get a babysitter for the weekend and take you wife to the spot you met do something romantic to reconnect to get back to the reason you two fell in love to begin with. Change things a little. You obviously love one another or you would not have made it 15 years. don't become a statistic rekindle things and take a step back from the temptation this other women is luring you into.

workstoomuch	Whether or not you stay with your wife, DO NOT have an affair while married. It is damaging to the kids. They will lose respect for you. Do the right thing and try to work things out with your wife. After all, there is a reason you married her. Talk your marriage over with her, maybe she feels something is wrong too. Maybe it'll open both your eyes to something that can save your marriage. Or you'll both conclude that the marriage is over and then you can split amicably. Affairs are always wrong. It leaves you untrustworthy and shows you have no control. Think of what it'll do to your wife and especially think about your kids.

ndolfntym	It is always easier to talk with someone who is on the outside, not dealing with the day to day stuff. She can be sympathetic while your wife is wanting support. But it would be such a great loss to walk out on something because you don't see the fire burning. Just stir up the cinders a bit. Don't lose what you have when there is nothing really wrong with it, just liven it up. And remember that the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence, which means you cross over to the other side it will be greener where you just left from. But then it may be too late.

babygyrl	I think your feeling is lust, why is it so hard to talk to your wife about the same things that the other woman hears about??? A relationship is nothing without cammunication, so if you feel your ready to quit at something you once thought was a beautiful thing then do it, but get a divorce first, no one ever deserves the pain of being cheated on. And think about how you would feel if the tables were turned?????? The least you could be after all those years is honest.

manita	once a cheater always a cheater your wife does not deserve that neither do your kids you are not only cheating on your wife you are cheating on your kids tooI say talk to your wife and if she forgives you go from there if not good luck..oh by the way maybe your wife does not connect with you because you are connecting with someone else...

hotroom.com	20 years is a long time to throw away. You can talk and go out with the other woman but the family is still the most improtant.

dappersmom	You stop talking to her RIGHT NOW and honor your commitments to your wife and family. How can your wife be there for you when you are out talking to another woman????? You don't connect because you aren't there! Expecting that everyday life and wife and kids and day after day will feel like the different and new is ludicrous and immature as well as unrealistic! This is life, your life the one you chose and built, if you had a whole in your roof would you burn the house down or fix it? And heres a hint, have a couple of kids and few years with the new one and its not gonna feel like it does now either. Take responsibility for whats wrong in your marriage and get to work fixing it. If you put the energy in to fixing things with your wife that you are putting in to the other woman things would probably get better. Your wife probably doesn't think you are all that sometimes either. How would you feel if it was your wife posting this question?

foursquaremommy	I believe marriage is a lifelong commitment. I was married once before for 10 yrs and my ex-husband started talking with other women too. He felt a new sense of attraction that with me was "old news." Because of that we got divorced and he married his "old flame." They stayed together for 2 yrs until she left him and now he is on his third marriage and although things with us were rough I do wish him the best. I, on the other hand, waited 9 yrs to find Mr. Right and I am the happiest person around! I believe marriage should be forever, and even if there are problems, you both make them, and you both should work at them with counseling, seminars, whatever. My kids are grown now and have seen the ways of both of their parents, I only pray they have seen some kind of example in me when they eventually marry. I don't wish divorce on my kids or anyone.

CALAVA	Well, why can't you start to have with your wife what you have with this other lady? You've known the other women for 20 years and only now are having feelings for her? You've been with your wife for 15 years and have two children. You should work on your relationship with your wife, start talking tell her that your marriage needs help and if she won't go get help then you should. But don't risk losing your family over this.

wes297	You made a promise to her (and God), quit the foolish relationship with this other women before all three of you end up regretting it, oh and by the way if she would be involed with you knowing that you are married, she would cheat on you down the road...because SHE HAS NO VALUES

Isadora	WHAT WOULD IT BE IF YOUR SPOUSE WERE HAVING TOO MUCH TALKING WITH ANOTHER MAN... HAVE YOU THOUGHT IT? AND... WHAT ABOUT YOUR KIDS? DONÂ´T YOU CARE ABOUT THEM?

irishtxblueeyes	u shouldnt just give up on a marriage when u got kids i say stay with ur wife and kids dont do anything ur going to regret

mdm63	Stick with the wife you'll realise one day that you trully love her. Most couples go through that. It's called a lifetime and it takews that long

Sam65	I think your should keep them both, do right by them both,keep one as your loving wife and the other as your loving gf, nothing wrong with this, alot of people do it.

angelminxgirl	It's good that you are thinking about this before jumping in and starting an affair. If you are having these feelings, you should consider either leaving your wife or taking steps to strengthen your relationship with your wife. Don't leave her for this other woman because you have no idea if things will work out with her. These feelings are a sign that things are not going well in your marriage and something needs to be done about it - either improve it or leave it. You can't just stay where you are because those feelings will continue and you may end up having an affair. Hope this helps.

bee	be like nike and just do it

That's my final answer	Right now you are having an emotional affair. Try counseling or just TRY harder with your wife. Trust me and millions of others a divorce especially with children is NOT going to be that cut and dry. If you cheat on your wife you are cheating your children also. You married her for a reason right, no one put a gun to your head and made you! Go back to the beginning find what you and her seem to have lost. This other woman may seem tempting but the old saying ... the grass is always greener....( until you get to the other side)....

dionysos	just what ever u wanna u should care the most ur kids ,

missyjenn	So if you want to throw away 15 years marriage for what could be just a fling, then go for it. You don't need my approval to do anything. Dude, it's your life.

Hello Love	I would like to know why every male always says that every time they find a new toy.If your wife really isnt there for you then do what you must do dont stay in a realationship when there is nothing there because then your kids see that and thats not okay

ishotvoltron	How can she not be there for you with that cool mean face, that stubble and long curly hair? And a chopper?! You're a pretty sensitive road warrior, man. I admire that. Stay with the wife and kids. Kids should never have to go through what you might be suggesting.

BrazilChic	got two choices: try to re-connect with your wife either through counceling and a change of lifestyle (more trips alone, etc)...or divorce her FIRST then move on....but whatever you do, DON'T cheat on her.

karo112	Marriage is forever and not just until someone better comes along. If you are having issues with your wife, talk to her or try counseling...don't just give up....that's a cowardly way out.

athbstuk05	You should wait until the kids are grown before abandoning the relationship with their mother.

NYQT22	I think you should try and work things out with your wife

freedomsnotfreehoorah	dude go where your heart is