I love my husband but Im miserable becaue Im IN LOVE with someone else what do i do?

chris f	YOU need to decide what is right or wrong. if you are not happy with your husband, then the right thing to do is either tell him and try to work it out, or leave him and let him get on with his life with someone that does love him!!!

zeke58	i was in a similar situation...all i can say is that you will continue to be miserable until you get the other guy out of your mind. Life always looks better when you think about it with the new person, but thats because when ur "in love" its hard to see clearly. You have a commitment to your husband and thats the only thing that matters. if you try to hold on to something, either emotional or physical, on the side with the other guy you will always be torn, and never happy. trust me, ive been there and it took way to long to learn my lesson. write me back if u need to talk more... gl

KG	Good thing you have your NAME under your avatar !!!!

notyochic	i feel bad for you i know how that is :( you need to do something about it before you become a hot mess!! do you have kids? because if so that is going to be part of your decision making process! if you don't than it makes things a lot less complicated for you which believe it or not is going help! if you don't love your husband in the wifey way than you need to show him some respect and tell him what is going on!! girl you need to step up here :) you can do this your a women you can do anything!!!

blondbrainserenity	Are you in love with the image of what life may be like with the other person? I hate to say it ,but the grass always does seem greener on the other side. But you know what? You have to water that lawn too and it is just as much work.

nisey0069	Get over it. Marriage is a sacred thing. It is not a light switch, on/off thing. You're in a committed relationship now. I think you should have thought of that before the leap over the broom. Good luck!

tersey562	Are you sure you aren't still in love with your husband and just a little bored or tired after being married for awhile? It's natural for married couples to go thru phases of being in love and out of love during the normal course as the years pass. Sometimes when we feel unappreciated or unloved ourselves we look to others who are willing to fill a void our spouse should be filling but may be unaware of the need because we haven't voiced it. Take a look at your husband and your marriage, could it be that you just need a little refreshing and strengthening? Remember, lots of people think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence but it usually isn't (just looks that way from this side). Work on your marriage for a month and if you still feel the same way as you do now, do something about it, but if things are changing don't lose a good thing over a little boredom. Good luck to you and God Bless.

peacelove&:)	i would stay with your husband because even though you may love that other guy you will soon get over him... my dad divorced my mom because he loved someone else also and it was really painful to my whole family

Tyrus	Enjoy it while it lasts;) LOL

dwb01	well all i have to say is if your that miserable then pack up and get out. sounds like your not going to be alone if you love this new person then you wont be lonely..

Starla_C	REMEMBER YOUR WEDDING VOWS AND CUT THE OTHER MAN OUT OF YOUR LIFE IMMEDIATELY!!!

cb	Get yourself some counseling so you can figure out why you feel the way you do and whether you should work on your marriage or not. It's hard to stay married but it may be worth it, so you should really get some help. In the meantime, you should stay away from that other person. Chances are that anything that happens between you will wreck your marriage. Relationships that start with cheating rarely work out anyway. Good luck.

Forlorn Hope - returned	ask for an open marriage, so he can have himself some too... or get a divorce... :D

Ms Brown Eyez	Be honest, and let him know that this it is not working. So, will you be able to be happily ever after with this person that you are in love with. It is probably not that much greener on the other side of the fence, so be careful.

stresshorse	GO see a counciler cause it is probubly be cause you never go out and i can understand that because i know some one who is going through the same thing dissuss this with him

Rose	cut of all ties with this other person. (are you in "love" with this other person... really? or are you merely in "lust" with him?) If you really love your husband you owe him that much. Concentrate on what you have not on what you lust after... because that may never be a reality. "love the one you're with..."

Katie	Well, hm. I'd say if he lives near you it's time to sit down and have a chat with your husband. (It's best to IM me with this one, check out my profile) You should just move, or if he's from the internet you should disconnect yourself from the internet... unless your not willing to. I mean when you get married you should marry the right person..

cope_acetic	You forget the other person. He's not as good as you think, you're only seeing the proverbial green grass. Stay away from him, and put all your energy into your marriage.

sweet	Get over it! You MARRIED this man, and I am assuming for a reason! Or do vows mean nothing to you!

Kait	Well if your in love with your husband, then you aren't in love with someone else. You can't love 2 people. You love either one or the other. Besides, till death do you party. remember?

sandand_surf	Sitck with your husband and avoid the other person, even if it ereally hurts. My guess is that it's more like infatuation and will pass if you don't keep "feeding the flames".

al bundy	If you got kids, don't shatter your family listen to your head. If no kids, listen to your heart.

â™¥poppy honeyâ™¥	what's wrong with your husband?? Get over who you are in love with, you are married! It's supposed to be forever, not "if I fall in love with someone else, we're done".

Jocelyn	wow , if you love your husband, then FORGET about the other guy. You have gained his trust, don't loose it and everything else just because of this other guy. Listen, if you really love your husband, you should seriously show it. You chose him, you didn't choose this other guy. To think about the bright side, you won't have to worry about it for long, life is shorter than you think ;) I like Tersey56's answer too! :P

missy	Hun, u ain't in love with your husband if you're in love with someone else. Save him some pain and divorce so that he can move on and find someone better

Tim	ever been to detroit?

radvair	well doesn't that make you special!

SHiZAY	GET A DIVORCE!!!!

photoguy1967	call me, we deserve to be together.

Alexis	Well, if you're sure you truly love this other man, and are not just infatuated with him, you have to leave your husband. You can't stay in a marriage out of pity, fear, guilt, or just the false pretense of love in general. There is also a difference in loving somebody, and being in love. I'm afraid you need be in love with somebody, rather than just love them, because frankly, you can "love" anybody.