I just found out my husband is molesting my daughter?

quiet one	There's no waiting involved, you go to the police immediately with your daughter, no one is going to turn you away. your daughtr needs to be checked to see how far this has gone. don't be afraid to make a move. SAVE YOUR DAUGHTER FROM A GREATER TRAUMA ITS ALREADY BAD ENOUGH POLICE WILL BACK YOU IMMEDIATELY GOOD LUCK AND NY PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU. I KNOW WHAT U ARE GOING THROUGH. MY FAMILY WAS A VICTIM OF THIS SITUATION I WAS A VICTIM OF THIS SITUATION. IF U HAVENT LEFT YET U NEED TO STOP READING THIS SECOND AND WALK OUT THAT DOOR ITS UP TO YOU TO MAKE THIS BETTER 4 UR LITTLE GIRL.

Thumbs down me now	find a way to leave NOW. it doesn't matter when, at night when he was sleeping, when he is at work, just get you daughter and get out then go to the police and get them to help you keep your daughter safe!

mr_crankypants	What the hell are you doing on the internet. Get her interviewed by a police psychologist NOW.

Constance Olivia	Go to the police immediately! You can also contact the child protection agency in your county. The truth is the sooner you get your daughter out of the situation the better. The police are trained and know how to talk to your daughter. This not a wait and talk to attorney situation. If he the suspects you know pedophiles are very manipulative and may try to scare your daughter. Your daughters well being is first at foremost. Please do not wait.

sis_jk27	There will be proof. Any change in her behavior will be your proof. My 2 year old niece has been messed with, & she sticks things between her legs, & touches herself down there. I my-self had been messed with, & though there was no physical proof, there is no court system in thier right mind going to doubt the accusations brought before them. A woman i know had charges against her boy friend for doing things with her daughter, & he was arrested, & was given an order to stay away from them untill futher notice. He of course was innocent, but because the accusations were brought up, no-one will risk letting this to continue if it is in deed gooing on. There are steps you can take to get away. First get a restraining order against him, then ask to be placed in a shelter for batter & abused women. That way when he asks where you are, they will not be able to tell him any thing. All that info. would be kept confidential.Try leaving when he is not home, but go where he would never suspect. By all means, Whether he is doing it or not is not the question, keep that little girl safe is the main thing. If there is any doubts at all that he may be doing this, get her out of there, & don't wait!!!!!

hopefulmom	Please- do whatever it takes to protect your daughter! Get a protective order for you and her, leave town (completely away from any place he would know or think to look) and get an attorney. And (very important) let her know that she is loved and has done nothing wrong. I'm praying for you and your daughter.

jkg7172	This is my opinion: You need to report this so there can be an investigation. Whether they believe you are not, they will have to check out your daughter for any signs. That way when you do go to court for your divorce you can used that as your reason for requesting sole custody and no visitation. One thing I want to say on a more personal note, when I was younger my grandfather fondled me and I never told anyone for fear no one would believe me. I still remember it to this day, every time a man touches me. Be there for her no matter what and get her counseling. I recently got divorce and I have 2 daughters and I always fear that my husband would touch them an inappropriate way because it happen to me. I have a feeling I will always feel that way about my girls. I wish you both the best.

Tater Salad	Alright....First: Do not talk to her or ask her about it because it will change her perception and she'll go from stating a simple fact to "big people are asking me this and I'm shy". Contact Child services as SOON as you can!!! Child services will help you obtain a restyraining order from the police until a formal investigation is done. Go go go! Do NOT let him have her alone UNTIL you call Child Protection Services!! Live with your mom until that appartment comes up. Leave tonight! Call tonight! She needs you the most right now. I can tell you're a good mom. Go go go.

rideburton18	wow.....y did u marry him?

hotboyblackxxx	go get her check and if it true go str8 to the police because he will keep doind it and doing until the lawyer call so get her checked and go to the police

ever1wolf	No offense, but your first mistake was coming here. Your second was not going IMMEDIATELY to the police and then perhaps to an attorney. Believeing or not, what your daughter might relate, will not stop the legal system from stopping the abuse. YIKES, are you still here?, shoo, get help NOW. Rev. Steven

