I think my husband is having another affair, what should I do?

vance71975	Kick him, yes people can change im proof of that i cheated in my marriage BUT i have a woman now that i love dearly and would rather shoot myself than cheat on, from what you said it seems like he isnt intreasted in changeing and he has to want it not you so kick him and find a man that will treat you as well as you do him!

?	i feel sorry for you, but you shouldnt have to take it . but you also need to prove he is doing it again,saying that if he is up to his old routine, then..you dont sound like a stupid person ,<but he does by doing it again>. you need to decide is he worth it?, and i wonder how he would feel if it was the other way round? or even if he would care at all? i am a guy and i know i would hate it. hope it all works out for you. :)

Jenna D	I'm a firm believer of "Fool me once, shame on you, but fool me twice, shame on me" If he's doing it again, leave him. You cant be in a relationship where someone feels the need to sneak around on you. Be strong and you will come through it on top!

fever	Everyone is going to start advising you to leave him . I wouldn't. Please follow your heart try and win him back. And why do you say such horrible things about yourself. You need to improve on yourself esteem. Good luck.

luv him	Girl, don't let him do this to you. Better yet, don't let him even explain. There is no explaination for these acts. Pack his stuff for him, put it outside the front door and change the locks on the door. All before he comes home from work. Let it really sink in that you are not playing this time. give him a kick in the a**. A real reality check. He wants his cake and to eat it too. Don't let him. Let it be known that you mean business..

Me-Me	You have to be one step ahead of him like,show up on his job without him knowing it,like plan some romantic nights for him and if he turns you down then thats a sign,like try to follow him with out him knowing it ,leave the house before he does tell him you will be out for a while then stick around the house and watch.

rdhedhottie	Sometimes you just need a break, you need to find yourselves again. In a marriage, you can start losing the reality of who you once were, and time apart is the only way to find that. If you think he's cheating, and he thinks you're dumb, then show him you have some backbone and leave for a little while. Or ask him to leave, or get divorce papers and start filling them out and "accidently" leave them where he can see them. It will definately be a conversation starter, (if you know he won't get abusive upon seeing them).. Men do what they think they can get away with, if you ignore the problem, it makes it easier for them to do it. Noone deserves to be cheated on, once it's a learned behavior it's not easy to stop. You have to put your foot down and show him that it's not how you want to be treated or deserve to be treated.

Miss-Kenya	Another affair?? this is a wake up call girl......get that cheater out of ur house and if possible ur life..Once a cheater always a cheater. get a reality check woman??

185	get life on

Carole T	I was in the same situation for 33 years. Do not waste your life! Divorce him and you will not have to live a life of doubt and uncertainty!! He's not worth it if he is not a totally honest, above-board mate!

hado_hl3130	look, you just suspect him to be cheating, right? you should be calm at first, then re-consider your thoughts. are they sensible or not? a woman can make up some unreal things, just cos of her imagination and worries. talk frankly to your hubby is the best alternative. why? -you can know the truth then you can leave him or - you can know the reason (he might feel unsatisfied of you...) and you can heal your cracking relationship. i hope you can do the latter, which is really good for you

outback	i WOULD MOVE ON.....but, its all about u....good - luck

puresatin	Some people cheat to make themselves feel better. It's exciting and thrilling. Cheating can be very addictive and unless you confront him and threaten to leave it's highly unlikely that he'll change his behaviour. Just be very careful that if you threaten to leave... it may give him an "out" and be exactly what he wants... so be VERY sure that you don't want to be in the marriage anymore before the threat. ALSO... seek legal counsel. Good luck

eajake3	ask him.and if you have proof confront him with it.if he tells you he is,separate from him.and also get tested for std"s if he is cheating.no one can make your mind up except you if you take him back or divorce him.if you stay with him i suggest marriage counseling.

Tom	Hi Cynthia.. There's something missing for him. You need to find out what that is.. Then you have to ask yourself, can or do I want to supply it. Then look deep inside and ask how much do you love him.. From experience.. Make a decision and stick to your guns.. If the answer is leave/divorce.. I can guarantee that there is a better life for you out there.

doglady	If you think he is, he probably is. You can either put up with it like you have been, or call it quits. Why they cheat is a very good question. I guess because they can and don't think they will get caught, or they just don't care.

Ladder Captain-29	drop him, your self worth is worth that much-- find your true love elsewhere -- getting even is the perfect revenge but why have two lives miserable, get free and live for yourself and it you have kids live and love through them JMO

Glenn T	if you have caught him at this before ... why are you still with him ? Drop his sorry butt to the curb after you kick his testicals into his earlobes ! Then go insdie the house get a belt and whack your own butt for putting up wit hhis childish crap ! Seriously , DO not take this crap for him , toss him on ear outta your life for good.You deserve better and you SHOULD DEMAND more from your husband.He is the fool who cant keep it zipped up ! You move on before you get a desease from him .

Big D's Sexy Peach	another? why are you still with him, once a cheater always a cheater, forget it and move on you can do better

sandy	wow! you know what, if he's done it once before, he will most likely do it again. you need to ask yourself if you are willing to put yourself through this over and over again.

Phenomenal_Black_Woman	what you should do is ask him if he's cheating again? if he gets all defensive then drop the subject and either hire a private detective or you spy on him!

fk1m	Talk to him. If he is not ready to bugde then dump him.If you can earn a living and live independantly chuck that man out of your life. Give a damm hearing to what he has to tell you. Cheating a partner is the worst of all crimes according to me. All the best.

Kathy	If that's the kind of husband you have, kick his a** out the door. You don't need him. The world would be a happier place without men like him.

misydoll	I would leave him. You don't need to live with someone who is a cheater.

tom,dick,harry	Having"another affair"? how many affairs does your husband have ? Give him a warning or else just divorce him!!!

Bright	Use a private detective to collect evidence and decide whether to divorce or not.

phrensied	Another affair? You stayed after the first one?

Colleen	find out. trail him. get a copy of his cell bill and have that sent to your ____, in your name.