I want to leave my husband ..... I can't take it any more.....it must end or I will end!!! help!!!!!?

laurie	i would normally say try counseling, but he doesn't seem like the type that would want to do that, nor does he seem to really care about you if he continued his behavior even after your overdose. leaving him will probably be one of the best things that you have ever done. the sooner you do that, the more of your life that will happy and void of fear. i would contact a divorce lawyer as soon as possible. if you are a afraid that your husband might do something bad in retaliation, be careful but do not let that hold you back. notify the authorities if you need to. best of luck.

cybersleuth	Why do you put up with this abuse? Do you have masochistic tendencies? Wake up because you are obviously wasting your time keeping this man in your life. Seek someone who will cherish you all day every day.

thirtytwo_characters_2_work_with	You already know what you need to do.

free_angel	Don't be afraid to leave him. You can rebuild your life into some really beautiful. Don't worry about the "What if's." "What if I can't make it on my own, what if I fail, what if I can't do this." This man is not good to you nor is he good for you. You'll be alright. Taking that first step is always the hardest one but once you do, you'll be surprised at how much happier you are. Peace of mind, contentment, serenity, calmness....these things you can have in your life. But only if you do not let the fear over power you.

denikiaj	I just got out of a marriage like that in a way. you have to dig in deep and find yourself and get you and your child out. I also have a sister-n-law that's going through that to with my brother. Guess what? She is still there. I'm going to tell you like i tell her. You must love him that much because you are still there so why do you ask for help? The children are seeing to much and they are going to want to know why in the world did you stay there. So when you get really tried of all of that crazy talk you will leave. Please pray and ask God to show you what you need to do and if he (GOD) has to remove anyone from this so be it.

Shalom Yerushalayim Ã—Â©Ã—? ???? ??????	You need to call a 24-hr. crisis hotline to get resources that can help you. Or go to a Domestic Violence Shelter. I have been in that position many years ago and felt that there was no way out. But there is. You have to just get out and get help. It will not be easy, but it will work. Do it today. Don't wait. Once you find out what God thinks of the abuse, you'll know you have all of heaven backing you up! I would highly advise you to surrender your life to the LORD Jesus Christ. He is God and He will help you to a better life. Do it for your daughter if not for yourself. If you remain in this horrid nightmare, you are to be blamed for any further trauma your daughter suffers because of this abusive son-of-perdition you married. Get up, and get out. Make the DECISION to leave and don't look back!

xxadame09xx	no disrespect but since ur still with him when u have a computer science degree and a little girl then that kinda does make u stupid u need to start looking for a job and get out as soon as u can if u don't think u can do it u need to worry about ur daughter and how she feels i can see that u really care about her but if u really really care ull think about her and put her first in ur life because just like u think ur being traumatized imagine what and how ur daughter feels cause like u said shes 11 shes not dumb and there's no way u can lie to her to try and cover things up have some self respect and face ur problems!!!......sorry if i was too blunt i was just letting u know how i feel about the situation

Lost S	yea, Stop crying on line, get on line and look for a job in your field, once you find one take your self and you girl to a hotel then call him and tell him it's over. Or stay there keep crying and end up lost forever. How old are you then by now you should know better, and by staying you aren't showing your little girl how to be a strong woman, you teaching her how to cry. As long as you sit there with tears in your eye the more fun he has, stop his fun, Walk away. Show your little girl that tomorrow can bring a new beginning, you just got to want it.

Jenn	I think that since you already acknowledge that you are in a bad situation that is a GREAT start. Since you don't work is there any way that you can go meet with a lawyer or a counselor of some sort to start the separation process or maybe marriage counseling. You need to report your husband for abuse if he will do it to you eventually he will do it to your beautiful innocent daughter too! TRUST me on this please. there are many support groups and many organizations that can help, check out this site: http://www.verbalabuse.com/11.shtml Hopefully you get through this. I know how scary it can be to live in a house like that , i did it as a child and i resent my mother now for never leaving or getting us help. I suggest counseling for you and your daughter it will make the healing process a lot better.hope i helped