GRUMPY	Lawyer, nuttin. Get your butt to the POLICE STATION this very minute. Once he has been arrested (and he will be) you go to court. If he is arrested at night there most likely will be no bail. Even if there is bail he will most likely be told to stay away from you and your daughter. The next morning get to court and they will issue a restraining order making him stay away from you and your daughter. Then and ONLY THEN go see a lawyer. Don't back down. Follow through with this. Becasue even if he agrees to stay away from you and your daughter, he may and most likely will go after another little girl.

acid_reflux27	Luckily for you the law is on your side. The law ALWAYS sides with a woman, and child if there is even any SUSPICION of molestation. Contact DHS (Department of Human Services). They will provide you and your child with temporary shelter, and support. They will also provide you with job training if you don't have one, and protection. He wont get visitation rights until it has gone through court, and if your story, and your daughters story match, he will never see her again.

jjclwood	seems how when i was a year older than her and my dad did the same thing. from personal experience get her out asap. it'll keep going. i would go to the police and either get advice or something. at least go to them and find out what can be done. I know when it happened to me, i told my mom and my dad said he was just testing me to see what i would do. and my mom believed him and didn't do anything. and it continued for five more years. you need to believe her and do something now. you can talk to a lawyer later. but you honestly need to talk to the police as soon as you get a chance to. she doesn't need to have that be her only memory of her childhood. if the police know and a lawyer know what's going on, chances are, he won't get her. if he gets visitation, then it'll be supervised. that's if he doesn't end up in jail or prison.

allday	Get the **** out of there! NOW!

too short for my weight	CALL THE POLICE you must have this on record you are taking a chance with your duaghters well being if you do not>>>>>

*~Proud Mommy~*	Go to the police so you can have her checked out and then you will have proof. The longer you wait the harder it will be to prove. Goodluck and my prayers and thoughts are with you.

korndisturbed777	yeah my sister got mollested, just talk to a lawyer or some sort of evaluator,but my mom was already dealign with some stuff so it made it easier,your best bet is to keep your daughter safe,or maybe you could tell your husband you and your daughter are going to your mom's house for a couple of days and try to get some help then,if he'll allow you two to get out,which it seems like he wouldn't do so that might be out of the question,but yeah just lay low until you can get help from someone that believes you

rhw626	take your daughter to the nearest er and have her checked out and then have them call the police. if he is then you can get a restraining order on him and he will have to stay away from you and your daughter.

gajeangjean	Go to the police immediately. You are her mother and have an OBLIGATION to protect her. You need to get that rotten piece of scum in jail where he belongs. I know you are scared, but leaving her with him is even more scary. Your daughter is only 4 years old and she is telling you that something is happening, please believe her. Don't wait to talk to lawyers, go to the police. I would do it right now.

Jen	Why are you waiting!!!!!! You should have went to the police first!!!! And you need to take her to the hospital to see if there is any damage done! What are you waiting for!? I can't believe that you would just sit around and wait....take some action!

You_are_my_sunshine	my best frend had the same problem just do wat your mom says and talk to a layer theres really nothing else you can do

chi_town_johnnyb	Get a child psychologist to talk to your daughter.

idontwannabefound2nite	You need to have her checked medically right away...the police need to be notified. You need to get your daughter immediately out of there. Are there women's shelters where you are?? They will provide you safety. GO A.S.A.P. and don't hesitate to report this to the police right away. This is your daughter...nothing is more important and I know you are scared, but please...do this now!!!!

Nancy	Take your daughter OUT of that house NOW.. THIS MINUTE!!! Go to the police and tell them that you had suspicions and when you asked your daughter, she confirmed it. TELL them you are afraid of him.. TELL them everything.. but GO NOW!!! DON'T give him a chance to find out you know.. DON'T give him a chance to hurt that child again!! If you don't get her out of there and away from him NOW... then you are guilty as well.. and you don't want to do that.. You obviously love your daughter far too much to have her hurt. PLEASE GO NOW!!!

Peaceful_Intelect	Hire some guys to help you get out. Seriously, a few mercenaries can really make a guy think twice before getting violent. If you have some good friends who are big guys then that would work too. You should get as far away from that monster as posible. I would call the cops, but if you arn't going to then at least escape.

mr_peepers810	Talk to the police and your lawyer and get put under police protection if need be. You have a duty as a responsible parent to protect your child. I doubt that anyone would say you are lying or anything because people don't usually make this up. Tell them what has been going on and how scared you are of him. I'm so sorry about your husband and what has happened for your daughter and I'll pray for your safety and recovery.