I need serious advice. I'm married an falling in love with someone else. ?

silvergirl	You need to fess up to you husband and have a heart to heart about what needs this man id fulfilling that he is not. You are emotionally cheating on him and how would you feel if the table was turned. Start marriage counseling with a GOOD counselor and work through it. You will either stay with your husband and heal the damage and grow together, or move on to where you would be happiest. It is not fair to either one of you. Start a daily gratitude journal about how you love your husband and see if that gets your feelings moving. Good luck. In the end do waht makes you happy as you are the only one living with your anguish. If you were at the end of your life what would you regret.

50 somethin'	Hey Megan. Trust me, your not the first woman to have this happen to! Falling in love with another man while being a married woman does happen. A lot. It happened to me many many lightyears ago, and like you, I did not act on it! That takes strength. It will also take all the will you have to keep strong. But Megan, since you love your husband, and have been a faithful wife to him, you are unfortunately going to have to separate yourself from this other man. Quickly. Do whatever it takes to keep your marriage in tact and secure. The the sooner the better. The longer you wait to act the more intense you will feel towards the other man. And that's no good. You took a vow when you married and it sounds to me that you want and need to keep that vow. Breaking it would devastate you and the man you married. If your husband kept his vows to you, do the same for him. The curent feelings you have for the other will disappear with time and you will have passed the test of fidelity. Your marriage will become stronger because of your actions NOW. Good luck.

Victoria	Looks like someone jumped on the marriage boat a little too soon

SaMmie	What advice do you need? You already know what to do, if you are having guilty feelings, There's your sign, I believe you are wanting someone to tell you what you want to hear. That's not advice, that's someone please tell me to follow my urges, so I don't feel so bad. And, I hope that my answer does not insult you, but sometimes when people are is this situation they take honest answers as an insult! Your husband is not getting a fair shot at this relationship, what I mean is something is missing in your marriage if you've never done this before and you are shocked at your own urges. So invest all of this talk time you are having with this other man, into your husband, connect with him and figure out what's missing, a way you can tell is think about what you and this other man mainly talk about, you can take a negative and turn it into a positive.

Jasper's Alice	Ok, I'm personally not married...but I'll try my best to give you some advice....You need to stop before you get too deep into this. I'm not sure what you do religious-wise, but I would seriously be praying right now...I'm a christian, and I can honestly say that God does provide, but only when we seek His help. This is just another temptation that is being thrown at you...You need to remember what happened at your wedding...what vows you made...what promises you made...It might even help to go on a vacation (is possible) to think alot about this....Another thing to think about.....that about what would happen if the guy you "like" isnt what he turned out to be and you end up with a nasty divorce with your husband....then you have an even bigger mess than before. Or, for another example...what if you continue this and feel guilty every time you see your husband? Not only will in ruin you internally...it might end up ruining you physically. And, what if you end up divorcing your husband for this guy? Then, you might also feel guilty then...so, that just my advice and I'm still here to help if you ever need it...but thats just my opinion

mithu	Don't worry- you'll eventually get over him. It might just be a crush.

ahmed fairplay	Dear MARRIED wife You have answered yourself in your own letter Stop looking down on yourself Resist temptation and stop seeing the other man in the absance of your husband, You shall feel great selfesteam when you realise your selfcontrole. Good luck Fairplay

fire_dragon	my advice is either to face ur problem or ur fear of a problem by either talking to ur husband or just facing the other guy and not being friends with him if u no it might lead to something u will regret..

J L	most likely you are so hum drum on daily routines with your hubby that you kinda need some romance and mystery... personally you should talk with your hubby and tell him that you love him but you really need more from your marriage (like dates and special things to do together... it also helps if he would act like a boyfriend (no farts around you and closing the bathroom door) you just became so comfortable with your husband that he is a partner and sometimes people feel like they lost the boyfriend girlfriend dating when they are in the relationship for a while... My advice is to not tell your hubby about your crush, he most likely has had a crush or the hotts for another chick, but you wouldn't want to know that (I wouldn't!!! unless he cheated!!) I would cool your heals with this guy a bit, just tell him you need to spend some more time with your hubby, if he backs away nicely he may be a friend, if he acts a bit jeolous, he might have a crush and your mind may be reacting to that in a crush effect.. he may like you and you may not know it, he may be sending those silent body language cues and your subconscience may notice, but your conscience mind may react with a crush... j

