I love my husband but.....?

Pandora	you need to seek professional help. people don't marry the person that raped them.

Tyler	OMG!! HE RAPED YOU!?!? THEN YOU BETTER BREAK UP WITH HIM DEFINITELY!!! I MEAN HOW CAN YOU LOVE SOMEONE WHO HAS RAPED YOU?! IT'S JUST STUPID!!

hyundai_tuner	Therapy cause you got some serious problems

â€ â™¥Mandaâ™¥â€	Well honey you should have went with yout FIRST instinks...why would you marry someone that raped you? That doesnt make any sense? Too confusing to say anymore...

SMILEY SON OF BRAINS	What you should have done was have him charged with Rape and had a termination. No idea what you should/can do now.

Tapestry6	Seek counseling you may have just set up that scenario in your mind for your own sake.

Joy	Find your self a good doctor and a good councilor. Your in need of some professional help.

Simone	Therapy, therapy, therapy, and then probably divorce (if I were you).

Breeze	A guy raped you and you MARRIED him? You need professional help. Lots and lots of professional help....

Lady	you need professional help. your relationship was forced because he raped you and got you pregnant. that is no way to "start" a relationship.

urlaacum	Choose your path. Either get over what he did to you and allow yourself to love him. Or divorce him. His feelings for you should have a say in this.

..	yeah ok, thats fked up. sorry, but give me a break, why the hell would you ever marry a guy. i dont even believe this oh and yeah, get some professional help , you definitely need it.

Demi Loves Twilght	I would not have married him. I guess he wanted you for reasons other than love. I guess, divorce and get some help. I'm sorry that had to happen to you. That's a terrible experience.

333	m3 is right, ...did you make this up? its messed up , who the hell would marry someone that supposedly raped them, pregnant or not, i think this is made up.

DaNewGuy	This does not add up at all. There are so many things missing in your story. Am just sad that the previous people who answered these question do not think that deep. But i think you are giving an excuse for something.

Kim	Go to court. He rapped you and should get in trouble with it. Plus, seems like you've forced yourself to love him, because you feel as though that there's nothing else you can do.

Red Rose	You feel resentment because he doesn't accept your pet and kids. Plus the fact that he forced himself on you. Talk to him about it. If it continues you will have to decide if you are willing to live this way. If you decide you are not willing, then tell him to leave.

evil_irish_darling	Well...marriage to anyone is never going to fix anything especially if you view the pregnancy as a "situation" that needs a solution. An rape..well..no is no ...no matter what..and marrying him..I recommend you seek some counseling and get the hell out of there and don't leave your child with a man like that.

Kye C	maybe you should try speaking to him about how you feel and see how he takes that.If that does not work then maybe take a break from each other, if it still does not work then the relationship is obviously not working out so you might have to consider getting a divorce kye cheema x

Flag	On the first date, he was thinking about "another cat and different kids". It wasn't rape then, because you would have had him locked up. Now it seems like he really upset you to where you want to make him REALLY regret what he did. Leave him, there are good guys out there.

chihuahua	I will could never love or marry a man that rape me just because I got pregnant, I would have put him in jail. Now you married him and now you feel angry at him for what? for raping you it's a little too late for that don't you think! cause you found yourself loving him. Will kept loving him

Andy	wow.. this is hard i think you should do whatever u feel in ur heart is the best thing to do if leaving him and getting a divorce is whats going to make u happy then go for it... speaking from experience i can tell u it will be hard especially since u guys have a child together.. but if the relationship is not working and its just making u unhappy then i think god can u give the strenghth to move on

jaybabiee9o9	well idk y u married him in the first place if he raped you....just because u got pregnannt you shouldnt have married him....Well y r u angry at him now....You said you loved him...if your angry because he rape you then idk what to tell you....u married him already...you can get a divorce i guess

The Thinker	Any man that forces himself upon a woman when she makes it clear that she is NOT interested cares only about himself and his gratification, and has little or no respect for the woman. If things are good now you are where you are. If they are not so good, you knew how he was, did you think he would change?

titou	I marked "Interesting" in the hope that some of my wiser contacts might give you better suggestions than I can. (EDIT: Or most of the answerers here -- there were only two when I began to write, and emotional guesswork will do no one any good at this stage.) For my part, I would say only that counseling (psychological rather than religious based because many denominations lean toward the sanctity of marriage itself) would be a very good idea, with both of you present as early as possible. There is a phenomenon called "Stockholm Syndrome" that you could look up. But this is no time to accumulate ammunition to fuel your anger alone. So get help for what may be a volatile situation, and, speaking from experience -- do some research and find someone RELIABLE before choosing a therapist!

Angel	you have self-denial, you need to know yourself more, and love yourself more, if you calm down and think what you really want this will help you to find out if you can continue your life with this guy who once you felt you are fallin in love with.. talk to professional person, maybe later you will find out you dont want to divorce him, and that its only a temporarily anger or hard time you are going through, like all of us..

zoe	It was something called the Stockholm syndrome i think, where you fall in love with your attacker. Because you married him, I dont think you can press any legal charges but I strongly suggest you leave him. If he was willing to do that then, he's probably willing to hurt you again, even if he hasn't in the past 3 years. I know it's hard, but that was a very serious thing he did and I dont think you should continue that relationship. Marry you married him because you felt guilty as well, although it was not your fault.

irinac33	That is a very dangerous situation you got yourself in to. If he has it in him to force himself on you without your permission, there is a good possibility that he will do it again. Maybe in the beginning it wont be so noticeable, but little by little, he may start showing his real self. If you feel that he wont lash out at you, I would suggest talking to him about it, but I can imagine that he will be baffled that you didn't bring it up sooner. Maybe he thinks he didn't do anything wrong? You should be ware of men like that. You might also want to go to a counselor with him and talk this thing through until you feel better about the whole situation.