I went through my husbands phone numbers and called one now he wants a divorce. What do i do?

BeachBaby	Your husband will inevitably cheat again. You are setting yourself up for a lifetime of unhappiness and insecurity if you continue with this marriage. I don't believe in divorce unless there has been infidelity which is murder to a marriage. He killed your relationship which makes you not trust him and check up on him. You can't possibly want to live your life like this. If he wants out....open the door and let him go...you will be so much happier with someone who will take their wedding vows seriously and will love and honor you forever. Be done with him. Value yourself more than this! He is never going to change...but you can!!

Someone Else	wow...you have such a forgiving heart...a lot bigger than mine will ever be. Your husband is ungreatful and disrespectful to you. I hope that you know you deserve better and unfortunatly he will become some other woman's problem. He is a fool for not wanting to be with you but know that he has cheated on you once that you know of and he is cheating on you now. You didnt do anything wrong...he is acting mad at you because he is mad at himself because he got caught (again). Good Luck to you.

iSkeetSkeet	You need to move on with your life and grant him a divorce. Why continue on like this?

Bre	married 9months and already cheating and not caring. get out it is better in the long run. You love hium, but he doesn't love you. Sorry but the best thing to do for yourself is to find a guy who loves you.

sarah m	WOW What a Arshole

Cure for your blonde addiction	First off theres nothing anyone can say that will take your pain away. I feel bad for you and the truth is - your husband wants to play the field and doesn't wanna be married. If he wants a divorce there is nothing you can do mami. So keep your head up and go with the flow - remember, "What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger." In time when the pain from this is over you will look back and know the kinda man to spot to not get involved with and be thankful he's out of your life. Good luck to you.

Meow	i feel bad coz i;ve been through all this crap. it hurts sooooooo much. you can either learn to live with him and love and unconditionally. stop checking his bills and email accounts. or leave!! if you don't have kids, and you can live on your own without him, then its better to leave. coz cheaters never change. not after 20 years of marriage maybe after 30 to 40 years, he'll change but that will be too late. you'll look back at your life and think that you wasted so many years with this old peice of ***. so just talk to him about it. ask him one last time, if its his final decision then leave him and break his belongings tv, fridge, car etc* before you leave. bad joke. or just compromise. (think whats in your best interest and do that)

stuffys_sweets	If he's made up his mind, do you love him enough to let him go?

Mrs. Jack Sparrow â™¥	Sweetheart..do you really want to re-live this nightmare over and over, year after year? I know you think that if you stay things will change and his behavior will change..fact is, it is not in his personality to change and all he will do is become sneakier.. I know it is much easier said than done, but leave now..before you invest anymore time or heartache in this marriage and I know you may be embarrassed to throw in the towel and wonder what your friends or family may think, but remember this...the people who matter don't mind and the ones that mind don't matter..and face it sister a leopard doesn't change his spots!

The Sun is Shining â‚	If he wants out, he wants out. There's no point in trying to convince him. You know yourself how much you don't like people to convince you to feel a way you don't want to feel, so don't do that to him. Yes, you love him, but he doesn't have the same emotions for you right now. Maybe it's a short-term thing, maybe it's permanent, but, right now, he is set on his freedom. You're hurting a lot right now and trying to find a way to keep him, but, you know, the best thing to do is to let him go. He's hurt you enough, why prolong it any further? Good luck x

Puhleeze!!!	And what are YOU in all this? A wet rag? Your husband cheats on you & talks to other women which you FORGIVE & ACCEPT. Then he blames YOU for not trusting him & you accept that as well? Like a dog that's being beaten by its' owner? What is your problem? You need to gain some balls sweetie. He wants a divorce? LOL! Tell him he can have it & say it with authority. Actually laugh directly in his face. He'll come around trying to win your affection back. It's a joke. He only steps on you because you allow it.

alecia39 j	If it wasn't ment to be give him what he wants. Once cheat always a cheat. Maybe he was cheating before you both got married and didn't want to tell you.

