If a casual friend I know asked me out for lunch and I want to go, is that cheating if I'm married?

doodlebug	Nope, it's just lunch. Let your wife know you're going so you have nothing to hide. And if you want to keep it strictly on the friends side of the issue, you eacfh pay for your own lunch.

J.D.	I wouldn't think it is cheating as long as you tell your wife and it remains only lunch. Cheating starts with secrets and lies. Better yet, to avoid any marital problems, bring your wife to lunch as well. If the friendship is truly a casual friendship, your friend won't mind. If she has a problem with it then she has other motives for asking you to lunch.

brainyack747	Not if you tell ur spouse and dont do anythiing NAuty

Loving.You	no.

klewless	consult your wife. If you do not consult your wife, yes you are.

karMA_DAME	I WOULD SAY NO. UNLESS THIS CASUAL FRIEND IS AN EX OR SOMETHING, THEN I CAN SEE WHERE YOUR SPOUSE WOULD HAVE A PROBLEM WITH IT. IT IS LUNCH AND NOTHING MORE. JUST SEE WHAT YOUR SPOUSE THINK. JUST BRING IT UP IN A CASUAL CONVERSATION "SUCH AND SUCH INVITED ME TO LUNCH" SORT OF WAY AND SEE WHAT THEY SAY

michele l	If your asking it probably is cheating. If you have any emotion attached to this person. Yes it is.

woolly worm	IT MOST LIKELY WOULD BE BEST IF THE ONE YOUR MARRIED TO KNOWS OF YOUR PLANS. THINGS LIKE THIS SOMETIMES LEAD TO JEOPARDIZING YOUR MARRIAGE.

heyitsme	it depends, >if you are going as friends for lunch and your spouse knows about it and is ok with it, then its cool >if you want it to be more then just lunch then thats not cool

filthy_crumb	Come on, man, you already know the answer. We men have 3 lists in our heads: [1] women we are dying to screw but haven't screwed yet, [2] women we have already screwed, and [3] women too hideous to screw. And we DON'T have lunch with 3's! That makes her a 1 or a 2. Which is she?

Mlady	I wouldn't say it was cheating if your spouse knows about it............... If you discuss it with them and they are ok with it, the that's a 'no' from me!

xyz	Not if you have talked to your husband and you are honest about it all and do not do anything.

Corrine	Tell your wife .... Tell her a friend of yours has asked you to lunch and you want to go ..tell her its nothing more. Then go with the friend to lunch.. Enjoy the lunch.. If you go without tellin your wife.....u kind of are cheating seeing your not suppose to keep things from eachother If you do tell her its not cheating at all Hey maybe the three of you can go to lunch!

rookie	If you are worried, mention it to your spouse and discuss it. It shouldn't be a secret and that will help ease your mind. Can your spouse go with you two?

mâ™¥j jazzy	its considerred cheating if you kiss her or have you know

Flower Girl	Just ask yourself, how would you fell if your wife went out with a casual friend for lunch?

E!	You should NOT do anything you wouldn't accept your spouse doing.

crazydaisy	no way!!! You're married but you're still an individual person with needs.

Krystell B	No, but as long as you don't kiss her/him or anything like that.

court	Its not cheating just so long as you keep it platonic and tell your wife about it. The situation can only be as bad as you allow it to become!

luscious_ox	If you think it is then it is, if you don't then it isn't since you have to ask, you obviously feel guilty, maybe you should ask yourslef why you feel this way

PG	It all depends on your intentions.

â™¥Kattâ™¥	You should ask your wife first. Then you will know if she considers it cheating or just crossing some lines. Either way, its about what she would think about it.

bsbrulez92704	no cuz u guys r just frends

slushpile reader	Not if you're honest. If you lie about it, there must be something to lie about. Know what I mean?

striker	not if u let ur wiffe or husband on it

Crying tears of geek joy.	Not if there are no ulterior motives and your hubby knows about it!