Pixie	If you have someone who is willing to let you stay with them while you get yourself set up, than GO!! There is nothing that anyone can do for you, it's all up to you! If your that unhappy you have to put yourself in your daughters shoes! Do you think that she is happy watching mommy and daddy fight like that? And then her mother (probably one of her best friends) is trying to kill herself!! You are only destroying her future by staying! Do you want to see her end up with someone that treats her badly? The longer you stay the more likely that outcome will be. Do it! Leave! Take control of your life and your daughters life! Create the possability of a happy future!

angel	for one i would leave you dont have too put up with that abuse.he needs help,you are not at fault.your daughter needs you.ive been there and its hard too leave but youll get through it.you are young and it looks like you can make it.just believe in your self

me	You need to scare him. Move in with a family member and go back to work. Some guys can't learn but if he really loves you he will come around. Your little girl does not need to be exposed this this. She has enough to worry about just growing up.

crkristy	Leave. Just leave. Go to family or friends to get yourself in a place where you can get some rest and then get a job. There are many great shelters to help you get a new start if family and/or friends are not options. Ask yourself what's keeping you in this situation and then confront it, deal with it, get moving.

Paul R	While it is going to be hard to do so, if he is verbally abusive you need to get help for both of you. If he won't cooperate, leave. You have to remember that you have a doughter that the abusive behavior is hurting also. Do you want her to grow up and expect that from anyone, If you don't get help, trust me she will, then she'll be in the same spot you're in and think that it's perfectly okay since mom did the same thing. You need to get help, it's the only way you'll survive.

tim h	Call an abuse hotline. Get to a shelter. You don't need that kind of bs. It's natural to be paralyzed by this. You are taking a step forward by recognizing that you are in an abusive relationship and need some help. You have to pick up the phone and dial. Good luck.

LadyRebecca	You've said every thing you need to say in your question....you just need to grow some balls and leave. Once you make the decision and walk out that door you will feel a 1000 ton weight lift off your shoulders. Pack your bags and walk. Plan it though so obviusky you have somewhere for yuand your daughter to go. In saying that, you do sound like a bit of an emotional train wreck from the was you described yourself. Perhaps you could leave your daughter with relatives or pack her off on a holiday with friends until you have sorted yourself out and bring her back so you can both start a new life

simplyenigmatic25	Since your husband verbally abuses you, you have every right to get out of a situation that is bad for you and your daughter. If you are interested in saving your marriage, see if counseling is an option - maybe it can be worked out. If you are sure it can't be worked out, try moving in with a friend or family member until you can get a job and get on your feet. Also make sure to be honest with your daughter about everything - she is old enough to know whats going on.

notgnal	see a solicitor now and move out...

conundrum_dragon	It will only get worse one day when he goes to work pack up and leave...

The Rebel	You need to get away from him. You deserve a better life and so does your child. She may be effected already. Give her a Chance and show her it doesn't have to be bad. LOL

pumpkin	TAKE HIM ON THE MAURY SHOW

Lady Geo	first get a councelor 2 help you find ur way.second get a job being out every day will help you a great deal.thirdly get a feaking lawyer before you really go mad with this idiot.its hard I know but take it one step at a time and it will all work out.but get away from him 4 your sake.

moneymoniecutie	well if its causing u stress yes leave him

moonlighteightythree	you need to protect the mother of your child, you. she will grow up to be beaten and abused just like you are showing her, this is what she is going to copy in her adulthood if you dont really show her a woman should have respect for herself. better to be healthy alone than sick with somebody else.

macausite	Relax, use Prolog to find out what option do you still have.

ak_melinda	You need to get yourself and your daughter out of that situation. I lived with my parents in that kind of environment and it as horrible. You need to start looking for your own place. God will help you out of that situation. God helped my mom get out. I'll pray for you and your daughter.

ROCKSTAR	do whatever you think is best for you and your daughter.

PAPA SMURF!!!	You have a degree - your husband's a d**k - so why aren't you gone yet?

milrenkb	I believe the ball is already rolling.