I just want to know what you think about having an affair with a married man?

Trisha	I think it's a really stupid idea, personally. He obviously can't keep the promises he made to his wife, so how can he keep the the promises he's making to you? I think that a woman who truly respects herself and is confident of her self worth would never do that. But that's just MHO. I also don't believe that a person can't get out a marriage. They might be afraid to, or might have trouble affording it, but anyone can get out of their marriage. There are people who will help you if you're in a situation like that.

J R	dont mess with a married woman's man there crazy show up at ur house cut ur tires so on so on

leigh	I'm suprised that anyone would be down the middle on this. this is not okay- its immoral- and it would make the other woman a homewrecker. Yes- even if the married couple have problems, or are separated, or are soon to be divorced.... it is not someone else's place to get involved. they could have a family, that could be even worse. the door on the marriage should always be closed- not ajar- closed- before someone jumps into something that has nothing to do with them..... i think its the most arrogant- disgusting thing- things anyone can do. why couldnt they find their own woman, or man? Some people will say they cant control their feelings- well- you CAN control how you react to them. These people need to stay the *&^% away from other people's husbands or wives.

Queenie`	Sneaky lil woman heading for a world of trouble.

carole	if a man needs to stray there must be something missing at home sweet home

IDoToo	I liked having an affair with my late husband about every other week! :)

LordVader	rebel sounds good. all the good ones are taken

Roland'sMommy	The only people who have affairs are ones with low self esteem and don't think they're good enough to deserve someone who is free to love them. The only people who cheat on their spouses are selfish and have no love for either woman in their life.

Sedo	DO YOU BELEIVE IN CARMA DARLING??? well put your self in the shoes of the wife..... it may happen to you someday...... not a very nice thing... the man needs to get his **** Bobbit-tized if he is thinking of this.

Dog Man	where is the love i dont think its right you will be labeld a HOME WRECKER.

Stick	There are upsides and downsides to everything we choose. In this case, the downsides out-weigh the upsides tremendously. While a woman might think she has feelings for the man and it would fulfill her every fantasy, most likely, she will end up as alone as she was before the affair not to mention broken-hearted. Why would anyone want to be the cause of the destruction of a marital foundation?

NONAME	If I was gonna have an affair WHICH I'M NOT... It would be w/ a married man just cuz I know I don't have intentions on leaving my hubby and I know he won't leave the wife so its safer that way w/ no strings attached...However this would never happen cuz I personally couldn't hurt a wife even if I don't know her cuz I've been burned that way and wouldn't want any female to feel that... So this is all figuratively speaking! Am I the only 1 that understood the ?...

~leaving traces~	It comes down to, "Would I want someone doing this to me?" Say you were happily married, and some other woman were moving in on your territory? Anyway, NOBODY wins in these situations, but everybody gets hurt. Personally, I don't think I'd ever truly, deep-down trust a man to be faithful to ME if he cheated WITH me on his wife.

prestigieuxlavie	Obviously, I think it is despicable! It takes two to tango, so both the sl*t AND the married man are complete trash.

xine	Having an affair with a married man is like SUICIDE! You'll ruin so many lives. Your life, His life, and His Family's life. Those who can take it have no CONSCIENCE!

The Irresistable Mr Hyde	It's a bad move. My friends have had affairs and believe me---they never talked about these women like they were people. They talked about them like they were just walking pieces of ***. They had no respect for them and some even bragged about how long they were stringing these girls along. As long as a woman is willing to set aside her self respect, honor, dignity, and any chance at a successful relationship, go right ahead. I guarantee that I won't be the man to help her cheat (if she was a married woman or if I were to ever get married). Sweetie, I wasn't calling you a homewrecker. I know that this is just a discussion at work. This is just my personal opinion on the matter. Relax. If they can't read the question fully then don't take their opinions to heart.

blue316	if you can handle...the late calls or no calls, visits or no visits, being alone, not going out into public, feeling of being the other woman, the fear of being caught...yea sounds good.

uneekqamar2004	On a spiritual level it's wrong. Things like this will come back on you when you least suspect it.

Maria	I am not sure, but I do know I wouldn't want to be the wife. Its unfortunate when you find a perfect guy and he ends up being married, but he belongs to someone else and I've heard they usually don't have the balls to leave her so you will always be second so don't fall in love. But if thats good enough for you then go for it.

chellelee28	You just have to put yourself in his wife's shoes. What would you think if you were married and you found out your husband was having an affair? You'd want to kill him.

Brown Water Drinker	See guys, we are not as bad as we're betrayed. Women do talk about and plan affairs. I knew it.

janicajayne	I think it's one of the stupidest things a woman can do.

moonbow	Not a nice thing to do, breaking up a family.

osue33	i dont think that getting someones sloppy seconds sounds like fun

KJ	not me. i'm straight as an arrow.

Kaja	I think it is wrong. Even if his marriage is crumbling, a person needs to deal with that and all that emotion before they move on. Dating a married man, in any respect, is asking for trouble. goes both ways. you just dont' date someone who is married.