TimmKitts	U R not alone I assure U.It is human 2 B attracted 2 other people.The trick is 2 keep remembering Y U R thankful 2 have your husband in the 1st place.Remember how U met,Y U laugh,& Y U fight. It might take a little bit of time but U will have 2 tell yourself that U don't want the other guy everytime U C him & remind yourself that he is insulting your husband by pursuing U. This is an extensive question that can't B fixed by some stranger on "Yahoo".The good thing is that U already know that what U R doing is wrong,U R just looking 4 confirmation.Good Luck

jed	think your best bet is to try and stay away from this other guy and try not to think about him, if it gets really serious then it might be best to tell your husband or maybe go to a marriage councelor (<spelling) if you do tell your husband break it very gently and say you have not done anything with him but you love him from talking to him and so on... hope this helps you and hope you make the right choice

B	Look its perfectly normal to have feelings like that when ur in a marriage, however as long as ur not lying to him about seeing the other guy and u haven't done anything with him, then don't worry about it. All your husband needs to know is that u are good friends, and if u feel like u might do something unfaithful then you need to stop being friends with the guy and focus more on your husband. But just remember you've done nothing wrong

Lucy W	This other guy may not be everything you think he is. Just be aware that you don't fully know this oher man, not as well as you know your husband. People don't always turn out to be what we think they are. Don't feel bad, you haven't done anything wrong. We all have feelings and can't always help them. If you do love your husband, don't risk losing him.

Jade W	Well it depends if the person is like somebody your husband know.Next you should not ever talk to that person more than your husband.If I were you i would not talk to him until I can get my head straight.

OGShelly	If you love your husband, by all means respect him. Society pushes you to be unfaithful, so that the family can be fragmented, this is the first step. Next steps are fights, and divorce. See the qualities in your husband, and put yourself in perspective, where do you want to be in the next 5 or 10 years, with him? if so, then avoid that illegal relationship, and try to see him as a brother. Go to church, and get advise, you'll see I am right. Go and have a good trip somewhere with your husband, and enjoy your family. Good luck, and God blessings. http://www.freewebs.com/ogshelly Oscar el Mexicano

TheMan	You have to make the difference between falling in love and having a crush on a person. that's the 1st thing... 2nd thing is... you have to think what would make you happier as a person and don't think about the other ppls feellings... and 3... if you do anything with this other guy make sure your husband doesn't find out... and usually situations like this never last forever... so.... it's a tough position... Think about it... as long as your hubby doesn't know anything about this.

staytrue	Maybe what you have it is Just chemistry with the other guy...you love your man but this other attracts you...do you have to see him a lot? can you try to avoid him more?

Sham's ID for Obama Nation	It's very simple. People want what they can't have. It's the forbidden fruit. It's nothing more than a cheap thrill that could have detrimental impacts on your life, then you wish you could take it back. Not worth it.

Bob B Â©	You can't have them both, so you need to decide: Do you want to stay with a man you know, and who loves you... or do you want to ruin everything you have now to chase a guy who might not work out.

Donna D	then you really don't love your husband nobody is going to feel sorry for you.either you need to stop talking to this guy or ask your husband for a divorce.your husband does not deserve this you should at least be honest with him.even talking to this other guy like all the time like you say you do is cheating how would you like it if it was your husband doing this.

Naysaâ˜†å½¡	my advise would be to cut all ties with this other man, you want to be with your husband and love your husband more, kind of treat it like a break up with the other man, just dont talk to him you can say goodbye if you like, but after that no more talking or your feelings for him may get stronger and you may do something you will regret. STOP talking to the man and the feelings you have for him will die down.

Melissa J	You have to stop talking to him, if you continue it will only make things worse. If you love your husband like you say you do..... you need to stop talking to the other man!

stfn314	Cut off all communication with the other guy. Duh.

Sam	It's called infatuation. Stop your relationship with him or it may ruin your marriage.

Ryan O	Your doing this to yourself (i cant stress that enough), but for what reason I have no idea. Cut it out.

Mawe :D et sa bien-aimÃ©e Suzume	You're the type of person that can never be trusted. Yeah, rate meeh down.

Danny	Well, just stop. Think about how amazing your husband is instead. If you start thinking about the guy, then just make yourself stop. Consciously start thinking about something else. Your marriage is more important than some guy.

lancearmstrong1313	you are probably just thinking "the grass is greener on the other side". Staying with your husband is probably the right choice. If you left him, you'd probably regret it pretty quickly...