Nina	There are too many men out there than to worry about the one who doesn't want you. Why waste your time when you can move on and be happier then before. Love yourself more and move on

dazed&confused	Okay why are you trying so hard to stay with this guy? He obviously has no remorse for cheating on you or otherwise he wouldn't be talking to other women. I think he's just using the phone call as an excuse for an easy way out. You need to ditch this guy and find somebody else that actually deserves you. If he's not going to put forth the effort and stop this behavior, this is hardly worth saving. I'm sorry to say. Good luck to you.

Smiley S	Yes..he has definitely made up his mind..and the truth is........you have been married for only 9 months and he has ALREADY cheated...chances are he will not stop...why would you want to be with someone like that?? Have you ever heard the expression..."if you love someone , let them go, if they don't come back to you then they were never yours..........if they do, then they are meant to be with you"? But , your case is a little different because he is already talking to girls and cheated...and I am sure he is still cheating!! I know it would be hard to let him go....but, you need to LOVE yourself FIRST ......and do it.......I know you don't see it now..........but you will be so much better off without him.........good luck!

prekinpdx	It sounds like he is controlling and not wanting you to find him out. That's a big overreaction! Divorce because you snooped on a guy with a record of cheating? He's trying to gain the upper hand and scare you into not snooping. He is hiding something, for sure, and I think he is still cheating. He wants you to feel bad for 'wronging' him instead of him fessing up to what he is doing. I hate to say it, but that's a reaction of someone who is cheating and doesn't want to get caught. If I were you, I'd try to have a heart to heart...tell him you need to talk and you'd like to do it without anger...that you want to be real. What are your expectations for him and for the marriage? What is he willing to allow so that you can trust him again? I think you guys need counseling if you want this marriage to survive...but I think you should take off...he's totally hiding something.

Dev	That's horrible! Not even married a year and he cheats on you!? Dump his butt. I understand you love him, and that it will be hard, but it does not look like he loves you. He is not committed to you, and is likely sleeping around behind your back. Find a guy who wants to commit to being with JUST you.

Angel	Darn honey. It happens to the best of us. He was happy to be caught out it seems and has already let go of your marriage in his mind. He wants to move on. I feel badly for you that you love him, even now. That's the hardest thing in the world probly, to love sum one who is unresponsive. Take care. You might have to accept this. Painful yes, but in the end, you'll realize that you deserve waaaay better.

Cherri	You should have called it quits the first time he cheated. This type of behavior is healthy for any relationship. You deserve better. Hold your head up and give this man a divorce. Go and find you someone that is worthy of your love.

alldonenow	There is nothing you can or should do, except pack his stuff. He needs to go. You need someone you can trust. Love is not always enough. He is obviously not going to stop playing around and he doesnt want the marriage anymore. You can't make him, I am very sorry, but it is probably over. Take care of yourself

wasaki	9 months? move on honey, cause he dont love you. sorry to be so blunt, you will be chasing this man around for years

Riley's Mommy	Sounds like he doesn't want to be together anymore. He's using you looking up the phone numbers as an excuse to make you feel bad. He's a cheater... you don't deserve to be with someone who cheats on you. It will be hard to move on, but you'll be much better in the future with someone you can TRUST!

Kevin R	Are you crazy ? Get rid of him and select a partner that has some morals . Now is the best time to start over , before any more time goes by .

Kakoii90	What is is you love about him? The lying? The cheating? He clearly isn't committed to you and wants out. Let him go. Heal yourself and when you're ready find a GOOD man who really loves YOU. I don't know why he married you but he really did you no favors. I'm sorry that he's so bad for you.

luvlisteningtomusic	Stop being a doormat. He was unfaithful to you and now you have suspicions. He is only telling you this stuff because you busted him again. Tell him go file and do not let the door hit you in the azz on the way out. Let him go so you can find a good man who is faithful and loving towards you.

Sam S	well hes an *** who doesnt deserve you

country chick	I hate to see a marriage fail, but once a cheater always a cheater. And if you stayed together, could you really ever get over that and stop checking up on him. You don't trust him if you're checking his phone and calling strange numbers on his bill, now do you?

â™¥uuÉuuÇÉ¾â™¥	Sounds like he's made up his mind, and is using you checking his phone as an excuse to ask for a divorce so he doesn't have to confront his cheating. In my opinion, you're better off without him...Good luck to you!!